To say it’s stressful havivg a beautiful daughter?

[TheBlueUniform]

That’s it really. The attention they will draw and the fact they’ll have to grow up faster than they perhaps would. Men (including those that think that they have a right to chat up 16 year olds) will try it on and it makes me feel sick. DD is only 16 (though will be 17 in 4 months) but i already see men in their late 20’s:30’s leering at her and I get so mad and want to shout ‘she’s a child you creepy pervs’ but I don’t think anyone would care or react.

She isn’t a young child but she equally isn’t an adult yet and all the weirdos and creeps about make me feel so uneasy.

How do handle it if you’re in the same situation? I want to punch them all 😂

I get what you are saying but what about changing the narrative from a beautiful daughter to a strong/smart/sporty/whatever daughter?
i was a beautiful daughter but i was very unhappy in that role. I was a lot happier as a sporty/adventurous young woman and that got me the right attention and the respect i deserved. If you focus on beauty and looks, well people are going to remark beauty and looks. If you focus on sport (say) people will notice your adventures, your passion etc…
also not depending on look will give her more confidence about herself and she will be able to deal with men the way they should be dealt with.

Well you’ve basically said you favour your beautiful daughter over your other children… I suggest you tell them other children you love them everyday and lie to them that you don’t think looks are important as I’d imagine you’re going to have some problems in the future unless they’ve already picked up on it. Some people really shouldn’t have children.

I have always been unattractive - not just plain, but ugly. The male attention I received in my teens was a barrage of insults. I remember once being on a school coach trip; we were parked at the side of the road waiting to leave, and a group of young men actually gathered in front of my window and made barking/howling noises at me until the coach pulled away. Numerous strangers doing similar, sometimes simply shouting 'you're ugly' at me from across the road.

It's far from ideal for women of any age to be letched at and perved over, but given the choice I would rather have had that than my lot in life.

Thank goodness for the invisibility cloak of middle age.

I predict your child is going to have issues when he’s older.

I think everyone has experienced unwanted attention from men at all ages, including when very young. I know that I did from the age of about 12 and grew up around unhealthy examples of male behaviour.

Unfortunately I have witnessed men leering at my 17 year old daughter, this has been happening for the past few years. I normally catch the man's eye and say 'do you mind, shes x years old'. My daughter now has perfected a certain 'look' when she catches them staring that means they very quickly look away.

I was about to say this- I’ve seen ugly girls leered at . it’s usually what they are wearing that draws the attention.

The issue is the men (and occasionally other women) - they always find something to comment on, some way to either pull us down or to make us think we need their validation. We don't. I also think there's beauty in every human being, even if some folk fail to find it.

It’s no doubt stressful for your daughter Op….

having an odd bod for a mother

'Ugly' girls? 🙄

Jesus. School uniform?

I'm not sure this is quite the story you think it is.

I hope the poor boy himself was actually unaware at least.

Grim.

That isn’t any less victim-blaming than saying that it was due to their beauty

I was assaulted wearing a baggy coat with my hair in a messy bun, btw.

I was 11, not particularly attractive, not yet developed in the boob area, and wearing a stunning sludge green school duffel coat the first time I was perved on. The man (maybe about 20?) asked me if I was a virgin, then asked if I'd like not to be.

When my mum arrived (I'd been waiting for her to pick me up) she chased that fucker across the park and threatened to wash his mouth out with soap. I was weirdly embarrassed by her actions at the time but now obviously understand them.

Men can be disgusting and sadly a girl or woman doesn't have to be the most beautiful in the world to attract unwarranted and unpleasant attention.

You think it’s disgusting for 30/40 year olds to perv on a 16 year old but have no issue with people leering at your 12 year old son. How hypocritical. Your son is a child, you need to protect him not encourage sexualised comments 🤢

fully agree with this. I have fully utilised my “pretty privilege” and feel very fortunate. However I’ve also been on the receiving end of pure jealousy a lot of my life. I’d still rather take the beauty as it’s granted me access to things I otherwise wouldn’t have experienced.

my daughter is very beautiful and although only 6 I can see the bitchiness starting already. It’s our jobs to equip them to handle both ends of the scale by teaching boundaries and self worth

Jesus Christ. You know men rape babies and old women don’t you? I wonder if the baby was wearing something too short to entice the man?

They are not leering at him. They are saying he has a beautiful face, which he does. And they are usually the mothers of his friends. Asian Australians in particular and Australians in general in my peers and my own age group do not think this is 'pedo' behaviour.

You have decided that's leering. I have never seen anyone leer at him.

Especially with a mother like you, let’s just get him on the street corner? Shall we 🤢

You're a nurse and think it's 'paedo behaviour' to call a child beautiful?

How odd.

How are your chats with the safeguarding team going when you call them up to 'report suspected paedo, just called a child beautiful?'

And can you point me to the NMC standards about 'paedos'?

We all know what you said. Stop making excuses and stop sexualising your 12 year old son

It's nothing to do with when they started puberty. I think some people dont realise the age of the female they are looking at.

'It's nothing to do with when they started puberty. I think some men people dont realise the age of the female they are looking at.'