To ask for some support? DP disappeared and worried about an accident

[Ubadl]

DP does a weekly 4-5 hour drive each Friday and Sunday as he’s currently on a placement several hours away. He stayed a bit late last night as he wanted to chat to DS as he went to bed and then he set off at 9pm.

His battery had died before he left and he said he may not be able to charge in the car because of a dodgy connection. However he has work at 8am and is usually absolutely obsessed with being on time for work and I’ve not heard a thing. He always messages when he’s at hotel.

ive been googling accidents and having dark thoughts and just looking for a hand hold. Surely by now he’d have battery?!

So pleased your worries are over! Have a cup of tea and a couple of biscuits to steady your nerves😊

OP, get a landline plugged in just incase it happens again.

It's easier to memorise the short number and he could've rang you from reception.

Glad it's all worked out.

The next person to post suggesting OP calls the police or the hotel or his work or her DP should have their internet access revoked for the rest of their life. I’m sorry, I don’t make the rules.

So glad it turned out ok

My DS bought me a £15 battery pack from Amazon. Fully charged, I was able to charge my phone from it 5 times before the pack needed recharging. It is smaller than the phone, so easy to keep in my bag when travelling. Absolute game changer.

I'd probably hide the thread if I were you because there'll be loads of people just replying to the opening post, and not realising he's turned up 😁

Yay OP! So glad it was just a dead battery.

Turns out the most bonkers thing in this whole thread is the poster who carries a burner phone around!!

So glad he is safe and well.

I would just say though that driving "exhausted" is a really dangerous thing to do. He would be better getting to bed at home and setting off early morning after some sleep in future.

Not "bonkers" at all.

A small phone takes up very little space in a bag or a car or an inside jacket pocket.

I live in a part of the UK where the 4G signal can be weak. If I want to make a call on my smartphone, some days I have to go outside or hang out of an upstairs window but I can often get a signal on the small phone.

So glad all is well. Send him a link to this thread

I think that this should compel him to change the address on the car, which is illegal to not do anyway and sort out the NOK situation. If he is taken to hospital, they don't have to share any information with you. I am my partner's NOK because as his close, blood relatives, his family, can get information. I can't because of a lack of legal connection.

Or he could just - write her mobile number down?

Anhyway OP, glad he's safe and well.

Now that you're less worried, I want to go back to something you said earlier - that there is in fact no concept of "Next of kin" in English law. Get Powers of Attorneys signed, and wills, as you're not married.

Oh I'm so pleased to read your update OP!

I can't even imagine how stressful this will have been for you.

The op needs to address issues, and if my husband carried on like this he would be told i am not a child and stop being dramatic, it all sounds very controlling

This post has shown us just how many people don't read the original message correctly. I haven't counted how many duplicate posts there are on here saying 'contact hotel/work/police'. What a waste of space!

Yes. Contingency plans aren't "bonkers". This thread should confirm that.

That's a different reason for carrying two phones. It's reasonable to do that if the signal is dodgy in your area and the burner gets a better signal. But to suggest that everyone should do this just in case their main phone goes out of action is a bit bonkers. I live in a very remote area so I generally lean towards "be prepared" but there's a limit.

It really isn't burdensome.

@Ubadl I'm so happy to hear this! I've been checking for updates. You must be weak with relief.

I'm glad that he is OK OP.

When you're calmer I think you need to talk to DH about driving when he is utterly exhausted. No one should be driving if they are at risk of falling asleep at the wheel.

Also, does your DH has any idea of how worried you were? If so, why has he not prioritised sorting his phone battery out and why did he not find some way to let you know he was OK. If my phone had died but I knew someone was expecting me to let them know I'd arrived safely (especially after driving exhausted) then I'd find a way to contact them.

If he doesn't know how worried you were then you need to let him know so you can put a plan in place.

He could but if he lost his wallet and phone for example, it's easier to recall a short landline number that's etched on your brain.

It's only one digit shorter than a mobile number, though?

ETA: Actually scratch that, a landline number is the same length as a mobile number!

Assuming you know your area code it's not?

Well mine isn't anyway, it might be different for others.

My mobile number is 11 digits.

My landline (minus area code) is 7 digits.

Glad all is Ok Op.

What use would a land line be if he couldn't remember the number or as in this case had no working phone to call with?

If he knew Op's number her could at least have called from the hotel last night or this morning!

This, my relative had a long term partner (20 years) not married, he lived in her house for 20 years so she was shouldering the majority of his living expenses. Fully involved in her family life, parties, Christmas, the growing up of her grandchildren. She cooked and cleaned and did all the things a wife traditionally does. He referred to her as his wife to medical staff. He died and it turns out he has a couple of million because she’s been paying for his lifestyle for years and years and she was left with nothing.