I've come to breakfast on my own

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Friends wedding. 2 of my friends went to whole day, me just invited to reception. All stayed at same hotel. Planned to have breakfast together or lunch if up late. Loose plan. I woke and got up at 8, got ready and text at 9:20, one said she was stirring and other still asleep. Waited an hour until 10:30 and said I was ready and going as breakfast finishes at 11. Called one of them, no answer. Then they text me saying they were only just having a shower so wouldn't make breakfast. I've come on my own and gunna drive home after, need to get home to feed my pets and don't wanna waste a whole day off. aibu?

Leave them to do what thete doing... you do you I wouldn't take offence at that they're probably hungover tired ..if you want yo go home you do what you want to do don't stress it x

No. I was extremely hungover the day after my wedding and even thought we planned a family breakfast I was in no fit state to attend 🙈😂

When’s checkout? Might have hung around lounge until then but had breakfast earlier.

"Planned to have breakfast together or lunch if up late. Loose plan"

You agreed either or depending on how late you were all up. Why are they suddenly rude because they got up late and missed breakfast?

Why do you need indication on how long they'll be when it's not lunchtime yet, and plans were loose (when you posted).

Sorry OP, you come across as either needy or an overthinker.

Are they new friends you're still getting to know?

If you like to have confirmed plans, then you could have said, will be down for 10am if anyone else is up and will be leaving after, done.

Why have they been rude? It was a loose plan, breakfast or lunch. They didn't wake up in time for a plan that didn't exist

True, most people don't unless parents involved who need help.

I've only ever had one morning after wedding breakfast, with parents.

plans weren't clear the night before;
morning messages seem vague as well.
sounds like the friends were just doing their own thing:
Slow morning, lie in, what ever.

If you all are really close friends then there likely would've been firmer meet-up plans.

Hindsight says it would have been better for you to go for breakfast as soon as you were ready. Then you're at least not hungry while waiting for your friends.

You could make the next meal second breakfast/ brunch or just have a drink while they eat if you're not hungry enough for lunch when they're ready for it.

I can barely be bothered to type this response to such an unimportant question. Does it really matter whether YABU or YANBU?

I would have just accepted they weren't coming down and gone on my own much earlier if I was hungry. I guess I'm just older and wiser, I've also been the one to not go down so never expect anyone else to when on holiday/do. I did go away with the girls and we were going to meet at 11am after flight arriving early morning and 3am at hotel. I got up, they all came down 2 hours later, so after that I thought ill just do me. Xxx

I wouldn't blame the one friend for not replying ASAP. When I'm asleep, you could literally jump on my head and I'd sleep through it 🙈

You're not unreasonable for going to breakfast, but equally if they feel like rubbish, I'd not expect them to roll on down. It was probably a bit ambitious to expect an early start the morning after a big night.

Jesus wept- why does life have to be so complex?

you texted at 9:20 - no response... so you shuffle down to breakfast and enjoy it if you're hungry.

then pop back and message "heya snoozy people! Shall we meet at DeliciousLunchPlace at 1:30?"