To never tell partner I love him?

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Is it weird? I have never told him I love him, and he's never told me he loves me. I do love him, completely. My parents never told me they loved me growing up, and I never told them, but there was absolutely no doubt that we all did.

I spoke to him yesterday and a friend commented that she always told her DH she loved him every time she said bye, and did I not do the same. I said I’d never said it and nor had my DP, and she found it mind blowing.

Is it that strange?

I don’t think it’s weird or “not normal”.

I’m just not a demonstrative person in that way, other than my kids.

My parents never said “I love you” growing up, to each other or to me.

I have young kids now and I say “I love you” about 10 times a day to them, and they say it constantly as well, to me, their dad, and grandparents.

Other than my kids I don’t say it to anyone….but my parents and husband know that I do.

I'm from the NE as well, that must be it.

Bit weird if I am honest, my parents were not I love you parents but me and DH are

seriously not even when engaged or married ?
have you said it in writing in valentines birthday cards?
do you say it to kids/ pets family ?

I don’t say it at all.

I’m not engaged or married but I can’t imagine it making any difference. I don’t even put my name on his Valentines cards, they’re meant to b anonymous!

More likely he’d squirm and shudder given you say you love him multiple times!

He might. He might not.

That’s right. I can’t see him posting a thread on Mumsnet though.

I think half a decade in…. You can be fairly sure that like you, he would not be happy to read you saying that you love him.

Sounds like you’re very well suited, can’t be many people in mid thirties who after 5 years know that they don’t want to live together; never want children and would both shudder at idea of the other person saying “I love you”. But you have found one another!

Do you intentionally pick out ones that don’t make any reference to you loving him?

No idea if he would shudder or just not care. He’s obviously happy as we are though.

I don’t think it’s at all unusual to not care about being married or living together if you don’t want kids.

I usually choose ones which reference me loving his penis.

🤢

Any of your friends or colleagues in their thirties,who don’t children, been with someone for 5 years and don’t intend to ever live together?

Yes he could just not care instead of shudder

either way… it’s a very compatible stance with fact you would shudder

Many who don’t intend to have kids or get married! I’m surprised you don’t know any.

Fewer who are in long term relationships but don’t live together.

He seems to like them.

Well, okay. Not really sure what point you’re making.

No point aside from the two of you are clearly very compatible!

Are you sure he does actually love you OP? My friend had this. They were together for 10 years. Then he dumped her just after she moved her whole life for him. Admitted that he didn’t actually love her that’s why he never said it. She just assumed that was him.

Thanks. We’re very happy, never argue, it’s all very easy, so we seem to be.

Did your friend say it to him?

Well not living together certainly reduces the causes to have the odd tiff!

Do you live alone or with friends? And him?