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Tashhha · 05/06/2025 00:10

I was messaging a guy I am seeing (early days) met on online dating and I said I’m just about to get a bath. His reply was ‘’wish I could be your little rubber ducky right now’’ With wink emoji. How would you respond ?!

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DontTouchRoach · 05/06/2025 09:55

As for others, i tell my male friends i'm going for a bath/shower all the time in conversation if that's why we're ending it, same with going to make lunch or running errands.. are grown adults really treating the phrase 'going for a bath' like a 'i'm getting naked' invitation?

I think there's a difference between saying 'Right, better go, I need to jump in the shower before I go out' or something to a male friend, and mentioning that you're about to get into the bath to someone you're dating.

I think if I was dating someone and messaged them 'I'm about to get into a bath' I'd be moderately disappointed if they didn't at least hint that they might be imagining what that looked like.

Starlight1984 · 05/06/2025 10:00

DontTouchRoach · 05/06/2025 09:55

As for others, i tell my male friends i'm going for a bath/shower all the time in conversation if that's why we're ending it, same with going to make lunch or running errands.. are grown adults really treating the phrase 'going for a bath' like a 'i'm getting naked' invitation?

I think there's a difference between saying 'Right, better go, I need to jump in the shower before I go out' or something to a male friend, and mentioning that you're about to get into the bath to someone you're dating.

I think if I was dating someone and messaged them 'I'm about to get into a bath' I'd be moderately disappointed if they didn't at least hint that they might be imagining what that looked like.

Spot on. When I was dating DH I would text him I was getting a shower or bath purely for a reaction and then exchange a few dirty texts / pictures! All part of the fun of dating!

If I said I was getting in the bath and he said "Enjoy!" I would have been extremely disappointed 😂

DontTouchRoach · 05/06/2025 10:05

Jc2001 · 05/06/2025 07:53

Buy she didn't say that did she? She just said she was about have a bath.

She'd struggle to have a bath with her clothes on.

TheSwarm · 05/06/2025 10:06

So you told a guy you are starting to date that you are having a bath, and he flirted back at you.

I mean... what's the problem? If you like the guy, roll with it, if you don't then a bit of clumsy flirting is not really the difference between carrying on with it or not, is it?

Doggielovecharlotte · 05/06/2025 10:08

ComtesseDeSpair · 05/06/2025 00:19

I probably wouldn’t, but equally I wouldn’t tell a stranger I was off to get naked and have a bath. It’s just a bit intimate.

Edited

This!

I think you were unconsciously inviting something

gannett · 05/06/2025 10:11

In the context of dating, "I'm getting in the bath/shower" is quite obviously a flirtatious thing to send. It's not even subtle. You may as well have messaged "imagine me naked". Quite honestly if I told a man I was interested in that I was getting in the bath I'd be hoping he was turned on and reacted accordingly.

His own attempt at flirting in response was a little cringe but nothing that can't be fixed by either the cry-laugh emoji to take the piss in a bantery kind of way, or by taking control of the smut and ramping it up on your terms.

If the idea of him getting turned on by you is off-putting then that is a sign you shouldn't be dating him.

rosemarble · 05/06/2025 10:12

As for others, i tell my male friends i'm going for a bath/shower all the time in conversation if that's why we're ending it, same with going to make lunch or running errands.. are grown adults really treating the phrase 'going for a bath' like a 'i'm getting naked' invitation?

Only those I'm dating. I used to send my now ex texts saying e.g. "I'm popping into M&S to get some new undies at lunch time".
This was different by infinite factors to me telling my mates I had to go to Target for new pants cos my luggage had got lost in transit, or telling my colleagues I'd meet them in the bar later (at a conference) because I wanted to have a shower.

gannett · 05/06/2025 10:13

i tell my male friends i'm going for a bath/shower all the time in conversation if that's why we're ending it, same with going to make lunch or running errands.. are grown adults really treating the phrase 'going for a bath' like a 'i'm getting naked' invitation?

That's not in a context where we're expected to be attracted to each other, so it's very different.

rainbowstardrops · 05/06/2025 10:14

gannett · 05/06/2025 10:11

In the context of dating, "I'm getting in the bath/shower" is quite obviously a flirtatious thing to send. It's not even subtle. You may as well have messaged "imagine me naked". Quite honestly if I told a man I was interested in that I was getting in the bath I'd be hoping he was turned on and reacted accordingly.

His own attempt at flirting in response was a little cringe but nothing that can't be fixed by either the cry-laugh emoji to take the piss in a bantery kind of way, or by taking control of the smut and ramping it up on your terms.

If the idea of him getting turned on by you is off-putting then that is a sign you shouldn't be dating him.

Absolutely this!

Dangermoo · 05/06/2025 10:16

BadLad · 05/06/2025 02:34

If it nauseates you (and it would certainly do that to me), then that's how you feel. Nothing wrong with being thoroughly put off by such babyish phrasing.

Someone I know once dumped a girl because, in the pub, she suddenly put on a squeaky voice and whimpered "Cold! Cold! Snuggles?" at him.

😂

OldMcDonaldHadABigMac · 05/06/2025 10:18

I'd tell him to duck off.

Dangermoo · 05/06/2025 10:33

Go fuck a duck.

EggnogNoggin · 05/06/2025 10:44

I wouldn't date him.

"Wish i was there" Fine. Flirty.
"Wish I was your rubber ducky" Yuck. Not sexy. Opposite of sexy. Could never be attracted to him.

FoodAppropriation · 05/06/2025 10:45

Dangermoo · 05/06/2025 10:33

Go fuck a duck.

😂

Mothership4two · 06/06/2025 03:30

@OldLondonDad

Sheesh- harsh crowd!

Actually there's a fair few on here not giving him a hard time

Mothership4two · 06/06/2025 03:38

It would be helpful if OP would come back to give some clue of what she thought of the comment. And give some context - had they been flirty towards each other before? Although, I could see how "I'm having a bath" might be taken the way he obviously did.

Tashhha · 06/06/2025 19:31

Hello, just a few casual dates so far, just time it’s been suggestive. He just asked what I was doing so I just said about to get in the bath.

OP posts:
Dangermoo · 06/06/2025 19:43

Tashhha · 06/06/2025 19:31

Hello, just a few casual dates so far, just time it’s been suggestive. He just asked what I was doing so I just said about to get in the bath.

Have you spoken to him since?

Mothership4two · 06/06/2025 19:44

Tashhha · 06/06/2025 19:31

Hello, just a few casual dates so far, just time it’s been suggestive. He just asked what I was doing so I just said about to get in the bath.

So he was dipping his toe in the water? (ha ha)

OP what did you feel when you saw his comment?

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 06/06/2025 19:45

🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢

Instant block 😭

Annascaul · 06/06/2025 19:46

ComtesseDeSpair · 05/06/2025 00:19

I probably wouldn’t, but equally I wouldn’t tell a stranger I was off to get naked and have a bath. It’s just a bit intimate.

Edited

This.
What response were you hoping for, op?!

Cheesystick · 06/06/2025 20:15

Tashhha · 06/06/2025 19:31

Hello, just a few casual dates so far, just time it’s been suggestive. He just asked what I was doing so I just said about to get in the bath.

A few casual dates? How many? And no flirting, snogging, sex? That would be rubbish for me, and I suspect most people.

IOnlyWantSexMoneyPowerAndRevenge · 06/06/2025 21:03

CurlewKate · 05/06/2025 08:40

Better than a dickpic!

Do you mean a duck pic?

marchmash · 06/06/2025 21:05

I would send him the Bert and Ernie 'Rubber Ducky' song and then just generally see how he is. Wouldn't dump based on just that but would be a bit put off and wait for him to redeem himself.

NoBiscuitsLeftInMyTin · 07/06/2025 06:13

CurlewKate · 05/06/2025 08:40

Better than a dickpic!

Don't you mean duckpin? Or dickpic wasnt possible due to the amount of Mr (or Master) Batey bubbles in the bath - equally childish

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