What would you reply back to this?!

[Tashhha]

I was messaging a guy I am seeing (early days) met on online dating and I said I’m just about to get a bath. His reply was ‘’wish I could be your little rubber ducky right now’’ With wink emoji. How would you respond ?!

I think he thought the reference to taking a bath was an invitation to flirt and he tried to do so in a clumsy way. Depends what you think of him and his reply I guess.

Can you explain how his message was sexually derogatory?

Would I tell my boss or my neighbour that I am going in the bath?
No.

If you are introducing "bath talk" with a guy you are seeing, there's nothing seedy in testing the water and see where the chat is going.

I wouldn't be terribly attracted by the ducky thing, but if it's a way to keep it light and see where the OP's going with that... not a red flag at all in my book.

Reply the way you want to conversation to go or ignore, you started it!

What happened to men with some charisma, character or a gentleman that just tells you to enjoy your bath and leave it at that. 😂

what happened to women with some charisma, character or a lady that doesn't start putting innuendos of getting naked and leave a bit of mystery and class?

Not that I think the OP did anything wrong, but come on, she started it. At worst he's shit at flirting lightly without being offensive.

A grown man using the word ‘ducky’ would be out, for me.
I don’t even speak like that to my DC.

I think him saying 'rubber ducky' would have finished me. Ewwww, 😖

I gather you haven't been intimate yet @Tashhha ???

If not, then it's a bit much for him to say this IMO.

He thinks he's flirting I imagine.

Not a sackable offence to me.

Jfc the responses here are more cringeworthy and embarrassing than a silly harmless flirty text. No wonder some people struggle to date when they overanalyze every remark and want strangersto tell them how to feel.

Bad flirting is definitely sackable for me.

Better than a dickpic!

🤢

You told him you're about to be wet and naked. He's trying to flirt. Don't you want to flirt? If you do, why not give it a go.

I'd probably reply - is that a typo.

I'd move slightly cringe into pure filth but that's just me.

Some of you need to get a life, Jesus
God forbid adults who are dating want to fuck

I think if you’ve had a couple of dates with someone and you message to tell them you’re about to do something that requires you to be naked, it’s not unreasonable for them to assume you might be trying to start some flirting at the very least.

I suspect he used the words he did in an attempt to respond in a way that lets you know he fancies you while also being jokey and light in case you’d be freaked out by something more explicit/intense.

How you respond is entirely dependent on how you feel about him and what you want to happen next.

My own response would be “That sounds like something a contestant on Blind Date would have said in about 1987. No need to be quite so coy.”

I wouldn't really care about it. Sounds like he's attempting some kind of flirty talk without being extreme. You're dating him so where's the problem with that? I think you're overthinking one sentence.

If you don't know how to respond to a man you've already been on a few dates with then I think the help you need is beyond the remit of internet randoms.

Are you flattered/offended/put off? If you're mature enough to date you should be able to deal with this without an internet survey.

I'd move slightly cringe into pure filth but that's just me.

Ha, same. But I wouldn't have told anyone I was about to get naked and wet if I didn't want them in the bath with me.

What would have been good flirting in response to her telling him she's about to have a bath ie be wet and naked?

No response. Block.

Unless what you are after is a text exchange of flirting, sexting and inuendo. That's what he wants obviously.

He's testing to see whether you want that. If you don't, then don't.

What response did you want after you told him you were getting in the bath?

Send the barfing face emoji. This is the definition of 'ick' if ever I heard it! 🤣

Ewwww

In a potential dating situation, I'd think telling them you're getting in the bath might conjure up images of you naked.

If you are not at the stage of thinking of sharing your body with him and saying "I'm getting in the bath" was just a factual message then you're bound to find his response a bit much.

But if after a couple of dates you've got a good feeling about him then what he said is fine. A bit flirty. It's totally up to you though.

He fell into your thirst trap

blimey, some fun sponges on here...

OP, if you're interested in the flirt, silly/clumsy as it is and want to encourage, you can respond with a jokey comment like
"You'll have to shake your tail feather for that privilege"

If you're not bothered and want to slow it down without completely shutting it down you can say "One day if you're a lucky duck"

If you want to shut it down completely then something like "Haha, cute idea, but no chance!"

It's a flirt, respond in kind or don't, depends if you're interested, and if you're not, then stop talking to him.

As for others, i tell my male friends i'm going for a bath/shower all the time in conversation if that's why we're ending it, same with going to make lunch or running errands.. are grown adults really treating the phrase 'going for a bath' like a 'i'm getting naked' invitation?

This.

Another faux, wide-eyed post

"I told this man that I've been dating I'm about to strip off and get in the bath (for no reason whatsoever) and he replied with something... shock horror.... flirtatious. What do I do now???"