Page 6 | Is friend a CF? Wedding Edition!

Goldfish92 · 2025-06-01T20:45:16+00:00

Finally after many years & cancelling and rebooking our wedding, me and DH to be are tying the knot this summer. A few weeks ago, DFriend announces she has booked her own wedding a couple of weeks later. This itself would never be an issue, I realise I do not have a monopoly on wedding and I’m not the only bride in the world! However… As we’re trying to save money wherever we can, I have been making lots of the decor/favours/flowers etc for my wedding. I had been sharing a lot of this with DF as we share everything & are very close. She had now started to say, firstly jokingly now seriously that she’ll have all my decor after me (for free!) and she likes all my ideas etc. She’s asking what my dress is like, what food, music etc too. I’m also feeling pressured to help with her wedding when I already feel maxed out trying to get everything done for ours with 6 weeks to go! I’ve stopped sharing things with her as it’s a) making me feel uncomfortable but b) like she’s stealing my wedding! I’d also quite like to resell as much as possible and I feel pressured to give it all to her! It’s also making me feel like my day isn’t my own. AIBU?!

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Goldfish92 · 09/06/2025 21:59

Ok I got brave and told her that I’d need to sell any decorations to recoup some of the cost & I’d also not be comfortable her having too many of the decorations as I’d put a lot of work into them. She told me to look how many people are selling them and I’d be getting rid of them for nothing & I was being a bit silly…!

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shutupgardenbirds · 09/06/2025 22:10

Tell her that instead of selling the flowers and decorations you're donating some of it to the local care home and the other bits to 'dresses for angels' (dresses for angels take wedding/bridesmaid dresses and turn them into gowns/beds/other beautiful items for babies who are stillborn).
Hopefully that will silence her into submission because it'll take someone very grabby to argue against that.

Darragon · 09/06/2025 22:13

Good for you standing up to her.

ifIwerenotanandroid · 09/06/2025 22:27

Goldfish92 · 09/06/2025 21:59

Ok I got brave and told her that I’d need to sell any decorations to recoup some of the cost & I’d also not be comfortable her having too many of the decorations as I’d put a lot of work into them. She told me to look how many people are selling them and I’d be getting rid of them for nothing & I was being a bit silly…!

Yeah, that's CF talk.😂She's fluent in it.

Fine, it's silly. You can be as silly as you like. It's nothing to do with her.

Helpagirlyout · 09/06/2025 22:31

Goldfish92 · 09/06/2025 21:59

Ok I got brave and told her that I’d need to sell any decorations to recoup some of the cost & I’d also not be comfortable her having too many of the decorations as I’d put a lot of work into them. She told me to look how many people are selling them and I’d be getting rid of them for nothing & I was being a bit silly…!

Great! She can buy someone else's then if they're such a bargain.
She's suchhhh a CF! Well done for being brave!

godmum56 · 09/06/2025 22:50

Helpagirlyout · 09/06/2025 22:31

Great! She can buy someone else's then if they're such a bargain.
She's suchhhh a CF! Well done for being brave!

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This....tell her to get in quick and get her hands on some of the bargain ones!!

mummytrex · 09/06/2025 22:58

You've explained. Don't elaborate. If she has the cheek to ask again (v likely) just repeat and don't engage / explain further. These people thrive on burrowing through perfectly rational explanations as they have no shame.

mummytrex · 09/06/2025 22:59

In your shoes I'd sooner bin what you have than give to her purely based on her cheeky bloody response!

Itisjustmyopinion · 09/06/2025 23:00

I see you have had a lot of the #bekind type of comments. Screw that, she is a CF who knows exactly what she is doing

If I was friends with both of you I wouldn’t have an issue speaking to her for you and telling her that she is not only a CF but she is a bit deluded copying another bride when it’s the same guests

Do you have someone who can talk to her on your behalf and let you get on with enjoying the last few weeks before your wedding without being stressed?

Macklemup · 09/06/2025 23:01

She really is a CF.
Do not respond further.
She asked.
You responded.
Discussion over.
I really think she is a CF and it would definitely change how I'd feel about her.

Macklemup · 09/06/2025 23:02

mummytrex · 09/06/2025 22:58

You've explained. Don't elaborate. If she has the cheek to ask again (v likely) just repeat and don't engage / explain further. These people thrive on burrowing through perfectly rational explanations as they have no shame.

This.
CF come back and argue.
The trick is not to engage further.

SolDeJaneiro · 09/06/2025 23:07

Goldfish92 · 09/06/2025 21:59

Ok I got brave and told her that I’d need to sell any decorations to recoup some of the cost & I’d also not be comfortable her having too many of the decorations as I’d put a lot of work into them. She told me to look how many people are selling them and I’d be getting rid of them for nothing & I was being a bit silly…!

She’s not just cheeky she’s damn well rude to call you silly!!
make sure you keep hold of them to sell/donate until after her wedding, that way she can’t offer you a ridiculously low offer for them on the premise she’s doing you a favour, taking them off your hands….
What a cow she is!

Snowfalling · 09/06/2025 23:20

Goldfish92 · 09/06/2025 21:59

Ok I got brave and told her that I’d need to sell any decorations to recoup some of the cost & I’d also not be comfortable her having too many of the decorations as I’d put a lot of work into them. She told me to look how many people are selling them and I’d be getting rid of them for nothing & I was being a bit silly…!

Well she can buy them for 'nothing' from one the many people selling them then can't she?

You're allowed to be as "silly" as you like, these decorations belong to you. It's up to you what you do with them.

WearyAuldWumman · 09/06/2025 23:40

Helpagirlyout · 09/06/2025 22:31

Great! She can buy someone else's then if they're such a bargain.
She's suchhhh a CF! Well done for being brave!

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This. Great response.

Nanny0gg · 09/06/2025 23:44

Goldfish92 · 09/06/2025 21:59

Ok I got brave and told her that I’d need to sell any decorations to recoup some of the cost & I’d also not be comfortable her having too many of the decorations as I’d put a lot of work into them. She told me to look how many people are selling them and I’d be getting rid of them for nothing & I was being a bit silly…!

So? It's up to you

Stick to your guns

Zonder · 09/06/2025 23:56

She's going to look really silly copying your wedding. At least yours comes first.

JumpingDizzy · 10/06/2025 00:25

I'd be going LC with her. She sounds awful.

LAMPS1 · 10/06/2025 00:26

She really is determined to steal your glory for free OP, no matter what it takes.
She is rude as well as extremely cheeky and pushy. And deserves no more interaction from you whatsoever.

You arent being silly at all. You are creative, kind and wise enough not to fall for her audacity. Block her now and enjoy your wedding knowing it’s all your own precious work that has made it a beautiful occasion.

greenishredblue · 10/06/2025 00:51

I would not worry about the dress you are getting married first and she will look like the copy cat.

we had a CF before our wedding my mother in laws friend who wanted her daughter to be a flower girl. There was no way as we already had bridesmaids and a flower girl. This girl was also 14 so I bit old really for a flower girl. The 14 year old also kept going on about it not to us but to my MIL.

They then took a different tack saying they wanted to know the colour of the bridesmaid dresses especially the other flower girl so they did not clash!!!!
so my mil showed them a picture of a puffy yellow hideous dress but said “are you sure this is so you don’t clash” and they both said yes.

i was very confused getting to the church to see MILs friends 14 year old daughter stood outside with a hideous puffy yellow dress that looked like it has come out the late1980s, early 1990s and MILs friend looking like she was chewing a wasp. While my other bridesmaids in a gorgeous red just got out the other car plus the 5 year old flower girl in white with red accessories and a red belt.

MiLs friend stormed off with her daughter and MiL has never heard from them again and she gets ignored if they meet.

i did not know any of this has gone down till after the wedding

bonkers stuff

greenishredblue · 10/06/2025 00:53

Plus the “friend” and her son who rung me the morning of the wedding asking if I could arrange transport for them to the reception. Which I did by ringing another friend.
they did not turn up and never seen or heard from them since

Gundogday · 10/06/2025 06:54

greenishredblue · 10/06/2025 00:51

I would not worry about the dress you are getting married first and she will look like the copy cat.

we had a CF before our wedding my mother in laws friend who wanted her daughter to be a flower girl. There was no way as we already had bridesmaids and a flower girl. This girl was also 14 so I bit old really for a flower girl. The 14 year old also kept going on about it not to us but to my MIL.

They then took a different tack saying they wanted to know the colour of the bridesmaid dresses especially the other flower girl so they did not clash!!!!
so my mil showed them a picture of a puffy yellow hideous dress but said “are you sure this is so you don’t clash” and they both said yes.

i was very confused getting to the church to see MILs friends 14 year old daughter stood outside with a hideous puffy yellow dress that looked like it has come out the late1980s, early 1990s and MILs friend looking like she was chewing a wasp. While my other bridesmaids in a gorgeous red just got out the other car plus the 5 year old flower girl in white with red accessories and a red belt.

MiLs friend stormed off with her daughter and MiL has never heard from them again and she gets ignored if they meet.

i did not know any of this has gone down till after the wedding

bonkers stuff

That’s hilarious. I love your mil.

Eddielizzard · 10/06/2025 07:08

You've said no now so that should be the end of it. If she asks you again I'd stop responding. What a CF!

Of course you should sell your decorations. There's no reason why you wouldn't get a good price. She can pay for them if she likes... But that would be so weird.

thelittlestkiwi · 10/06/2025 10:20

Does her fiancé look like yours OP?

4forksache · 10/06/2025 10:30

“Be blunt
“I need to sell them to recoup money and anyway it’ would look really weird everything being the same as my wedding. It’s already weird that your dress is so similar to mine”

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Goldfish92 · 10/06/2025 20:55

greenishredblue · 10/06/2025 00:51

I would not worry about the dress you are getting married first and she will look like the copy cat.

we had a CF before our wedding my mother in laws friend who wanted her daughter to be a flower girl. There was no way as we already had bridesmaids and a flower girl. This girl was also 14 so I bit old really for a flower girl. The 14 year old also kept going on about it not to us but to my MIL.

They then took a different tack saying they wanted to know the colour of the bridesmaid dresses especially the other flower girl so they did not clash!!!!
so my mil showed them a picture of a puffy yellow hideous dress but said “are you sure this is so you don’t clash” and they both said yes.

i was very confused getting to the church to see MILs friends 14 year old daughter stood outside with a hideous puffy yellow dress that looked like it has come out the late1980s, early 1990s and MILs friend looking like she was chewing a wasp. While my other bridesmaids in a gorgeous red just got out the other car plus the 5 year old flower girl in white with red accessories and a red belt.

MiLs friend stormed off with her daughter and MiL has never heard from them again and she gets ignored if they meet.

i did not know any of this has gone down till after the wedding

bonkers stuff

Love this

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