Husband's sibling booking daughter's christening on my birthday, AIBU to be annoyed?

[OneZingyKhakiSnake]

Ideally we would like to actually go out for the day somewhere for my birthday as we have young children ourselves. Its not until autumn, the child is going to be nearly 2. Church and function afterwards. They are not religious in any way.

You are being utterly ridiculous.

I've worked, including night shifts, on my birthday before, just nominated a different day to celebrate. My DC have had exams on theirs and been away of school residential so we just do the fun stuff when it suits. My friends niece recently had to have an op and because of an infection ended up in hospital for her birthday too. They just did all the celebrating when she was well.

Your thoughts on the validity and justification for the event are complete separate.

im a bit of a birthday princess and love celebrating my families birthday however this wouldn’t bother me at all, I’m an adult ,I’d just celebrate on another day. I would be annoyed if it was one of my children’s birthdays,

it could be worse my sil deliberately booked her child’s baptism for the week after my baby was born, she did this in the hope we wouldn’t make it as for some reason she dislikes me, I have to admit it was a huge hassle, to get dh , myself and 2 under 2 including a 7 day old baby but I wouldn’t have missed my nieces baptism.

In our local church, all Christenings are held during the regular Sunday service and it's pretty much up to the minister to allocate the date. It's taken as read that any family member with a birthday or anniversary on that day just has to work round it.

Yes, this is the best solution😂

How lovely to have a nice event with a party afterwards to go to on your birthday. You get to dress up, have nice food, nice drink, spend time with family. What's not to like?

You could ask the vicar if you could bring a cake and everyone sing Happy Birthday?

Stick a big candle in the Christening cake and sing Happy Birthday very loudly.

Having a religious ceremony if you’re not religious is daft but that aside, yes an adult is being unreasonable expecting everyone to plan around their birthday.

Why the fudge are they having a christening if they’re not religious? The whole point of it is to bring your child into the faith. Sounds like the thicko excuse for a party so get your own back and treat it as your own personal birthday piss up. Shots shots shots!

It's probably very outing 🙄

These people are very toxic narcs and they are being passive aggressive.

I say definitely go full NC and while you are at it, I’d LTB to be on the safe side.

My brothers funeral was on my birthday.

it was either my birthday or my 12 year old nephews birthday.

Not a hard choice.

Someone else is paying for your birthday party?
Result.

That’s a bit tame, why not turn the font into a chocolate fountain?

Exactly 😆

Unless it’s your 40th/30th etc… your SIL has probably highly likely forgotten or not considered your birthday.

Hahahh! Wow I did not even think I'd get a reply let alone a battering 🙈 I love the brutal honesty on here. I guess y'all are right, I'll just have to wait a week and grow up!

Grow up ffs !!

Maybe there’s an ‘outing hobby’ 😂

When I booked my youngest’s baptism I had a choice of about three dates from the church in an entire autumn (they only do them on certain Sundays and several were booked already) - once I took account of multiple sets of Grandparents and Godparents with holidays, operations, weddings and my husband’s travel for work I had one possible date. Even if I had known my sister in law’s birthday it would not have factored into my decision. The only person whose birthday I’d maybe have avoided would be the baby’s sibling.

@Paperumbrella wins Mumsnet today 😂

I really wanted to 'laugh' react to this but as that's no longer possible I clapped instead 😅

How old will you be op? Many happy returns btw

If it’s a big birthday, don’t go.

If it’s not a big birthday, celebrate your birthday another day.

Just say sorry we can't go as we've holiday/event/outing tickets for etc booked for weeks