Husband's sibling booking daughter's christening on my birthday, AIBU to be annoyed?

[OneZingyKhakiSnake]

Ideally we would like to actually go out for the day somewhere for my birthday as we have young children ourselves. Its not until autumn, the child is going to be nearly 2. Church and function afterwards. They are not religious in any way.

Did they even know it’s your birthday before they booked? I’m not sure that a SIL’s birthday is particularly something people hold on to. I doubt any of my in-laws would know mine. It’s hardly an important date in their diary is it?

I do keep a birthday diary and we send cards, but that’s just because I was brought up that way. My partner’s siblings never send cards to each other and though they wish each other happy birthday on the day via the family WhatsApp that’s only because my partner’s parents always initiate it on the day and the siblings the. All respond.

But, even if they did know, it’s hardly going to affect their planning. Most people work on their birthdays, go to weddings or whatever, without much fuss. You’re perfectly entitled not to go, but thinking that your brother and sister in law should plan their child’s christening around you is massively entitled and just a wee bit immature! I’d suck it up and go away the following weekend.

Poor cousin 😢😢

YABU. I wouldn't consider my in laws birthdays when booking a christening. I wouldn't expect anyone to consider my birthday when booking an event either.

I am a big fan of celebrating my birthday but I'm quite happy to move it to a different week or even a different month! Can't you do the same since it makes no difference to you but to your SIL it's a fixed event and she may not have had much choice in when she could have it.

I voted YANBU because they are not at all religious, and basically they are having a 'Christening' as an excuse for a knees-up (and will probably expect the child to receive a load of presents too).

Have either you or your DH been asked to be Godparents?

A good friend of mine booked their wedding on my birthday. Guess what? I still went to their wedding. I've had plenty of birthdays but my friend is only going to have a wedding once (hopefully).

Unless it's a "big" birthday, you are being totally U.

Truly, I'm often surprised on here about how often people seem to actively dislike their extended family.
Frankly, I'd be delighted to spend my birthday at an extended family gathering. The actual christening is what? An hour out of what would otherwise just be family getting together.

Your birthday isn't important and definitely not worth people having to arrange things around you and it. 🙄

Just insist they provide a birthday cake for you which is at least as big as the christening cake.

It's only because we both work full time so Sunday is the only day we have together

Yes they know. But doesn't matter now, I've come to realise my error and am fine with it now! Think I was just tired and stressing about other stuff, our cat isnt well and it just tipped me over the edge.

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Thanks! Tbh I'm laughing at loads of these posts too 😆

The silver lining is you can have 2 birthdays instead...one the Sunday before, one the Sunday after and some free grub on at the christening