Is drink driving ever right?!

[Lillylight]

Obviously the answer is a resounding NO! I know that. Everyone knows that…..right?

So how do I process/deal with my DH after he decided to drink and drive and just about manage to park on our drive?

In-laws response: Sweep it under the carpet.

DH’s response: It was just a mistake, I didn’t get caught so let’s not discuss it anymore or more accurately AT ALL.

Me: On OUR holiday alone as he missed the flight due to sleeping it off.

So he is an emotionally immature man that deals with his problems by numbing himself with alcohol rather than having the skills to sit with his difficult emotions , manage them and then make a better choice. He also has no discipline and sounds like he binge drinks as a result?

This will happen again. Once he gets away with it the first time, I expect he will start crossing that boundary more often. Missing a holiday because you are drunk driving over your football team losing and a row with partner is extreme behaviour. I’d consider your options here my dear as this will get worse and worse.

My friend's parents are alcoholics. He caught his father driving to the off-licence while pissed. After he threatened to put his parents into care his mother gave up, but his father developed dementia not long after and ended up in care anyway.

I think you know the answer to this? YANBU

Nope. Should be a zero limit to remove any doubt.

You can't have a zero limit because there are all sorts of things that have trace amounts of alcohol in them that would put you over a zero limit.