To wonder how people aren’t embarrassed by going on “Sort Your Life Out”

[ThePunnyPeachDuck]

Their houses are shit holes and they are sob storying Stacey Solomon

I would rather torch my house and all the stuff in it then have to listen to her screechy voice all day

Just tidy your house up you dirty sods

My house was probably the cleanest it's ever been during Covid as there was little else to do so I agree with you there. Ditto children not toilet trained or able to put their own coats on because of Covid.

YABU

Stacey Solomon is really good at her job. She’s a good presenter and manages the families really well. Having a regional accent is not something to be ashamed of.

Sort Your Life Out is one of the least embarrassing reality shows out there. Naked attraction, big brother, married at first sight and many more are much worse.

Most of the people who go on are demonstrably not “lazy sods”. Most are people working full time with caring responsibilities on top who aren’t in a position to chuck money at problems and outsource labour.

Lots of people have a disordered relationship with “stuff”. It’s often based on past trauma or bereavement or past experience of poverty. When you are poor it’s much harder to just chuck stuff away knowing you can’t afford to replace it. You keep not very practical furniture because you can’t change it, you spend your money on food rather than emulsion or cute spice racks to store toddlers books. People who are comfortable their whole lives will never understand how much that hangs over you, even when you drag yourself out of it. Throwing away stuff that isn’t broken is not as straightforward for everyone because we don’t all have the same choices. The people they show represent so many people and are relatable. Very few people just say “I don’t gaf about any of this stuff - let’s just chuck it”. It’s interesting to see people attempt to reset their priorities and Stacey really hand holds people along that path.

People ARE taking ownership of their lives - that is literally what they are doing and it inspires others who watch it to make changes too.

The one on last night was a repeat, I am amazed they let the ex in with everyone there. I do feel he should have come in first to clear , maybe seen his girls , but the poor mum looked so mortified to see him going through his garage things. I know she must have agreed to it, but it felt wrong. I know I couldn’t have done this!
It is hard letting go of things , but sometimes it has to be done. I feel more sorry for the horders with an actual diagnosis as well, they really can’t throw anything out.
Like any kind of condition, it must be so hard to live with.

I agree that Stacey is a good presenter with a lovely team around her. All the hugging wouldn’t be my thing, but she cares and tries hard and wants to help people.

I still remember the one where they announced how many knitting needles they’d found, and I glanced over at my collection which is at least twice as big. I am not decluttering those!

My house isn't particularly overcrowded, & I have one set of pots etc.
I'm not at all minimalist but I do try to incorporate some minimilist principles and try to avoid over consumption - regardless stuff finds its way into my house, just like everyone else. It's starting to feel full-ish.

I LOVE the idea of someone laying all my stuff out in a warehouse and I could then effectively "SHOP MY STUFF" and pick out all the stuff I want to keep & the rest can go. Meanwhile the gorgeous Rob would be fixing my kitchen. Perfect.

I LOVE this post.

Very well said @Arseynal

It's quite worrying that so many other posters can't understand that the people helped on SYLO are different from them.

*THAN THAN THAN!

Some people’s lack of imagination that other people might lead different lives, have different strengths, face different battles astounds me.

I think SYLO is done quite sensitively to explain how homes end up in that state (unlike that awful Kim & Aggie programme from years ago) . And if someone like the OP has actually watched it I'm surprised they can’t grasp some of the reasons why.

I saw they were looking for participants. I started applying because I really need the help but then thought about everything being broadcast and stopped. I couldn’t bear people I know seeing everything and judging.

I didn’t mind Kim and Aggi tbh ( although apparently they didn’t get on!)
I think they usually found people who understood they were being brutal , but it was a form of tough love’
Times were different then too, it wouldn’t get made these days as people wouldn’t put up with it or them !
At least Stacey and Dilly are considerate

The usual attention seekers that go on these tacky programmes. 🤷‍♀️

I have wondered the same thing myself. Maybe they are utterly desperate?

Naked Attraction.

I feel sorry for them. There's a reason why people end up like that and it isn't always laziness.
I can see how these shows are exploitative but on the other hand, people with problems are being helped. A mutually beneficial arrangement.

I would love to do this.... just for the opportunity to strip everything out of my house into another space, sort it all out in a timeframe and start again. With two sen teens - one doing exams - there is no way I will get that space or time in another way sadly.

The ones I have seen always involve a trauma, which is sad but I still couldn’t bear to live in those houses.

I’ve only seen a few but the people were not poor.

I don’t think the ones with Stacey are poor as such, just overwhelmed or trying to juggle too much.
I am amazed with how much people have , but if you don’t throw things out you end up with just loads of stuff , you need to be ruthless really and not just hold on to things. It is tricky.

Did you not see the sentence about "past experience of poverty".

You are in such an awful situation at the moment, @MistressoftheDarkSide - my heart goes out to you, and I hope that @ThePunnyPeachDuck reads your post and feels bad for how nasty her post was, and how it has made you feel. Sadly I doubt she is capable of such decent feelings, though.

Ah no, sorry.

That sounds so hard. Could you not get help with the relative? Carers in or residential care? Incontinence would be the thing that would break me, I think. Neighbour had to shower her husband (double incontinence and dementia) three times a day. All sympathy to you.

What ARE you on about? You sound like a nutcase!

If you can’t work it out, I can’t help you.