I got married yesterday and I can't stop crying.

[MoreThanOverwhelmed]

DH has cancer. (Diagnosed Jan 2024)
We were supposed to get married - at simple 2+2 ceremony at the end of the month but his Dr's etc encouraged us to bring the date forwards, so we got married yesterday in the hospital where my DH is being cared for.
I'm a week post major abdominal surgery.
We have 2 primary aged DC
It's our youngest DCs birthday this month.

I don't know what I want from this post but I can't stop crying.
I don't think that I know how break it to the DC that Daddy isn't going to get better and come home.
My head is swimming & I don't know what to do.

Sending you lots of hugs. It sounds like you had a lovely day.

You are so brave, celebrating your DCs birthday with his Daddy knowing time is so short.

Sending you love and hugs

Prayers are with you OP, this isnt fair and crying sounds totally normal. Maybe see if macmillan or any specific charity could help with advice?

Also lean on anyone and everyone who loves you. Its OK if you can't do this alone, take all the help you can get

Sending you a handhold

Thinking of you and sending love 💕

Sending love ❤️

Peace to you, your husband and your little ones. Your husbands journey through life was short but full & he leaves a beautiful legacy in his children. He is blessed to have you on this final journey. His spirit will move on but his love will be with you and in your children.

Bon courage for the days ahead.

Thinking of you and your family

I've been thinking of you and your family, OP. 💔

I'm So sorry op life is cruel! I’m glad he got to the birthday and was involved as they are important memories. Thinking of you and your kids! 💐

So sad for you, Op.
Keep your loved ones close by you.
Treat yourself kindly. You are coping with too much.
Crying is justified and life is not fair for you and your husband.

Let your children in to feel the reality of the loss.
They will understand that their Dad needs special care as he becomes more frail.
Focus on the birthday. Will the hospital make allowances for more visitors for the celebration?

Sending love ❤️

I’m so fucking sorry. This is bloody awful. Sending love & congratulations- you’re still a bride In love .

I’m so sorry to read what you are all going through. Sending you my best wishes and hugs.

@MoreThanOverwhelmed This is the toughest part of your journey, vacillating between wishing he was out of pain and then feeling guilty for letting such thoughts flash through your mind, but know it is normal. I wish you all the strength you will need for the next few months and will keep you and your family in my thoughts over the coming months.

Because no one else seems to be saying it, congratulations on getting married! In spite of everything else, that’s a beautiful thing and should be celebrated.

So glad you were able to have this special day together. I hope it will give you something to hold onto 🩷

I agree.

You sound like an extraordinary woman, wife, mother xxx

DH passed this evening. It was supposed to be our wedding day, it was already our "being together anniversary"
I feel so broken.
He's at peace.
I miss him so much.

I am so very sorry.
You have been incredibly strong and brave and your husband must have been so proud of you.
Hold your loved ones close and lean on them in the days and months to come.
X

@MoreThanOverwhelmed I am so very sorry for your loss, and so poignantly on what should have been a day of joy and celebration. I hope you and your DC are surrounded by loving support

Many many @MoreThanOverwhelmed

I'm so sorry to read this @MoreThanOverwhelmed 💐 So unfair. Please take time just to breathe, and I hope you can take a little comfort knowing he is at peace now.Thinking of you and your family at this unthinkable time.
Take care ❤️