Partner spent my money and lied

[Lilly1812]

So i gave some money to my partner to keep in his savings account as he has a higher interest. I tried to open the same account but was denied. This is an inheritance given to my children by their late grandmother. I finally opened an account in their names and asked for the money back. He gave me different stories for a week. At first he said he has put some in a fixed term account so I said log in on ur app and let me see . He said no! Meanwhile he allowed me to see just a week before. This got me thinking that he has perhaps used some of the money. I asked him to tell me the truth but he insisted the money is there but he will transfer it when he's ready and he won't let me see his app either. After some back and forth and him making me very upset, he transferred some of the money. It is left with £5000. I asked him why he can't complete the transfer but he said he will do it. I persuaded him to just let me check to make sure he hasn't used it. He finally opened the app and I only saw £2000. I confronted him and he said he gave £3000 to his friend to invest in something and he should get it back by the end of the month. I'm so disappointed he lied to me for so long and also used my money without asking me. What can I do if I don't get the money back? I'm not talking to him as of now .

Yes, that’s a good point.

I’d be demanding the 2k back! If it’s in his account why can’t he send it you! I’d be furious

I suffer from severe health anxiety and when I'm panicking I need someone to vent to and im scared I will struggle if im by myself. The kids are very young.

Why are you being such a push over, get the £2k off him.

use your own back for anything ever again!! This is ridiculous cut him out of your life after this!

So he's let you down many times, you've lost faith in him but you've decided to give him the benefit of the doubt with money that doesn't belong to you. People might say you're stupid but you were savvy enough to not give him your money.

Ok, then demanding he transfer the balance now “or else” or getting your siblings involved isn’t going to move the needle.

I would still advise playing a long game here. I know you’re not currently speaking, but a little sweetly voiced phone call saying you’re sorry and he did a great investment decision and you can see that now blah blah blah. Then the bait of “once the children are made whole, let’s invest with some squirrelled away fund I have coming to me soon”

And you’ll be better off alone, regardless of the children’s’ ages. Look at the aggro this guy causes you. Your life will be so much easier without him.

of all things, you decided to give him the benefit of the doubt with your children’s money??

Are they his children?

Do you have messages where you have mentioned the money to him, when you asked to put it in his high interest account and why you wanted to do this. Or messages where you have asked him to transfer it and his reasons why?.
If you do then I would seek legal advice, one solicitors letter may put the wind up him enough to give you the £2k (which I assume he has but refusing to give to you?) and to set up a payment plan to pay the remaining £3K if he doesn't have access to it now.

OP, he may have gaslighted you in the past and you have forgiven him for various things he has done to you, but this isn't to you, this is your children he has taken the money from. Don't let this slide, what he has done is awful, but even worse because of where the money came from and who for.

Yes unfortunately! I thought he will be loyal to the kids atleast and make me gain some trust back.

Thanks for taking the time to clarify that and my apologies for assuming you were lying about your profession. So, yes, it technically is theft, but realistically, she probably won’t get anywhere if she pursues this legally (just my layman’s thoughts!).

No, it’s not “technically theft”. It is theft.

I never assume on here that someone isn’t a lawyer. Maybe stop doing the reverse.

Yes he let me see the 2k but he said he's waiting to add the 3k before transferring it even though I told him to transfer the 2k and add the 3k later. Yes I have evidence asking him for the money and why it was sent to him.

Have you got messages from him promising to pay you back?

Why give money to other people to “look after” when you can go and open a savings account in a bank, building society, post office, some supermarkets or online and the manage/ have full control ever yourself!

Yes

Yes

Trust no one.
But I am little confused as to the how? If monies were explicitly left to your children and distributed by an executor, the funds would by law need to be released into an account of their names only, so this couldn’t occur?

Im not getting at the OP, just reflecting on an earlier point about legal trouble from not safely passing on the funds, if the will left the money to OP with verbal understandings it’s for the kids, rather than directly to them, that legal issue goes away.

Then I would see if you can get 30 min free legal advice (a lot of solicitors offer this) to ask if it is something they can help you with.

I've replied to this question. I couldn't at the time but I've now opened the accounts in their names. The money should be returned into their newly opened accounts not to me.

In that case I think you could certainly use this as evidence in a small claim to show it wasn’t a gift.

it’s disgusting that he would do this in the first place, but to deprive his own children…

Is the 2k his wages in his current account? What does he do for work and how much does he earn?

My brother and I were the executors.

Harsh.. until I’ve seen he’s let the Op down before

Not sure but he told me that's what is left of the 5k