What would you reply back to this?!

[Tashhha]

I was messaging a guy I am seeing (early days) met on online dating and I said I’m just about to get a bath. His reply was ‘’wish I could be your little rubber ducky right now’’ With wink emoji. How would you respond ?!

Not entirely sure the sort of responses you were expecting from telling a man you barely know that you're having a bath. Have a nice time? Enjoy your bubbles?

It was a flirty joke, probably an instant response to the vision of you naked getting into the bath!

I’d reply:

”I don’t have a ducky and your attempts to talk mucky, made me thank myself lucky there’s been no fucky fucky”

Sorry I know that’s awful 😂😂.

Eueww.

Sounds like a typical person to be meeting these days OLD though.

He's testing to see how you respond, for him to then gauge how quick he can get you into bed.

I mean, its a bit yuk but if I otherwise liked him, I'd be willing to let it go on this occassion. If you've been flirting then I'd imagine it was an odd attempt at being sexy.
I wouldn't automatically be dumping him.

It sounds like you don't like what he said so
-either ignore and block
-either ignore and continue to text as if it didn't happen (although he could interpret as you not minding it and might do it again)
-reply along the lines of "a bit cringey mate" or "you'd be quackers if you thought that was sexy".

It reminds me of the kind of thing my long ago ex would have said. At the time when I was crazy about him, I'd have loved it. But I wouldn't have mentioned having a bath (which has potential for being provocative) unless I felt comfortable with him.

In the early days I think it can be hard to strike the right tone. As others say, I would respond dependent on how I felt about him. I also think responses and texts at the start of a relationship are generally a lot different to how they are later on. If it was a boss, work colleague or someone you were speaking to professionally, then that would be clearly totally wrong, but given you've been on a couple of dates, is it not less surprising that he feels able to respond a bit flirtier?

😂😂

It’s a bad attempt at flirting. But only you can decide whether you’ll turn a blind eye at a bad attempt at him saying he wants to continue seeing you and does have a sexual attraction to you or whether you can’t see past bad attempts.

Personally if I was attracted to him I’d reply with the laughing emoji and then tomorrow continue texting as normal.

Dating is never easy but as with LT relationships and marriage you have to communicate what boundaries are acceptable with you and that starts at the dating part.

Some people communicate it with ghosting or blocking and others do it through telling them.

Personally I always like to give someone a chance to adapt their behaviour if they are being a little try hard - often if I point out how I feel they realise they don’t need to be do try hard and it can work out well - as long as the deeper feelings are there.

I'd send back a picture of a Piranha, just so he knows what to expect sexually...

Yep

Depends if you fancy him. In the grand scheme, it’s not dreadful, just a bit flirty if you like that sort of thing.

If you don’t, just ignore or do eye roll emoji and say that’s a bit cheesy. If you do, just say ‘maybe one day if your luck holds’ or some combination of flirty emojis.

I couldn’t get worked up about this though personally

Sheesh- harsh crowd!

You told him you were going for a bath - he knows you are going to be naked. He implies he wishes he’d be there to see you naked. Pretty normal for someone you’ve started dating. It’s a harmless, slightly flirty comment. So what if his choice of words were about a rubber ducky?!?

Men can’t read minds. We don’t know how much you like us, we don’t know exactly when you’d like us to move from coffee and small talk to trying to kiss you and from kissing you to trying to get you into bed, and we certainly don’t know HOW you want us to do that. It’s near impossible to get everything right - so you either make some allowances and don’t get offended when someone does something that’s not exactly what you’d want, or it’ll be just another of the many, many attempts to connect that just dies out having gone nowhere with neither of you really knowing why or what might have been.

🤢

Isn’t it obvious? I’d send him a gif of King Charles. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tampongate

OP, none of us can comment as we have no idea of the context and what has happened/been said between you up till now.

But it's hardly offensive, unless you have told him you have rigid moral views against sex before marriage for example. You have dated him a bit, and he is gently flirting.

It''s cringe, I agree, but he probably just typed it quickly, not expecting it to be subjected to international analysis!

I agree with this. He isn’t to know what you might find funny and cute and what you don’t. It’s early days. Cut him some slack. No-one gets it right 100% of the time. This is the most awkward time of dating when neither of you know whether it will work out long term or not.

Sort of this. You’ve been of two dates, his message was incredibly mild. If he didn’t want to see you naked presumably he wouldn’t be seeing you.

Meh it's a bit cheesy but nothing to be offended by, you told him you were getting naked he implied he'd like to be there to see that, I think the user of the rubber duck was an attempt to lighten it/make it less overtly sexual.
If you like him but it's a bit soon just say haha maybe one day

It's a harmless comment. Poor bloke he's just having a flirty laugh with you.

Buy she didn't say that did she? She just said she was about have a bath.

It was a bit naff, but not that bad.

If I liked him, then I would be happy to hear that he would potentially like to be my ducky. At least I am not wasting time with someone who isn't that bothered.

I would have replied with a jokey comment or emoji.

Agree.

But he’s not a complete stranger. She’s actually met him for dates and presumably thought he was reasonably mature.

Personally I don’t think the comment was that bad, it was more a clumsy attempt at flirting.

But what matters is how it makes you feel - if you don’t like it either say something or don’t reply to it . I’d probably go with the latter and skip over it.

He will notice you’ve ignored it and maybe flirt differently!

If you have been intimate with him and it was nice, it's just a cosy thing to say.

I think this is the most British thing I have ever read! Cosy?