I've come to breakfast on my own

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Friends wedding. 2 of my friends went to whole day, me just invited to reception. All stayed at same hotel. Planned to have breakfast together or lunch if up late. Loose plan. I woke and got up at 8, got ready and text at 9:20, one said she was stirring and other still asleep. Waited an hour until 10:30 and said I was ready and going as breakfast finishes at 11. Called one of them, no answer. Then they text me saying they were only just having a shower so wouldn't make breakfast. I've come on my own and gunna drive home after, need to get home to feed my pets and don't wanna waste a whole day off. aibu?

Just message them ….I need to get home to feed my pets so I’m setting off, see you soon.
Job done.

I would send a pleasant message. 'Taken full advantage of the buffet breakfast and am stuffed! Won't need to eat now until at least 9pm. Have a safe journey home. Was lovely seeing you.' And then leave.

No, you’re being sensible. Having to wait around for other people is the main reason I don’t go on holiday with friends……….PITA!

Don't jump to a conclusion that they didn't want your company. That way lies insecurity.
Simply different personalities to you, that's all. You the early bird, they'd rather sleep in.
When you've packed, knock on their door, so much nicer than a text, explain regrettably you have to leave for your pets, lovely seeing them etc.

I would more than likely be up early and want breakfast myself but I totally get others wouldn't and I would have happily eaten myself and left others to it

No one was rude

Having a lie in after a wedding to being lazy is a bit of a leap! Most likely someone's only opportunity for a lie in a long time.

Neither would I.

What have they done wrong?
"Planned to have breakfast together or lunch if up late. Loose plan"

They got up late, so it's lunch together.

They haven't been rude at all.

Nobody is being rude. You wanted an early breakfast and they wanted a lie in. I personally would kill for a lie in at the moment!!!

You both spent time together last night, so it’s not a huge deal if you don’t catch up again today. Just tell them you’re heading off, you had a lovely evening and will be in touch to arrange another fun night out soon.

Sorry OP you are unreasonable. You planned for breakfast OR lunch if up late. They were probably thinking that’s fine we can do lunch but you can’t do lunch as you need to get home? Surely that’s on you then for saying you can do lunch even though you can’t?

I would have gone when you were ready at 9.and then join them.for a brew if they were.around before breakfast finished ot join for lunch if they were.up late - and just enjoyed chilling in my room post breaky before checkout

I wouldn't call them rude. It was a loose plan and they told you they weren't ready and would skip it. You should have just texted at 9 or whenever you were hungry saying 'I'm going down now to breakfast. Hopefully see you there'. Then just start eating and if they don't come then no problem.

It sounded like lunch was an option so they were probably hoping to catch up with you then.

Too hungry to wait half an hour?

I wouldn't wait half an hour tbh, they are hungover, enjoying a lay down or both. Not an issue.
YANBU

I think it is rude if you leave. The plan was to meet for breakfast or lunch if you were up late. You could have just had coffee and a slice of toast followed by a light lunch or breakfast then coffee and maybe a slice of cake for lunch.

It sounds like you guys loosely said breakfast or lunch… but you need to get home to feed your pets so therefore couldn’t actually do lunch. They took the opportunity to have a longer sleep and content to miss breakfast.

You said yourself, it was a very vague plan to the extent you didn't specify what meal you were even meeting for let alone what time!

If you wanted to meet for breakfast you should have just said that but given the plan was for breakfast OR lunch there's nothing wrong with them aiming for lunch. Although I would have thought they'd have to have checked out before then!

I honestly don’t know how some people get through life. This is an absolute non issue

There are certain friendship groups full of angst and tension where this sort of thing would be the subject of snidey pass agg comments for months if not years “well we said to Bianca we’d meet for lunch but she stormed off home” etc.
I have been in them. You second guess yourself, walk on eggshells, bitch and gossip yourself eventually. You forget that friends are supposed to make you feel happy and good and supported and start to despise people who are your “best friends”
Other friendship groups, things are easy, happy, breezy. Meet for breakfast or don’t, no hidden agenda.
Sounds like you’re in the first type of group with these women. It’s horrible, I feel for you. Get out!

They're hung over and having a lie in, no firm plans were in place. I wouldn't have waited at all if I was hungry tbh. You shouldn't have agreed to breakfast or lunch if you needed to rush home before lunch. It's a total non event.

If you needed to get home why didn't you say?

Not being unreasonable at all, they made plans, they broke them, you have other things to do.
If they were that wasted last night, what will they be like for driving this morning/afternoon?

I've been in this situation many a time, I always make it down for breakfast and find a nice glass of fizz perfect with a full english!

YANBU to leave if you want but your plans were breakfast OR lunch so it’s perfectly okay for them to have had a lie-in.

Nah, your pets are more important than staying an extra couple of hours to see your friends. You most probably came across as rude and unsociable. This explains why you wasn't invited for the whole day.
Who was looking after your pets?
Can't they feed them if you had a pet sitter?

Where does it say they were wasted?
Maybe they just want a lie in and a bit of peace away from home / kids/ husbands or anything