Cleaner threw away/moved/stole my secret booze stash

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I rarely drink, I haven’t since Dv was born and since Peri kicked in and made me ill, every time I did.
Things have been stressful recently and Ive been having the odd drink on the balcony at sunset on my own. I usually don’t drink it all and usually put the remainder behind my bedroom patio shutters outside

Anyway, I came to have some tonight and they’ve all gone, cleaners came yesterday so an assuming it’s them as they clean the patio area too

Why would they do that?

Ask the cleaner, 'There were a couple of bottles on the patio, where are they?'

Your “concern”?

6, until the last couple of weeks, the last time was just before christmas for a meet up with friends, before then September ish and before then a leaving party in July. Probably two drinks at each of those occasions, that’s barely drinking in my eyes. Before Dd I’d drink Friday and some Saturday nights, also wasn’t excessive, but now (until recently) it’s a handful of times per year

Harsh.

How many times this month, how many times this week and how many all somersbys at a sitting

Would a 6 year old be traumatised by seeing a bottle of cider in the fridge? 🤔

Is it not warm to drink? That doesn’t sound at all enjoyable

Don’t you think it would be more helpful to model positive behaviour around alcohol? That definitely doesn’t include having a secret stash on the balcony (including your empties).

Twice a week maybe, last 2/3 weeks

The drinking outside in secret and hiding the bottles is far more worrisome than a 6yo seeing their parent have a glass of wine with dinner in front of them. Your past has understandably given you issues.

So OTT!

No of course not, but seeing me sat drinking alone..I know she wouldn’t be traumatised by that, I just don’t like it somehow

She doesn’t know it’s there. As I said, she’s only seen us have a glass or two at parties with friends

But doing it in secret is worse and makes it seem like something to be hidden.
As I said before you need to normalise it. You are an adult, you are allowed to drink an alcoholic drink.

It does sound like you need counselling to get over the issues from your past surrounding alcohol, so maybe try and arrange this.

True.

I’m not drinking outside in secret, I sit there as it’s so peaceful to look out at sunset, I don’t want a glass of wine with dinner etc

But surely you'd put them in the kitchen or something. Not take it upon yourself to dispose of them??

Make up your mind, op 🙄
Do you hide your alcohol because your child would be scarred by the mere sight of the bottle sitting in the fridge, or because your DH would “pinch” it?
Or something else entirely that you’re in complete denial about? My money’s on the last one.

I would say I 'barely drink' as I have a glass at Christmas and on New Years Eve, and maybe as a toast at a wedding. I don't have occasional drinks every day or two and hide the bottles behind patio shutters. You seem to think other people are downing a bottle a night, but that's the exception not the norm.
I think your DH has found them and moved them, possibly concerned you are drinking more than you say you are. I assume he knows you like to pop out to have a drink outside, alone?

That’s what I thought? Maybe chuck the half open one away, but not the unopened one

This is insane. OP does not need an armchair diagnosis from someone who knows nothing about her!

You’ve literally called it your secret booze stash in your title, but whatever. And can see from your later update that your DH probably doesn’t know, as it just happens to correspond with him doing bedtime. But not secret.

Drinking warm, half opened bottles of drink hidden behind your shutters alone is totally normal.

If I saw small bottles outside especially with one opened, I would assume they were rubbish.

What she’s posting makes the issue quite clear.

Its only the last couple of weeks, I drank similar to your pattern before. Dh doesn’t know I don’t think as it’s just my quiet time if it’s his turn for Dds bedtime