Husband's sibling booking daughter's christening on my birthday, AIBU to be annoyed?

[OneZingyKhakiSnake]

Ideally we would like to actually go out for the day somewhere for my birthday as we have young children ourselves. Its not until autumn, the child is going to be nearly 2. Church and function afterwards. They are not religious in any way.

Sorry but that was on you changing the date!! MIL could make all the fuss she wanted. No way should you have done that…

I've been to a wedding on my birthday and also to a funeral. I'm a grown up. I can handle it.

I would love a chance to see all
my family on my birthday! What a nice plan.

Guess what? Other people’s worlds don’t revolve around you.

Please bring back the laughing button MNHQ

You sound a bit precious. It probably didn’t occur to them

Good for you on the healthy response!

Unless you are 10 years old or younger then YABU.

In my family and my in laws family we wouldn't do this. We all celebrate each other's birthdays (maybe just a card, maybe a big do depending on the year etc). I think it's a bit thoughtless - i would have expected a message to say 'SIL, we know its your birthday but this is the only date that works, do you mind?' Just to acknowledge it would be enough.

best response EVER

Sadly you made yourself the fish in the barrel here and the sharks smell blood in the water - yours 😂

Never mind they’ll move their outrage on to some other poor sod soon.

I routinely change my birthday every year so it always falls on a Saturday.

Lately I’ve even started moving the year I was born as well.

If I keep that up I’ll be going backwards to babyhood 😉

Yes, OP - you do need to grow up! I say that with a sympathetic smile, not nastily. You'll find life much easier if you stop being precious about your birthday - that's for little children who are understandably self-centred.

We had to go to my lovely MIL's funeral on one of my big birthdays - and that was fine. It was the only possible date and I didn't even bat an eyelid - I'd be having more birthdays, but she wouldn't.

As pps say, celebrate on another day!

Good grief what a fuss over nothing.

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Go out for the day on the other day that weekend?

I have had x2 family funerals booked on my birthday ( different sides of the family). One of them was on my 21st birthday. I turned up to funeral and was respectful and had a meal out the next day instead. You have a birthday every year.

It's tough I know.
My cousin buried her mother on what should have been her wedding day (cousin's wedding day, not aunt's), wedding obviously got moved out by a couple of months.
I think if my cousin can deal with that then OP can celebrate her birthday on a different day.

To be fair op, I would be annoyed if I genuinely believed they did it on purpose but it's much more likely they're just not aware of your birthday.

hilarious i love this 😆

Jesus

A milestone birthday like a 30th or 40th I’d understand being peeved but I wouldn’t allow myself to be worked up if it’s any other birthday. Maybe go out the day or weekend after :) x

Was wondering if my post hadd been too brutal - glad you are robust enough to take it. Maybe you are more grown up than it appeared 😉
Enjoy your birthday and the christening.

You can go out anytime

I agree. Most 9 year olds I've encountered would have been okay with 'We're goin g to Auntie so and so's on your birthday so we'll have to have your party the day before/after. Yay, two parties!'

Im being nosey but do you ever message the woman to say happy bday if you don't when it is... 🤣