AIBU for deleting the FB comment?

[ThisFastEagle]

So my son just bought his first house and I'm beyond proud! He's worked hard for this and it's a huge achievement. I posted a congrats message on FB, tagging only him, and mentioned how this has always been his dream. His fiancée commented on the post saying 'we're excited for our home' and 'we're looking forward to this next chapter'. Thing is, the house is in his name only due to her credit issues. I felt like she was overstepping and taking credit for his achievement. We've had a long distance thing going on initially when he moved for work and she later joined him. I deleted her comment and had a word with my son about it, asking him to maybe clarify my intentions to her. Was I wrong to do so, or was her comment just a bit much?

You sound like a great MIL 🙄

I’ve just switched to “see all” posts from you. You’re very much one of ‘those’ posters who asks AIBU, then all replies say you are in fact BU and you reply adamantly that you’re not and your future DIL is the one in the wrong.

In a few years, I’m sure we’ll see a post on here from your DIL about her MIL sticking her nose in and crossing boundaries.

Er, no, they wouldn't.

You sound unpleasant.

You sound just like my mum. Get prepared for future no contact with your son! It's not your achievement, no need to post it on Facebook at all. Your future DIL will come above you and upsetting her will upset your son. When she has a baby, that'll be her solo achievement right and you won't be able to brag about that because she did all the work.

Maybe they didn't want anyone else knowing that only your son paid for the house? It really wasn't your place to tell!

No one said you can't be proud of your son but you then decided to be a Fecking CF and remove a perfectly reasonable comment from his fiancee! She said"we're excited for our home' and 'we're looking forward to this next chapter'.she is going to be moving in to this house and so it will be their home..she did not claim that she got the mortgage. So you asked the question AIBU? He'll, yeah!

When me and my now ex-husband bought our first house, the mortgage was in his name as my credit rating was awful. However, I still paid the mortgage on a 50:50 basis so just because someone isn’t on the mortgage, it doesn’t mean they’re not contributing.

And despite me not being on the mortgage, I still got half of the house when he left me for another woman.

"We've had a long distance thing going on initially..."

"We've..."

Freudian slip there OP?

You are being a total arsehole.

This is the woman your son loves. This is your future DIL. Mother of future grandchildren. 😳

Yes that’s how I took her comment as a passive aggressive remark of hello I’m his fiancé and you forgot to tag me. I did apologize to my FDIL for deleting her comment and she said it wasn’t just that I deleted her comment but that I didn't tag her in the first place as she should by her fiancé’s side through the whole process and will be supporting them as a family unit together in her own way and she paid rent in the apartment to help my son save up to buy the house and they are a unit one. I apologized and have since added her to the post. I see her point but deep down I’m like but it was my son whose name is on the house bc of his money but I’m learning it’s best to keep my mouth shut and acknowledge them as a unit bc that’s why my son and FDIL expressed.

Too right, but why you posted on FB, I've no idea. You were congratulating him on the purchase, not the moving in.
When my daughter bought her first house, which her boyfriend would be living in, I told her well done and how pleased for her I was. I said nothing to the boyfriend.
I didn't tell her I was proud either. An overused word by parents. I had no input, what have I to be proud of? She did it, she worked the 14 days straight of 14 hour days.
As your future daughter in law is uncreditworthy I hope she signed to say she has no claim on the property, yet! Also that his deposit is ringfenced in case of marital breakdown within five years.
He's good with money and she has the same benefit of the home, paid for by him?
Think she has a nerve sending you that message. It's between you and your son.

Yikes.

Is she going to be paying by towards the mortgage but not have her name on it?

What absolute twollox, if you wanted to congratulate him on his achievement all you had to do was lift the phone and tell him you're proud of him.

Posting about it on Facebook is a bit naff, but to then delete her happy message?

Ugh. Ugly nasty petty thing to do, keep this up and you might find yourself grey rocked. And rightly so.

Your son was only able to buy the house because SHE CARRIED THE FINANCIAL BURDEN SO HE COULD SAVE.

Does that mean nothing to you?? They did this TOGETHER - but you are choosing to totally ignore and minimise her contribution.

You’ve put your cards on the table well and truly. Good luck with any future relationship with your FDiL. You’re going to need it!

Why did you ask?

You still don’t get it!
You deleted her comment!!
Why delete her comments?

In other words, you’ve learnt absolutely nothing, and still think you’ve done nothing wrong. Unbelievably narcissistic.

So he lived with your FDIL rent free while he saved for a house and you still think she made no contribution?

How old are you?

Looks like 3% of awful MILs have voted.

Hahahaha. You have no idea how uk law works do you?