I got married yesterday and I can't stop crying.

[MoreThanOverwhelmed]

DH has cancer. (Diagnosed Jan 2024)
We were supposed to get married - at simple 2+2 ceremony at the end of the month but his Dr's etc encouraged us to bring the date forwards, so we got married yesterday in the hospital where my DH is being cared for.
I'm a week post major abdominal surgery.
We have 2 primary aged DC
It's our youngest DCs birthday this month.

I don't know what I want from this post but I can't stop crying.
I don't think that I know how break it to the DC that Daddy isn't going to get better and come home.
My head is swimming & I don't know what to do.

Sending you love. You are getting through the days as unimaginably hard as that is. It will get better.

I’m so sorry for your loss and sending so much love to you and your DC’s. As someone else said it will get easier and it’s totally ok if today isn’t that day, or tomorrow or the next or even the next few weeks or months. Feel all the emotions and let them come when they need to, lean on those around you and feel the love they have for you. One hour at a time ❤️

You took your children out to eat, that’s way more than I managed at this stage. You’re honestly doing a lot better than you realise, don’t overthink it. It’s one minute/hour/day at a time, whatever you can manage and if you need to take yourself off to bed, that’s fine too. Your kids are safe and fed, time to take care of you.

I wish I could do more, but I send love and hope to you. We're here, in a corner of the internet scattered with people who are going through or have been through the situation you're in. That's proof that you can get through this, like many others have. Take it one hour at a time, rely on mcdonalds and screens and just get through it. You won't always feel like this, you will one day sit in the sun and feel peace.

I wish we could all wrap you in a hug. You have been through so much. 💚

My family have been wanting to commemorate DH & my wedding but I can't bear the thought of commemorating our wedding day as it wasn't the day or date we wanted but DH passed on the day we were supposed to get married, which was also our anniversary.
I feel like it means more to me now that he's not here and that it's even more important that I took his name, to match that of our children & to honour his memory of our life together.

Sending you a hand-hold. I'm not surprised that your wedding date doesn't seem like the right one. From all you've said, your true anniversary to mark and remember is the day you met, when you were due to be married. It's very bittersweet because it's also going to be the anniversary of your husband dying. Perhaps in time you might want to mark your wedding anniversary on the day it actually happened, but don't let anyone push you into it.

Hi @MoreThanOverwhelmed I hope you’re doing ok. It sounds like your family are being really supportive and just not understanding that the commemoration would be too painful just now. Maybe in time you can figure out a way for them to celebrate your time together.

Im sure you’re still reeling from everything that you’re going through, and I hope you reach out to your loved ones to help you as much as they can.

Sending you strength and love

I've only just found this and want to say how very sorry I am to hear about it. It's such a terrible thing to have happened to all of you. Everything will take time, be very patient with yourself. Sending you virtual hugs. x💐