AIBU for deleting the FB comment?

[ThisFastEagle]

So my son just bought his first house and I'm beyond proud! He's worked hard for this and it's a huge achievement. I posted a congrats message on FB, tagging only him, and mentioned how this has always been his dream. His fiancée commented on the post saying 'we're excited for our home' and 'we're looking forward to this next chapter'. Thing is, the house is in his name only due to her credit issues. I felt like she was overstepping and taking credit for his achievement. We've had a long distance thing going on initially when he moved for work and she later joined him. I deleted her comment and had a word with my son about it, asking him to maybe clarify my intentions to her. Was I wrong to do so, or was her comment just a bit much?

You’re showing your future DIL who you are. She needs to take note.

Probably would have been better if you had just told him how proud you were face to face when he was on his own.

Strange reaction OP to delete the post, considering the fiancé paid rent while your DS saved.

You break their trust and security, posting to FB and make a huge deal and spin a story that isn’t quite a true reflection of the circumstances. And instead of accepting it was overboard, you delete future DIL’s comment to continue your fake news.

Hopefully they will be more careful in future to include you in any updates. Sounds like you already have made problems for yourself.

What an absolute cow you seem to be.

If I was FDIL I'd of commented saying yes we are so lucky to be able to move into a new home after the sacrifices and saving 'we' have done. After all without her financial contributions DS would have still been paying full rent and bills throughout meaning it would have taken a significantly longer period of time.

Im so pleased DS wasn't impressed with you and has some loyalty to his wife to be.

Here's hoping she gets all the credit for birthing any future children. After all he won't have contributed by your logic

This ⬆️

If / when they have a child, and you’re excited to meet your grandchild. And DIL isn’t forthcoming with having you around during those first few weeks, remember this moment.
This kind of behaviour, is why.

Then you were having a dig at her for having poor credit? I think you should apologise to avoid further damaging your relationship with them. It'll only get harder when they have kids. Sorry YABU.

Did you refer to yourself and your son as 'havinh a long distance thing going?'

Do you mean 'my son moved away because I'm overbearing and borderline emotionally incestuous'?

Only read op, away to read the rest

It'll be half hers! And if he dies it will be all hers.
You were unreasonable to delete the comment as it will be their home.
I'm assuming she will help him move, choose furniture, decorate etc.

You sound mean, OP.

So she paid the rent while he saved up! It’s THEIR accomplishment not just his. He put the money down because she paid the rent and that’s how he was able to. If it wasn’t for her they wouldn’t have a house now. What are you not getting about that???

Apologies if this has already been said but I have to wonder why son felt he had to share his fiancée's credit record with his mother. 🤔

Weren't you on here not too long ago moaning that you gifted your son money and he had the audacity to spend it on something for his wife/fiance/girlfriend?

I can't be arsed to RTFT. Is she paying anything towards this. Either in mortgage contributions or bills?

I seems to me that as well as publicly bragging about how amazing your son is, your post was also a dig at your future daughter in law who wasn’t part of the “accomplishment” and when she commented about how she’s benefiting from it that really put your nose out of joint. That may or may not have been her intention when commenting, depending on how much you’ve made your feelings about her known.

Yeah . That was a low shot and I hope your relationship with your son can recover from this before your grandchildren arrive . Yeah . Your son done good, with the woman he loves by his side, you obviously don’t like her and you will reep what you sow .

Do you think he is proud of you right now?

Thank the lord youre not my MIL 😆

“we're excited for our home' and 'we're looking forward to this next chapter'.”

OP, she didn’t say anything about ownership of the house. She said she was excited about her HOME - which it will be - and the next chapter, which includes marrying your DS. I’m sorry to say you’ve behaved like the worst sort of MIL. To tag your son is fine; to delete your FDIL’s comment is outrageous. She will most certainly have noted this - and it will count against you. Do remember that when your DS and she are married, she will be the mother of your DGC, and if you upset her, you won’t get to see them very often.

@ObtuseMoose In bucket load's.

Imagine how peeved you'll be when she divorces him and keeps the entire thing..

Yes, this came across all too clearly.

How to take the shine off of a happy new start.
House warming gift ideas anyone??😂😂

@ThisFastEagle i think your wrong and from your responses you don’t. I purchased a house without my partner on the mortgage due to credit issues. Honestly she will already feel like the house isn’t truly hers, and your son like me will be doing everything he can to involve her so she can do. It’s an awkward situation to be in, I felt terrible he couldnt be on the mortgage and I’m sure your son does the same, I made sure he was involved in every house viewing, every furniture purchase, every single piece of decoration. Then by you singling out your son on your post however intended will in my opinion hurt both of them, as for them they probably see it as very much their house or at least he will.

Yes I agree - I have an aunt that likes to loudly tell people about her “successful lawyer niece” when my parents don’t even do that and she had nothing to do with my education or career. If she posted on fb I’d report her 😂

I think there’s some people who like to share these things and if you know them well enough to sit in their living room over a cup of tea, they admit that they posted to spite someone they know…. A neighbour, ex colleague, cousin, sibling… “I wanted to share because Sheila across the road, her daughter took them to Spain so I shared you took us to the Maldives” type vibes…. Not for me, but I’m very aware being use social media to engineer subtle “middle fingers up” messages to others, who half the time don’t care or notice 😂😂