To never tell partner I love him?

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Is it weird? I have never told him I love him, and he's never told me he loves me. I do love him, completely. My parents never told me they loved me growing up, and I never told them, but there was absolutely no doubt that we all did.

I spoke to him yesterday and a friend commented that she always told her DH she loved him every time she said bye, and did I not do the same. I said I’d never said it and nor had my DP, and she found it mind blowing.

Is it that strange?

This makes me so sad for you as a child

I tell dd 8 every day that I love her. Sometimes a few times a day. Always at night as I tuck her into bed plus other times as and when

are you scared to tell him

Yes at bedtime! Can’t imagine not turning the light off and saying “love you”

What would you do/say if it just popped out one day during a moment of passion? Apologise? Or laugh? Be embarrassed? Say you didn’t mean it?

It was.

I’m so sorry this happened

Given you are absolutely adamant you never want children and he’s the same, would you consider having your tubes tied? My sister did and said it was liberating

Don’t feel sad for me! My childhood was fantastic and my parents were great.

Not scared at all, I just feel no need.

No, I’m alright.

I don’t know. It just wouldn’t happen.

Would you show him this thread Op? If only to have a chuckle over it together? Or because you do say that you love him repeatedly on this thread….Does that mean you’d feel uncomfortable with him reading this words?

Google grief! How has it got to people chucking out contraceptive advice 😱.

Bonkers!

Beauty of mumsnet 😆

More dregs of it, not beauty. But were all different after all.

As this very thread demonstrates on our views on telling loved ones we love them!

Glad you agree.

Very much so

“We’re all different”

indeed we are!

Op, I wouldn’t write it off ever happening just yet.😉

Right. I think telling someone they’re amazing or whatever is quite a modern and American thing to be honest. I think ‘well done’ and ‘this is excellent, thank you’ suffice. If a friend or even a partner told me they were proud of me I’d probably go off them there and then.

@Treesandsheepeverywhere

@Weepixie ’say you didn’t mean it’ has made me laugh out loud!

I’d probably go off them there and then...😅

I knew someone who went bright red at being given a compliment and darting eyes like a deer in headlights.
Being told I'm proud of you, would have finished her off! 😂

Some total cunts on this thread. OP your relationship sounds pretty perfect to me, long may it last ❤️

My parents, grandparents, boyfriends etc in the 1980s and 1990s all told me that I was “amazing” and that they “loved me” liberally and regularly! Oh and I grew up in a village in the SE England!

Isn’t the point that the Op would definitely not be happy if it did happen? She’d squirm and feel very uncomfortable?

Yes, exactly. It’s not something I dream about happening.

I can’t see us sitting having a chuckle over this thread 😂. He’d think I’d lost my mind posting on Mumsnet about him.

Towns in NE England must be different.