I've come to breakfast on my own

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Friends wedding. 2 of my friends went to whole day, me just invited to reception. All stayed at same hotel. Planned to have breakfast together or lunch if up late. Loose plan. I woke and got up at 8, got ready and text at 9:20, one said she was stirring and other still asleep. Waited an hour until 10:30 and said I was ready and going as breakfast finishes at 11. Called one of them, no answer. Then they text me saying they were only just having a shower so wouldn't make breakfast. I've come on my own and gunna drive home after, need to get home to feed my pets and don't wanna waste a whole day off. aibu?

If they would rather go just the two of them then they would have got up and gone for breakfast. No one would miss out on breakfast all together because they didn’t want to go with someone.

You said you had a loose plan to either have breakfast or lunch if not up in time for breakfast. They had a lie in, no set plan was made so they haven’t been rude.

You’re only being unreasonable because you seem
to have a problem with them not coming to breakfast with you. You made loose plans to have breakfast or lunch, they’re obviously still sleeping/not ready in time to get breakfast so will likely be getting lunch instead (which was part
of the loose plans). You’re choosing to go home instead of going to lunch with them and that’s fine. They’re not being unreasonable for not coming to breakfast and you’re not being unreasonable for going to breakfast without them since you were up and ready.

I hope I didn't hit a nerve 👹

Nobody is gonna be sober or up that early (even lunchtime) after a full day at a wedding.

YANBU to drive home, they ANBU to sleep in!

Planned to have breakfast together or lunch if up late. Loose plan

I'd say you can have loose plans like that when you are vaguely talking about a wedding in the future. It really needs to be firmed up the night before though so you're actually all doing the right thing!

How have they been rude? Because one of them might be sleeping instead of replying..? Do they have form or are you normally this dramatic?

2 of my friends went to whole day, me just invited to reception

Is that relevant or are you cross they were there longer without you?!

You could have waited, you chose not to. In the same way they they decided not to come down for breakfast. You’re all adults, you can do what you like. No one is being rude but you are starting to sound unreasonable.

“No indication from them of how long they’ll be”

Instead of asking MN why don’t you just speak to your friends? Ask them how long you’ll be or tell them you’re going because you need to get back. You aren’t being rude by leaving and they aren’t being rude by taking their time. But the communication isn’t great. Are you ND? If not this is an overly dramatic thread about loose plans that haven’t materialised.

Yabu because the plan was breakfast or "lunch if up late". They've not abandoned the plan, they're just going for the lunch option.

If that didn't work for you, you should have agreed a firmer plan.

YABU and a tad dramatic.

If you wanted to go home early then fine but you can’t be annoyed that your friends woke up later than you.

I would have had breakfast, used the facilities in the hotel and then joined them for lunch and just had a coffee or something.

Surely it’s not a waste of a day if you’re using the hotel you actually paid for.

Loose plans can mean anything. They were probably tired or hungover from the wedding, what’s the big deal. You’re an adult surely you can go eat breakfast alone?

I think having the opinion that over half of the UK (and world) are weird because of one thing they have in common, is the most batshit thing I’ve ever heard.

I’m not sure anyone thinks that you are sensible or reasonable either after such a prejudiced comment.

I tend to judge people as individuals and not group them as ‘fucking weird’ just because they are different to me.

Sometimes things just don't work out the way we had planned.

They're allowed a lie in after a presumably late night at a wedding, you're allowed to go to breakfast and leave early.

I do not think you are too good at reading between the lines op.

No. Your concern is appreciated, given your general inability to look outside your own perspective.

Oh, but don't forget that your perfectly reasonable perspective will be defined as hitting a nerve - and pet owners are apparently not just weird but fucking weird 😁

Just message to say you've had breakfast and your off now as you need to sort pets and you hope they have a lovely lunch.

Personally I'd have gone down at 8am and not even messaged them.

I hate preplanned group breakfasts and like to eat alone and come round slowly.

When I was younger I'd have faffed about getting annoyed and tying myself in knots over something like this. At 38 I just do what I want to do.

You’re overthinking. It could be a little rude but the day after a wedding they’re probably knackered and hungover. I really wouldn’t give it another thought.

Yabu. If you had no intention of staying then you shouldn’t have agreed to ‘breakfast or lunch’! I’d be annoyed if I was your friends. Different if you had agreed to definitely meet for breakfast.

I was, after my own wedding and several bottles of prosecco.

Doesn't matter what I did the day before, how much I drank, how I've slept etc. I'm awake by 7am most days and STARVING. Just how my body clock works.

Only exception is if I'm ill. DH worries if I'm still asleep after 7.

I don't think I nor my feiends would give this a second thought..you were up and hungry, so you ate. They were still in bed, so will eat later.
No one is rude, everyone is an adult and can eat when they are hungry. I assume it was a late night, so all bets are off in regards to the next day.

They're maybe a teeny bit rude but honestly I don't blame them, they're probably just hungover and tired, the wedding is the big social event, late night... you're just more disciplined than them.

I've been them, it's normally me, I wouldn't even eat breakfast I'd sleep as long as I possibly could and then drag on clothes and drive home ASAP looking like hell. I'd have expected my friend who is more able to be up and at them to go to breakfast and get on with their day - especially if you'd all hung out the day/night before.
I'd not have an issue if I was either side of this situation - totally fair that you've got on with things, but also fair that after a big night they've chosen to sleep in and missed a very casually arranged hotel buffet.

YABU to be so extra and accusatory about this.

There was a loose plan, they were tired.

You sound like hard work.