I got married yesterday and I can't stop crying.

[MoreThanOverwhelmed]

DH has cancer. (Diagnosed Jan 2024)
We were supposed to get married - at simple 2+2 ceremony at the end of the month but his Dr's etc encouraged us to bring the date forwards, so we got married yesterday in the hospital where my DH is being cared for.
I'm a week post major abdominal surgery.
We have 2 primary aged DC
It's our youngest DCs birthday this month.

I don't know what I want from this post but I can't stop crying.
I don't think that I know how break it to the DC that Daddy isn't going to get better and come home.
My head is swimming & I don't know what to do.

I’m so sorry, nothing constructive to add but have a hug and

I’m so sorry op you are so young to be going through this xxxx

Oh shit OP, WTAF. I am so, so, so sorry for your situation. I can think of nothing worse, and I question why some people have this shit to deal with, I think of how my own situation is sometimes and how hard it is, but it pales into insignificance at reading this.

Sending lots of love, you will get through this, your pain will end, maybe not yet, but it will. 💐 🙏

I am truly so very sorry. I lost my DH 7 months ago to cancer and we also have 2 children and it is so hard to be the one who has to deal with it all. Even though you are surrounded by people, you feel so alone. I cried for weeks, I still cry at least once, most days.

One thing I will suggest is that you take voice recordings of him, lots of them. I only have one short voice message from my DH and I wish I had more because sometimes when I lie awake in the dark I just want to hear his voice.

My heart aches for you and your DCs.

You poor things.

So very sorry Op.

I was in your shoes a few months ago

practical stuff

move all his money from his own accounts into a joint account or your own account, (probably not enough time but that or get you added so his accounts are joint accounts).
withdraw any premium bonds he has and put money where you can get it.
I wish I’d done the above as it would have saved me a lot of trauma as some of my DH’s money is stuck in accounts I can’t get to until probate is settled.
💐💐💐

So hard, but you are stronger than you think you are. You will get through this, for the kids sake as much as anything. Go easy on yourself.

Oh my God, I'm so so sorry. I cant do anything and I cant say anything really - I'm sitting here thinking of you and your husband. Its so unfair. Huge hug OP.

I am so sorry xxxxxx

I’m so so sorry op. I’m always looking for a silver lining but sometimes there just isn’t one. This is so utterly shit.
I know you said family are great but they have their own stuff to deal with, please don’t let that stop you reaching out for their support. They probably want to move heaven and earth for you but don’t know how or what they can do for you. Lean on those around you as much as you need to. It’s ok to break and let loved ones catch you.
Sending so much love and strength to you xxx

Oh love, I just want to say you are so in my thoughts. From one stranger to another - I am so sorry you are going through this. So so sorry. Sending you love and strength

Everything you are feeling is valid. It's so unfair. It's going to be the worst time of your life but you still have him. Make the most of that. I lost mine without warning and wish I could have had even a few more minutes. Love him fiercely while he is here and tell him what he means to you. It's going to hurt but that is just a reflection of what you mean to each other. It will be hard and you won't feel like it for a long time but you will get through this and you will be unbreakable afterwards. Nothing will touch you. I am so sorry you are going through this. I know. Lean on friends and family and let them carry you. You don't need to do this alone.

I’m so sorry, OP. Your poor heart, I’m tearful for you. Take courage through this hardship, and one day at a time. There’ll be sunshine again.

Oh lovely, I'm not surprised you've spent the day in tears. It'll have been a distraction to bring the wedding forward and get it all organised, now it's over it's all catching up and hitting you. Even that on its own and your husband's cancer would be enough to floor you.
Get in touch with Maggie's or Macmillan about sharing with your children. They'll be able to give you practical as well as emotional support.
Sending you a hug and lots of thoughts. Life is giving you a serious kicking just now.

Sending love to you and your family, OP xxx

That's such a sad read. I am so sorry.
I cannot imagine what you're going through. Sending so much love to you and your family xxx

So sorry, love and hugs to you all. Life is cruel and unfair 💐

Im so sorry OP. X

So sorry you are going through this. Sending you lots of hugs. xx

I'm so sorry. It really seems like you have had more than your fair share. I hope your families continue to be a good support.

You are all in my heart and thoughts at this very sad time. Sending a really tight hug. x

I am so sorry OP, I don’t know you but you are in my thoughts and I’m praying for a miracle for you. 🙏🏼

I am thinking of you OP

So very sorry OP. Wishing you love and all the strength you will need to navigate this chapter and beyond ❤️

I am so very sorry. I’m going through similar with my sister who is on end of life hospice care with no treatment left. She’s 35. It’s awful.

I hope you both have more time.