To never tell partner I love him?

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Is it weird? I have never told him I love him, and he's never told me he loves me. I do love him, completely. My parents never told me they loved me growing up, and I never told them, but there was absolutely no doubt that we all did.

I spoke to him yesterday and a friend commented that she always told her DH she loved him every time she said bye, and did I not do the same. I said I’d never said it and nor had my DP, and she found it mind blowing.

Is it that strange?

Chill out OP.

you said you’ve never spoken about living together or getting married. So I was wondering if you’d actually spoken about being exclusive.

You answered 🤷‍♀️

The questions are odd and clearly a reflection of your inability to understand that not everyone wants to follow a traditional path of living together, marriage and kids, with you declaring that without these things it must be FWB. You’re rude.

oh dear

I think it’s very strange - I didn’t grow up in an “I love you” household but my husband and I say it to each other all the time, multiple times a day in fact. It’s not always a staring into the eyes heartfelt “I love you” but our days are punctuated by “love yous” when we leave the house, when someone brings someone else a drink, when someone does stuff around the house, when someone does something silly you have fondness for and you might say something like “oh you’re so silly I do love you” or whatever.

My family have actually got better at the “I love yous” now we are all adults.

Brace yourself!

At the risk of being rude (certainly don’t mean to be), but do your families understand your relationship? For example, if one of you were in an accident and very poorly in hospital with ‘family only’ visitation, would your families know to let you visit each other?

I can see why OP is getting annoyed !
It differs completely from FWB ..
FWB owe no loyalty to one another , if you read OPS post correctly you would see , OP and her partner are loyal to one another, so what if they don’t live together , have kids & all the usual bullshit we’re led to believe we should be doing relationships wise to lead to a “happy “ “fulfilled “ life !🙄..
She has a partner , they’re happy out , their living arrangements suit them, & I’m pretty sure would suit plenty more if they could go back & do things differently…

Yes, they would. He knows my family well. I know his less well but they know we’re together.

This poster is actually answering the question I asked, not wildly speculating and making things up.

Thank you. I really didn’t think that people would struggle with the concept of a relationship where you don’t live together. It’s like a desperation to insist not wanting to live together means you’re FWB. Very strange.

Tbh, having read your answers to my questions and your other updates, I do find it quite weird. It’s certainly unusual.
But, so what? You do you! 😊

What an odd question. Both my partner and I are next of kin on medical forms. We don't live together. In a hospital situation you would describe he's the first person they would contact if it was me and I'm the first if it was him.

The hospital wouldn't even know any other family members phone numbers etc

This is all very well until there’s some sort of dispute - who decides about DNR instructions etc.
You may be listed as next of kin by your DP, but legally you are not, and the family would trump you.

These are the sort of things that non-traditional couples often don’t consider, until it’s too late.
Sorting a will out is another.

We both have advance directives so those wishes are already set in place.

And we both have wills also. Its actually easier with that as we don't live together. Means property can go straight to our respective offspring rather than risking grabby kids trying to turf there parents partner out of a house as soon as possible so they can sell it

I honestly couldn’t give less of a shit who’s presiding over a DNR. At the moment it would be my father and his mother and that’s fine by me. Neither are likely to do something that doesn’t have our interests at heart.

Why would we need to sort out a will together?

Yeah it is weird ..
I’ve done FWB & it absolutely does not remotely resemble what you & your partner have together..
People go way off Topic aswel on this ..
What you asked was , “is it weird to not tell one another ye love each other “, I’ve already given my opinion previously above on that ..
People turned it into something completely different 🙄 …

Oh and as dpfor family trumping unmarried partners as NOK what difference does it make whether you live together or not. Be interesting to see the legal difference

It's been 5 years so it's clearly working for you both.
There's no one right way to be with someone.

Your way works for the two of you so it really doesn't matter whether it would suit other people or not.

Out of pure nosiness, has he been with you this weekend as you’ve spent it tapping away on you phone discussing the intricacies of your relationship?!

🙄 There’s that rudeness again.

I went to his yesterday early evening and came home today early afternoon. But really, what has it got to do with you?

Conversations evolve

How rude, couples are not always joined at the hip.
OP has answered your many questions, why the vitrol!

You don't have to agree with her way but you keep poking.

I’ve actually gone on a thread here , it’s a woman asking for ideas to change up her dinners , cause her husband has asked if they could try different dishes for when he gets home from work for dinner ..
Completely normal , simple question, but it’s met with aggression answers back !!!
It’s actually Mental !!
Tell him to cook himself & the usual thripe back 🙄.
My kids ask me regularly can I change dinners up , it’s completely normal family life ….

Strange isn't it, the mind boggles sometimes.

People post for help, ideas and sometimes just musing to themselves, not to be shot down over a simple question.

So much negative energy over something that doesn't affect their lives one bit.