I got married yesterday and I can't stop crying.

[MoreThanOverwhelmed]

DH has cancer. (Diagnosed Jan 2024)
We were supposed to get married - at simple 2+2 ceremony at the end of the month but his Dr's etc encouraged us to bring the date forwards, so we got married yesterday in the hospital where my DH is being cared for.
I'm a week post major abdominal surgery.
We have 2 primary aged DC
It's our youngest DCs birthday this month.

I don't know what I want from this post but I can't stop crying.
I don't think that I know how break it to the DC that Daddy isn't going to get better and come home.
My head is swimming & I don't know what to do.

Not read through all the posts to see whether it has been mentioned before but the Ruth Strauss Foundation may be able to help.

I have no advice or practical help to offer but I am so very sorry for you and your family

Wishing you the strength you need to keep going 💐

I am so very sorry OP. Love and hugs to you and your family. 💐

Sending you strength. X

I am so very sorry OP
Sending strength x

So sorry OP (and others who've been through similar). Sending love from the West Country.

I am so very very sorry that you, DH, and your little ones are going through this. Please, as you are able to, try to tke the space to create wonderful and loving memories for you and your dc to cherish. Your DH sounds like an amazing person and one who loves you (and is loved by you) very deeply. Am thinking of all of you all.

when my husband was first diagnosed with cancer McMillan were absolutely fantastic in helping me navigate what to say to the children. Please get in touch with them as they are specialists and can really help. They really take the time to listen and help.
There is very little that I or any other stranger here can do to help except wish you all our thoughts and best wishes. Good luck op x

One stranger to another, I'm so very sorry.

So so sorry…sending you love xxx💐💐💐

I’m so sorry. You do need to tell the children though. Should the worst happen, and you didn’t tell them, they will struggle with that as they get older.

A quick update.
We managed to celebrate DC2s birthday, the staff decorated DHs room with balloons & banners etc. So we were able to include him in the celebrations. DC2 had a lovely time, being able to show Daddy their presents, PILs were able to be there too.
The following days, various friends of DH visited him & other family members (aunts etc) visited.
I received a call last night to say the end is near, on getting to him he'd rallied a fair bit so it's been an exhausting day. I'm heading back shortly to see him. (Been home for a shower, some food & a nap. Oh, and hugging my DCs) My parents are amazing & are having my DC for the foreseeable.

How lovely that you were able to celebrate DC2's bday in the presence of your DH and that DC2 enjoyed it so much.
You are doing amazingly, OP. Sending much love. You and your family are in my thoughts xx

Thinking of you @MoreThanOverwhelmed So glad he was able to celebrate DC2's Birthday. A very hard time for you. Sending un-mumsnetty hugs

Such a tough time for you. I'm glad you have your parents supporting you.

Happy birthday DC!

You must be absolutely shattered with this roller coaster. Well done for everything you are doing and the amazing mum and wife you are. X

Thanks for the update when it must be the last thing on your mind.
You are so brave and loving for your husband and children, sending hugs and best wishes to you all.

Sending you and your lovely DC a massive hug from across the internet. ❤️

I'm so sorry, OP.

All the best, OP

@MoreThanOverwhelmed this must be unbearably hard on you and I can’t imagine what you are going through. My thoughts are with you and your family at this desperate time

I'm so sorry OP. It is lovely DC got to celebrate their birthday with daddy whilst he could but sending you hugs on what must be an horrific time 💐

So sorry OP. sending lots of hugs to you, your DH and your children and family 🩷

In my thoughts OP 💐💐💐