To ask for some support? DP disappeared and worried about an accident

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DP does a weekly 4-5 hour drive each Friday and Sunday as he’s currently on a placement several hours away. He stayed a bit late last night as he wanted to chat to DS as he went to bed and then he set off at 9pm.

His battery had died before he left and he said he may not be able to charge in the car because of a dodgy connection. However he has work at 8am and is usually absolutely obsessed with being on time for work and I’ve not heard a thing. He always messages when he’s at hotel.

ive been googling accidents and having dark thoughts and just looking for a hand hold. Surely by now he’d have battery?!

For all you know, OP, he has messaged you, but due to his phone being rubbish it hasn't sent. Although he thinks it has, so that's why he hasn't emailed you.

If you're that worried, and there's no other way to find out, contact the police non-emergency number and ask for a check?

Same. I have kept mine as my dc (now adult) know the landline number by heart. When eldest was out and about late at night as a teenager, he would sometimes call on the landline to say his phone was out of charge but that he was fine and on his way home (he would borrow a mates phone).

I also keep a little laminated note in my bag with all my loved ones mobile numbers printed on it as I don't know the numbers by heart. When my dc went away to festivals when young etc. I always wrote my mobile number down and put it in their bag.

The problem nowadays is that yes, multiple ways to contact someone but all reliant on phone or laptop.

I did, I must have missed it. No need to be an arsehole.

Hope he turns up x

If he hasn't managed to keep one phone charged what's the chances he would have his spare phone(s) charged up?

@DiamondThrone is right. It’s been addressed numerous times on this thread.

Hotel privacy would surely allow a message to him, that they slip under his door. They don't even have to confirm he's staying there.

My guess would be he pulled into services to sleep and woke up late for work. You say he's very conscientious, so it's head down at work, contact you later. He may even work through lunch break if I'm right, so try not to worry until work finishes.

Could you call police & ask for a welfare check stating that hotel.etc won't give you any info?

Unfourtantely, I think that is part of society problem now as we are use to tracking every move. I am guilty of it myself as my adult dd lives two hours away, and I get nervous if she's only slightly late even though rationally she's probably just had a longer pit stop. When DH worked away years ago the alarm bells would only start to ring after an hour or so as I didnt know his exact set off time.

Yes, we should never start that notification we're home habit. If they forget, we worry. Daft too as my daughter messages after leaving my place, but I don't have a clue where she is the rest of the time.
I once asked her something, and she replied she was in Germany. Took up on a cheap flight on the spur of the moment.

A few hours ? It’s been 14.

I am sure he is absolutely fine and just forgot to charge his phone but I would be anxious too OP. Fingers crossed he's okay.

Just heard from him, phone wouldn’t charge and he had to sleep when he got back so only just got battery now. He did apologise and said he’d get a new battery sorted. I am relieved and exhausted. THANK YOU to everyone who posted in support I am so grateful

Hurray! Thank you for updating us.

Glad he is OK. I would have been worried too.

All good! Now relax! Lesson learned, though.

Thanks for the update. so glad he is ok

Brilliant OP!!

I don't know why people don't buy a cheap pay as you go "burner" phone as a back up. I have a smart phone but currently have a couple of PAYG basic mobiles and I always take two phones out with me.

I don't want to carry two phones. That's too much to expect. I hope OP gets answers soon.

Ah, brilliant!

So glad to read your update, OP.

Go And have a cup of tea and relax. I’m sure this is the last time you’ll have this worry.

That's great he is back in touch. I do think you need to seek some kind of mental health help though - it is not normal to catastrophise as much as you have been, most people would assume it was phone issues, especially as you already know he has battery issues, and would have needed some sleep asap.

Thank you so much everyone

Thank you so much for letting us know, treat yourself well today after your worries 💐