Husband's sibling booking daughter's christening on my birthday, AIBU to be annoyed?

[OneZingyKhakiSnake]

Ideally we would like to actually go out for the day somewhere for my birthday as we have young children ourselves. Its not until autumn, the child is going to be nearly 2. Church and function afterwards. They are not religious in any way.

😂😂😂 lovely response @OneZingyKhakiSnake
i was initially thinking you must be quite young as I’m always happy for an excuse to bury mine!

I don’t actually know either of my brother in laws’ birthdays off the top of my head. I know the month but not the day. It wouldn’t even cross my mind to make plans around those dates.

How old are you? 5?

MN removed it because it was causing too much trouble with some posters using it to be nasty to others.

organised bullying too.

so the few spoilt it for everyone else!

although it was new, I miss it.

There's a thread asking for it back, but I'm in 2 minds. People were really being nasty with it & it was causing MN a lot of extra work

Fgs

I do know the dates of other people in my family and extended families birthdays, and I would never book something on those days. I think that’s just common decency personally.

However, I do book myself to do whatever I like regardless of anyone else’s birthday, so I’m rarely about for most people’s. We are normally away all summer, or at least 5 weeks and we’ve missed weddings, birthdays, christenings the lot. People know when they book that we’ll be abroad, so that’s their choice.

I don’t think the world stops for me, or anyone else, so my feelings are just do as you please. If you’ve got other plans for your birthday, and they particularly wanted you at the Christening, well that’s their error.

I agree. Well done OP, some posters would not have returned but you did.

I miss it but I’m glad it’s been removed. It was being used as a weapon which is not how it was intended to be used.

First World problems.
Grow up.

😂

dont go if you dont want too, its a christening not a summons.

Another indulged child grows up into an interesting adult.
YABVVVU.

If you have plans for the day, you don't have to attend the christening.

That being said, my husbands brothers wife's birthday would not be a consideration when picking a date.

I think we need the shocked reaction they have on Facebook. I would use it a lot.

Years ago when organising my son’s christening my MIL got upset that her favourite son (not my DH) couldn’t come as was on holiday. Our Church had very few dates and I hadn’t known about the holiday plans. I changed thd christening date although one godparent then couldn’t come (an old friend who said it was more important to placate my in-laws). My MIL always denied she made a fuss. I never really forgave her - silly, but thd whole thing was a bit of a camel straw after a pattern of behaviour. So my advice is: gi ti the christening in a positive happy way. The alternative will cause long-term hurt and resentment.

Yes YABU.
My DD would call this 'main character energy'.
Most adults have to realize their birthday is just another day to everyone else.

I'm sure this has been said, but not read the full thread....

Does she even know when your birthday is?

I don't know when my SIL's birthday is. If I did, I would also assume she's an adult kyle me and wouldn't mind celebrating on a different day. Or even not making a big fuss as one off.

'Main character energy' is hilarious. That's got to be my new catch phrase 🤣. @NestEmptying

Never mind that, why isn't your birthday in the church calendar?

I was thinking 6th.

She probably expected somebody who is an adult who has had many birthdays and for whom this isn't a big birthday to not mind, if she thought she needed to factor it in at all.

Then again I'm absolutely amazed by the number of my adult middle aged friends who feel the need to book their birthdays off work and have big celebrations every year. I guess each to their own, but in my family adults do a few cards and gifts in the morning then get on with life as usual, maybe going out for a meal or something on the weekend or whenever is convenient.

Sounds like you must have been a PFB!

I could only give a rough month guess at in laws birthdays, same with nieces/nephews. Plus the very valid point that the Church will only have limited options for dates, shortgage of priests and all that!

Do they even know it’s your birthday? Go, don’t go, there’s no need to make a performance out of it.

I take it that it’s not a milestone birthday ?

Are you expecting your SIL /BIL to avoid the birthday of every guest or just yours ?

Let your DN be the centre of attention on her big day , she only gets one christening whereas you’ve already had lots of birthdays and hopefully will have many more .

Why an adult would even be thinking about her autumn birthday in June and planning a day out baffles me!

Your SIL can't be expected to remember everyone's birthday when setting a date for a christening. I'm sure it wasn't done deliberately to scupper your plans to go out for the day!