To wonder how people aren’t embarrassed by going on “Sort Your Life Out”

[ThePunnyPeachDuck]

Their houses are shit holes and they are sob storying Stacey Solomon

I would rather torch my house and all the stuff in it then have to listen to her screechy voice all day

Just tidy your house up you dirty sods

I love Stacey and the team, particularly Dilly. She has a very interesting back story as she was adopted and her mum had serious mental health problems and was a hoarder. Dilly's bedroom was her sanctuary. Now her mum is elderly and lives with her - she said something along the lines of "she took me in and cared for me when I needed it, so I'm here for her now when she needs it." I was really moved by that. So when she's going in to help those families she knows exactly what it's like to live like that from a child's point of view. It's very poignant when you see her with the children.

I think you need to be more embarrassed about what you have exposed about your own way of thinking about other people.

IIRC, in the projected photos of the unhealthy diet, they’d be wearing baseball caps and chavvy jewellery and the like!

I remember that one. It was moving.

A lot of the people on it have seemingly had a really hard time and it does change their life. I find it a really nice programme. I wouldn't be ashamed to be on it, nor judge people for having cluttered homes. I'd find it fascinating and liberating to have all my stuff laid out like that! Watching it inspires me to declutter!

Is there a show where grown women who should be able to use simple punctuation can publicly share their ignorance?

I don't think it's beggar, something for nothing society. Ludicrous comment. Let's hope none of your friends or family ever need help, eh, op? You'd soon see them off with a flea in their ear, wouldn't you? You sound like the epitome of kindness.

There’s a huge middle ground between being ‘perfect’ and tidying up!!

Most of it is because people have a morbid fascination and tune in to watch this stuff. Like the poverty porn documentaries. Often the people in it are being exploited for viewing figures and don't realise. Hording has been in the headlines again recently and one person struggling with thier hoarding had already been on one of these programmes and had their house sorted out then just filled it back up with rubbish again.

Stacey Solomon used to give me irrational rage. Then over time I've seen her in various things and honestly she seems really genuine and kind. She can be a bit full on and shrieky but I just can't dislike her anymore. I can think of worse people to help me declutter. I can't even have school mums round when the house is at its worst though so I definitely wouldn't be taking it on TV. I wish I was better at it though. We sort of live by the policy of if the kids are fed and clean, everyone has clean clothes, clean dishes for cooking and clean kitchen then the general mess and clutter gets let go. Takes about 2 hours to properly get the living areas presentable for company though. We both work full time, eldest child has additional needs resulting in little sleep and youngest is a pre schoolers. I try to give myself grace. Worst the house has been is after a series of hospitalisations, say every 6 weeks a 3 night hospital stay over a 3 year period. Neither the house nor my mental health have ever been 100% the same. I dunno, maybe I do need a wee trip on that show...

I watched it this evening and felt a bit uncomfortable with the whole - their dad left me and shacked up with someone else airing. Then in strolls dad.
I’m a single parent of 3 and I manage to tidy up the house and keep on top of mess. I just don’t understand how they get it to the point that the lounge is just full of crap. And the oldest daughter is a teenager - what she couldn’t hang up a few clothes and tidy her room instead of pirouetting around given her mum runs round after her every night of the week taking her to dance classes 🙄

Exactly, maybe people have a problem and think simply this is a way to address it rather than go down the MN route of an existential crisis on feeling judged every time someone walks past their house or hides behind closed doors and never lets people in?

I'd love help with my house although I wouldn't want to go on tv. My partner and I both work full time on shifts. I do ridiculous hours and have two young kids. To top that off I feel exhausted and ill all the time. I regularly only get 5-6 hours sleep a day and often this is split. I feel fucked and I've lost control of my home. My DP helps with stuff but doesn't seem to see the mess. It doesn't help that we're bursting at the seems and our house is too small.

Anyway, I can see how it happens because I'm there.

On SYLO the houses are not full of mouse droppings or broken loos ( like other programmes can be)
Usually there is a reason behind the clutter building up and people can’t stay on top of it.
The horder programs , the people on those tend to have more mental health issues and can’t bear anything being touched or moved around and causes them distress or break downs which is really hard to deal with. There appears to be a difference between the types of people who end up living like this.

I can't recommend decluttering enough. Sort everything into recycle, donate, rubbish and mercilessly clear the place. The effect it has on your mental health is incredible.

Stacey has no talent whatsoever, shouldn't be on TV, she's an average person

I’m in love with Dilly, she’s amazing. So resilient, and a combination of no nonsense and compassion. Marvellous woman. She’s my fantasy best mate.

I don’t know if Rob can cook but if he can, he’s the ideal man.

I think they pick their participants VERY carefully (no doubt after taking expert advice on who's got problems too big for a tidy up to solve) and I enjoy watching it. I always look round my house with a sharper eye afterwards and I've done some organising and decorating as a result.

I enjoy Stacey S as a presenter. She's very empathetic and you can see the kids respond to her strongly.

I found the one with the two deaf parents very moving. Re-designing their lounge so they could all communicate across the room with sign language more easily. Genius!

Besides have you seen the wait times for a decent builder these days? I'd probably submit to the embarrassment of a TV crew and my neighbours knowing if I got joinery by Rob and Dilly sorting my cupboards!

Also I love Ewan's little cleaning tips!

I know someone who went on embarrassing bodies because the NHS wouldn't help them. They had surgery in a private Harley Street hospital, paid for by channel 4.

Admittedly, not what I expected to see whilst channel hopping (back in the days of watching live terrestrial tv!) but totally understand why they did it.

Yes I agree with this. If you don't like a tv personality you can just not watch you know.

That's exactly what I was thinking. Too shy to go to your GP? Go on National TV instead.

And I'm fed up of this capitalist, individualist society where we're all supposed to be able to do everything in our own, all the time, with no support and no community.
People are social creatures, we help each other out. That's our nature. This idea that we are islands and to manage alone is new and wrong.

Of the few episodes I have watched, I feel empathy for the families. There’s usually a back story, often involving life challenges such as bereavement or disability. Stacey and the crew come across as genuine and the families seem genuinely warm towards them.

I can’t believe that people actually live like that tbh. It is sad but it’s also laziness. There was one when they blamed the mess on being made redundant in Covid … so they didn’t have a job yet they still didn’t tidy up?!? What in earth did they do all day?! Makes zero sense to me. It’s an interesting process though and I hate to see kids living in such a disaster so I’m glad it gets sorted .

Since covid my DH was diagnosed with cancer, my DM was sectioned her house of 60 years had to be emptied and sold, I had to care for a doubly incontinent relative for three years then I got long covid couldn’t stand up for 18 months combined with menopause and likely adhd.

Try running a farm plus another business on top of cleaning and tidying in the middle of all that, can you really not empathise with people’s circumstances changing?
I went from a clean but slightly eclectic home to utter chaos very quickly and would absolutely have welcomed any intervention (although not perhaps a televised one personally) to HRT, several expensive skips and a regular cleaner.