Dh & Dd going out early every weekend

[Doanythingtostartalloveragain]

Recently, Dh & Dd have started going out on weekend mornings, to a cafe and playground usually. They are both earlier risers than me and i’m usually still in bed. Whilst I like the occasional quiet time alone at home, i’m finding i’m getting up every weekend alone, they then come back and Dd usually plays with kids on the road for the day, so we aren’t getting any family time together.
Dd says she doesn’t get to see Dh much as he works more, so likes to do things with him, which I understand, but it leaves me having done nothing most weekends and feeling a bit sad

Why? Why can’t they have some time together?

Dad is “excluding” OP for on a weekend morning because he has the audacity to do something to occupy his child while the OP sleeps but OP isn’t excluding the father any time she does something after school with DD while dad works 🤦‍♀️

Get up earlier and go with them.

Do what your husband's doing and arrange something to do as a family.

Book time with them. This is going to get harder as she gets older and develops her own life, so get into the habit.

Or enjoy the quiet time and get on with things.

Anything, but stop sitting around passively moping.

I’m struggling to understand how this is a bad thing op.

Because this is MN where a man’s place is permanently in the wrong.

One weekend get up early on one of the days and join them then the next weekend once they are home you all go out for the afternoon. Family day not friends day.

It’s not it’s a nice thing.

Ok now I read this bit maybe it’s a DH thing. Is he spending anytime with you at all? If he’s out each morning with DD then comes in and goes out I don’t see how he’s spending anytime with you and yes I’d feel excluded then as well.

One on one quality time with your parent isn’t a nice thing?

Maybe OP’s husband should also be having a lie in if he’s falling asleep in the afternoon…

Leaving a 6 year old alone for hours because nether of them want to get up with her sounds like such a shit home life for a young child.

@Sofiewoo

but lots of parents do it so their six year old just spends a bit of time reading or playing in their bedroom
for a bit rather than the household getting up at 6am or whatever. That’s not shit.

And who would look after the six year old when both parents are in bed?

@faerietales

lots of parents do it so their six year old just spends a bit of time reading or playing in their bedroom
for a bit rather than the household getting up at 6am or whatever.

What’s a nice thing?

I think most six year olds would rather be at the park with their dad instead of entertaining themselves while their parents sleep.

Personally I can’t understand why OP is kicking up such a fuss - having a lie-in and a morning to yourself while your partner deals with the the kids sounds perfect to me!

She has a young child. I don’t think anyone wants to get up at the weekend but newsflash - we have to adapt to what works for our family. 7:30 is hardly that early!

@TaggieO

it is early, let’s be honest!

Ask him to it one morning I.e Saturday and you plan a family day out on the Sunday ? It’s really not that hard? I’d love it if DH took the kids out early one morning a week! He probably thinks he’s doing something nice letting you have a lie in quiet morning.

And if she thinks it’s too early she’s free to stay in bed and catch up on her sleep 🙈.

I guarantee if this was the other way around absolutely no one would be telling a woman she should spend 2 hours at home completing CHORES with her 6 year old rather than going out for coffee and the park because her DH “wants to go” but on his terms and after his lie in. No one should wake him but no one should have any fun without him while he sleeps in.

Anyone remember the thread where the OP would lay in bed all morning barking orders at her husband whilst he ran around trying to get the kids ready for school? And her AIBU was that she said he deliberately disturbed her whilst doing this? 😂

100%. It’s batshit how much people will insist the man is in the wrong, no matter what 🤣

Get out of bed then?! Non event.

400 posts in and we still don't know the age of the child