Husband's sibling booking daughter's christening on my birthday, AIBU to be annoyed?

[OneZingyKhakiSnake]

Ideally we would like to actually go out for the day somewhere for my birthday as we have young children ourselves. Its not until autumn, the child is going to be nearly 2. Church and function afterwards. They are not religious in any way.

Good on you for taking it well.

My aunt got married on my 18th birthday and I had a bloody exam as well that day. Didn’t occur to me to upset with her, I was more annoyed I couldn’t attend.

That’s really shit. Was your brother the father of your 12yo nephew? Heart breaking.

(not suggesting for moment that it should have otherwise been moved to your nephew’s birthday)

You’re an adult with 2 young kids and you’re making a big deal out of them having a christening on your birthday. Is that really the hill you want to die on just celebrate on a different day or don’t go if it’s that important to you.

I can appreciate your situation. My dp planned to go to the dog races on my birthday with some friends and I felt hurt about that. I am not a dog person (per se). I don’t hate them but they just arnt really for me, so I am fairly certain I would not ‘thé dogs’.
anyway, after I spoke with them, do said they were not able to change as tickets had been bought. I ended up going and actually had quite a fun time. Glad I went and dp arranged a separate dinner another night. So 2 nights out (instead of 1) and found a new thing I thought would be awful but was actually ok

There’s often very little choice when it comes to Christenings - a lot of churches only offer slots every 3 months or so.

Yes, his dad.

Hahahah

Honestly, you are being ridiculous. I think it's time you grew up and realised the world doesn't revolve around you.

I went to a wedding on my birthday! It was brilliant!

Go to the christening and go out for your birthday later. Or have your day on another day.

Or send your apologies and take the whole day for your birthday. And risk all the family thinking you’re being very precious.

The church will not have much flexibility on their dates - why cause upset when you can celebrate in another day?

This is true. Our local church practically has a conveyor belt to the font once every three months.

The vast majority of parents have no religion at all, they just want yet another excuse to take photos and make a fuss. I know this as the vicar is a friend of my mothers!

My personal favourite in my family was when a DD was born to a relative. Married in a church for the photos but that was it. She went for the old tradition of using the wedding dress to make a christening gown and using the top tier of the wedding cake for the christening cake. Lovely right? Wrong.

She was divorced a year ealier and the father of the baby was not the man she married when she wore the wedding dress or cut the cake.

And that was only the start of the "Oh no.....she didnt?!" conversations on that day!

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Fair enough, OP. Enjoy your birthday, whenever you celebrate it.

I have absolutely no idea when DH’s siblings birthdays are, and it would never occur to me to avoid them as a date for something even if I did.

Literally. You’ll be a whole week older.

Enjoy your birthday when it comes OP 🎉

Is it your 100th bday?

Come on OP. I doubt your birthday was top of your in-laws minds when they picked the date. I know my SIL’s birthday is sometime in November but couldn’t tell you the date. No idea at all when BIL’s is.

Suck it up and enjoy a lovely family day (ignoring the fact they’re not religious, whole different conversation).

One of the best birthdays I’ve had was at someone else’s retirement party. All expenses paid, good food, free bar, lots of people I knew. What’s not to like?

YANBU

Given that they are not remotely religious, there's no way I'd go on my birthday to watch them vow lie about bringing up their child in the house of God.

Christening your children when you are not remotely religious is hypocritical, and I won't support that, even more so on my birthday!

My relative booked her child's Christening on Christmas Day - with a gathering afterwards, meaning the first half of Christmas Day was gone - selfish cow.

Would you seriously deny your own children the rare and precious experience of an extended family celebration and cultural event with their cousins, aunties, uncles and grandparents? These are milestone events for children to be cherished.

Get all your glad rags on, let your hair down and have a blast!

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Bloody hell, it's only a ruddy Christening for a non-religious family. Far from a precious experience 😆

If letting your hair down and "having a blast" is part of a baptism celebration then you are doing it wrong.

There is a nice lunch or tea afterwards.

Its not a wedding or a 18th ffs!

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Cry me a river.

A friend recently had their child baptised. Neither parent is practising religious but they are looking to the future and want to guarantee child gets into the best secondary school in their area.

You don't get a choice of 365 days in the year for a christening. I'm currently trying to book one and was met with a sucking of teeth over the phone.

Unfortunately this year your birthday falls on one of the available dates. My DC's birthday sometimes falls on mother's day. I don't have a hissy fit about it. What can I do? My grandmother's birthday is on Christmas day and although quietly pissed off about it, she doesn't refuse to celebrate Christmas.

A close relative of my DH didn't come to our wedding because it clashed with a family birthday. Thinking about the number of attendees at a wedding, it would be unusual not to clash with someone's birthday, anniversary or similar. Now that I think back, my uncle and my step grandfather both had their birthdays on my wedding day. They both came, and I gave them both a big birthday kiss on the cheek and a hug.

Their religion has little to do with it, because they are entitled to perform the ceremony as related to their culture; they could have a humanist naming ceremony at home and the date still wouldn't be right for someone.

The age of the child, I'm not sure why you mention it - is it because well, if the child has got to two, they had just as well wait a bit more? This seems churlish on your part.

The fact is they have chosen to invite you. You should be flattered - I have received zero invitations to christenings for even the children of friends I would consider close. At the end of the day, you aren't obliged to go.

I don’t even know when my SIL’s birthday is and certainly wouldn’t arrange my life around it!