To ask for some support? DP disappeared and worried about an accident

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DP does a weekly 4-5 hour drive each Friday and Sunday as he’s currently on a placement several hours away. He stayed a bit late last night as he wanted to chat to DS as he went to bed and then he set off at 9pm.

His battery had died before he left and he said he may not be able to charge in the car because of a dodgy connection. However he has work at 8am and is usually absolutely obsessed with being on time for work and I’ve not heard a thing. He always messages when he’s at hotel.

ive been googling accidents and having dark thoughts and just looking for a hand hold. Surely by now he’d have battery?!

Why doesn’t he have a works mobile, especially if his own if so unreliable and he works off site?

It seems strange in this day and age! Especially with long journeys and working away etc .

'His car isn’t registered to this address as we literally just moved about three weeks ago and it is still registered to his properly he is about to rent out! '

can you go there ?
and ask the neighbours if the police have been round or if they have seen anything.

Hoping for a good outcome with this.

This is bonkers. Who wants to cart two phones around on the off chance one of them stops working? Many of us remember the days when there were no mobiles, we managed just fine.

OP, I hope you hear from him soon.

I worked for a big hotel chain in the 90s and they use to do that, potentially times have changed.

Do you think?

Hope you hear from him soon

If not already suggested- contact the police and ask if they can do a welfare check.
Hotel can’t share with you but they can with police who can confirm back to you he is safe

Hi OP, hopefully he has just oversept and wil be in touch soon.

Agreed.

When FIL died in the 80s on the Friday night we were living in a caravan park as we just relocated cities and we went camping for the weekend, no one could contact us. It wasnt until my mother rang my work on the monday morning to tell me my FIL had died (MIL didnt have my work number but had been in contact with my mother). That was life back then.

I would be upset/annoyed/stressed too OP. From the outside looking in I do believe he’s either still asleep as his phone didn’t charge so the alarm didn’t go off (plus he’s exhausted and in a comfy dark hotel room), or he’s been put straight into a meeting or something at work after possibly arriving late and hasn’t looked at his laptop yet.

If I had been the person on reception I do think I would have tried to be a little more helpful with ringing around to try find him, but maybe they have their own stresses etc. Depends on the workplace.

There are some astonishingly unkind, unhelpful, unintelligent posts on here.

OP, I too would be worried if this was my DP in these circumstances. But there is very likely a simple explanation and all will be well

I’m sorry you’re so worried OP.

Hopefully you’ll hear soon, but you could maybe call the hospitals local to the area and see if he’s been admitted? If you haven’t heard from him by lunchtime I would also consider calling the police.

Most likely his phone finally didn't charge at all. Police would have contacted you somehow by now if there had been any kind of accident

This sort of thing is why I insist on keeping a house phone plugged into the landline.

We never use it, but we've all memorised the phone number so if anyone needs to borrow someone else's mobile they can ring and say their battery is flat or whatever.

It's possible he has tried to send you a message and not realised it hasn't been sent. So he won't have emailed you if he thinks he has already been in contact. Also, would he normally check personal emails while at work? So again may not know how worried you are. Hope you hear from him soon.

I am really confused as why you havent contacted his place of work?

It's a 4-5 hour drive though, so that's a lot of hospitals to call given OP wouldn't know where anything might have happened.

Annoying and upsetting as it is, the best thing is to wait for contact, as almost certainly things will be fine. Second best option is to ring his work again and stress that you need them to find him on site and say he should contact you immediately to reassure you.

I can understand worrying, but I think the police would have been in touch if there was an accident.

Most likely there's an issue with his phone.

Is hard, but can you try to focused on something else for a while? The chances are he'll be in touch by this evening.

I am exactly the same in these situations. My brain just goes spinning out of control and assuming the worst. But worrying doesn’t change the outcome. And chances are the outcome will be fine. Hope you hear something soon OP.

Yes that's all good and well but it's not life now, so it's understandable that people who've got used to being constantly in touch have a different response. This particular example also isn't the same at all - it's very easy not to be anxious about things you don't know about.

Can you contact his family they may have heard something.

i agree, take care op

I'm really confused as to why you haven't read the OP's replies?

She has. She’s waiting a call back