AIBU for deleting the FB comment?

[ThisFastEagle]

So my son just bought his first house and I'm beyond proud! He's worked hard for this and it's a huge achievement. I posted a congrats message on FB, tagging only him, and mentioned how this has always been his dream. His fiancée commented on the post saying 'we're excited for our home' and 'we're looking forward to this next chapter'. Thing is, the house is in his name only due to her credit issues. I felt like she was overstepping and taking credit for his achievement. We've had a long distance thing going on initially when he moved for work and she later joined him. I deleted her comment and had a word with my son about it, asking him to maybe clarify my intentions to her. Was I wrong to do so, or was her comment just a bit much?

This is fixing to be a wonderful in-law relationship 😂😂😂😂.

Let me guess...you don't like her? And she's not good enough for your special little prince?

Cut the apron strings OP

Totally lol.

Still it's passed a bit of time on a Sunday.

You did WHAT??? 🤣

Wow. You just don’t see it, do you.

that’s some thick skin you’ve got there.

But it is about them as a couple, moving into their new home.

I don't know. It is all very rum.

It's her home too.

Look you realised as soon as you deleted it you stuffed up hence you called your son.

Your son has gotten defensive and supported his fiancée. That's the reason you have posted seeking back up only for people to tell you the deletion was misguided at best and downright nasty at worst.

If you had made this thread about how you realise you have stuffed up and how can I make this right I would have respect for you. But the doubling down is ridiculous and making you look worse each response.

So you've managed to upset your son and future dil in a single sweep. Maybe reflect on that rather than being defensive? These are presumably people you want a good relationship with moving forward?

You got what you deserved from your son. What you did was bitchy and uncalled for. You shouldn't have deleted the message from his girlfriend, what purpose did that serve other than to make you feel better? It's their home and if you wanted to congratulate him on only him buying it you should have done this to his face and not made a public show of it.
By deleting her message how do you think it's made her feel?

For gods sake she hasn’t “shifted the focus” she just made a a sweet, innocent comment on a Facebook post.

If you’re that bothered about your precious mother son moments, and don’t want them being tarnished by other people, maybe DONT do it publicly on Facebook and just tell him to hai face that you’re proud of him.

You did it on Facebook to make it aaaall about you, and now you’re upset because you think that’s what his girlfriend is doing.

Indeed. The poor girl made a cheery comment in response to her future mother-in-laws post, and had it thrown straight back in her face. The son is peeved and rightly so.

I think you owe her an apology @ThisFastEagle

To go back to your initial question, yes you were wrong to delete her comment. She was not taking glory away from your son or trying to take credit for it, but instead said she was excited for the future. I think you owe her and your son an apology. If you want a good relationship with your son and his fiance / wife, you need to read a lot of these replies and have a good long think about how you react to things. Don't double down, apologise and send them BOTH a house warming card / gift.

A lot of my friends in their 20s say they have easily saved their future house deposit but say they need a partner to contribute 50% to be able to actually afford a house.

Maybe he wouldn’t be able to afford it without his future wife.

You need to be careful OP. You are going to end up not seeing your son and not being aware of his accomplishments at all if you carry on like this. I'm not sure if this is just a wind up about an "awful MIL" story.

No one needs to know the financial situation though, do they? My parents gave us a big chunk for our deposit as we couldn’t afford it but still sent us both a congratulations on our new home card 🤷🏼‍♀️ maybe they should have sent it to themselves?

What an extraordinary thing to do and what an odd way of viewing your son’s relationship. I can’t imagine being so vile to a future DiL.

YADBVU

She didn't say it wasn't, she didn't say anything negative about your post, if anything was agreeing and talking about how excited she was about this next chapter for them and their new home. Which as his fiance, STBW it is their home even if it was bought with his money.

Noones said you shouldn't be proud of his achievement just that its weird that you deleted her happy comment. Don't be that MIL

YABU to delete her comment

"We've had a long distance thing going on initially..."

We who? This is really weird.

You’re jealous of the fiancé aren’t you ?

Presumably it will be her home. It doesn't matter whose name it is in.
What a strange way to behave towards your future daughter in law.

Jesus - what the fuck is wrong with you?

Pathetic

If your son and DIL have children in the future, will you give your DIL due credit for looking after them and the home to enable him to carry on with his career, if that is the arrangement they come to?