To ask for some support? DP disappeared and worried about an accident

[Ubadl]

DP does a weekly 4-5 hour drive each Friday and Sunday as he’s currently on a placement several hours away. He stayed a bit late last night as he wanted to chat to DS as he went to bed and then he set off at 9pm.

His battery had died before he left and he said he may not be able to charge in the car because of a dodgy connection. However he has work at 8am and is usually absolutely obsessed with being on time for work and I’ve not heard a thing. He always messages when he’s at hotel.

ive been googling accidents and having dark thoughts and just looking for a hand hold. Surely by now he’d have battery?!

If you are still worried then phone his workplace and insist on confirming that they check that an employee has arrived at the workplace or not. They have a duty of care to check these things.

if he’s at work, then that’s fine
if he’s not at work, then they need to start the ball rolling to find out why. And you will know either way.

Op the police can trace anyone through the registration plate easy to be in touch with you if anything has happened his iPhone is likely off I'm wondering if he hadn't packed his charger

You don't have to be married to be someone's NOK, you can nominate someone, and if you put someone as NOK on your GP records that is who they would contact. They wouldn't check the marriage register first!

Why are people posting without reading the OP’s posts??

She says the car isn’t registered to their new address and that she’s not his NOK so unfortunately they won’t contact her.

It doesn't seem like they're married so op wouldn't automatically be listed as NOK, and it doesn't seem like she's registered as NOK either. It would be hard to trace op in these circumstances. That said, I'm sure there's an innocent explanation.

As a contractor I would think it was different.

@Ubadl you are his partner if you feel something is off then work on that theory.
Unless he has had an accident and couldn’t communicate I am sure you would have found out by now .The police would even have charged his phone for an emergency contact . (Does he have a pass code )

Can I ask do you think he has been behaving differently lately or was he suffering mentally?
If everything seems normal then I’d still be going on the broken phone theory and trying not to panic.

the police checked my bil, i am not married to him, and they did a home visit.

I’ve just reread your op and his phone died before he left. That’s why he can’t contact you!

Btw when I rang about a welfare check for someone I was concerned about, the police told me to go and check on them myself.

Does he have 'last online' status visible on WhatsApp?

I would also be going out of my mind with worry. You know this is not his normal behaviour. I hope he contacts you soon

A person is missing as soon as they are missing. Doesn’t matter how long it has been. Out of the norm lack of communication after an overnight drive, with a hotel which won’t answer a simply question around check in is something the police will check (which I know from experience).

Is there anything else going on? as you are so worried -do you think he has disappeared. do you have children and own your house together?

It seems odd that he left with a dead phone and hasn't charged it, especially if he needs it for work.

I know it's impossible not to worry - it's natural. But you can be 99.999% sure he's had a breakdown, or the phone's stopped working altogether, or all kinds of things have conspired together. He'll be in contact soon and then you can get mad as hell...

Thank you everyone. I am feeling worse and worse as time goes on.

He was perfectly happy when he left so the only concern I have is that he was extremely tired and people can fall asleep driving…I worry about that anyway but he was especially tired yesterday.

It is very unlike him not to charge his phone when he gets in (it’s been playing up for weeks) and at the very least I would expect him to drop an email.

The police have information sharing protocols with lots of different organisation. I worked for my local council and we regularly received information requests from the police. They would know his name from DVLA - if he has a bank card or driving licence or other documents on him they can soon track down his address. Try ringing the police to see if they are aware of any accidents along his route. I hope he turns up soon safe and well

@summerscomingsoon no I don’t think anything is going on or that he’s tried to disappear.

try and take your mind off it op

It sounds like OP is worrying is because the lack of contact is unusual rather than a controlling need to know her partner's whereabouts.

My loved one was killed walking across the road 200 miles from their home we were notified in 4 hours

im sure you will hear soon and can give him a bollocking for not having a power pack with him

ring his work

It was the M6 north that he was on past Preston

It sounds like he’s been having issues with his phone for a long time. Maybe that’s it finally gone and it’s thrown everything off. Give him some time the chances are he’ll be in contact as soon as he can.

Hope you hear from him soon and when you do get him to get a wireless charger whilst his internal connection isn’t working.

Sometimes it take a phone ages to charge up and use after it has completely used all the battery.

If it’s the connection to his phone that is actually broken, then it’s highly possible that he can’t actually charge his phone hence why he can’t call you. Does he know your mobile number off by heart?