Criticised over my eating style

[Fernandez54]

Not sure how to explain this properly without it sounding petty/silly.

My partner does all of the cooking (we don’t live together), we tend to only eat once a day, usually late evening so by then I’m starving.

Last Night he made lasagne and a huge Greek salad which was in a big bowl. I proceeded to put some salad next to my lasagna, and he got really cross, said why I am mixing hot and cold food together stating “that’s disgusting”

He is a different culture to me and does eat a little differently…but the point of the post is , I will eat how I want! I stood up for myself and he said I was over reacting, but it put me off my meal then, and I did feel a bit ‘told off’

AiBU to be cross about this ?

Agree with this. My dp HATES sharing of food off same plate has a weird germ phobia about it. I dont care haha but respect his wishes.
I also love hot and cold together. I love sweet and salt together.
Pineapple on pizza kinda gal!!!! Dp's food makes me heave tbh (think: donner kebabs) but it's not on my plate so not my business!!!!!!

Ewww! That's gross.

See, whilst I get cultural differences, when in Rome and all that, but you’re not in Rome, you’re in the UK and eating lasagne with a Greek salad made by a Spaniard living and working in the UK, FFS.

I think eating a cold salad with a warm lasagne on the same plate (which I do) is the least of your worries. How does he, mixing a shared Greek salad and lasagne that he double dips get to tell you what you can eat and how.

He'd be getting the Heave Ho from me. What a tool.

Was he scolded from his parents for eating the salad your way? Is it unacceptable in his culture to mix salad with main course?

Imho there's people who like to put salad onto main plate and eat it together with main course (I like to do that) whilst others like to eat it from an extra bowl ( afterwars) (my parents like to do that). Both are ok. Critisising other for not doing it the same way is not ok.

I am.

And for some around the East Coast, it's what's for Xmas dinner.

Is he Italian? Mixing salad with your pasta is bad for your precious digestion and eating rules must never be broken or the sky will fall. You and your ironclad British tum will be fine, though, because we are barbarians who eat any old rubbish.

I had no idea the Spanish and Italians frowned on salad with your hot dinner. I'd assumed it was something we adopted from them. It certainly wasn't done here when I was a child.

Edit: neither was pasta

He’s Spanish lol

Close!

I’m sure she gets his saliva when they kiss…

Well each to their own! But I like a crispy salad on the plate next to my heavily calorific lasagne and, sacrilege....I might even have coleslaw and a fresh tomato & onion salad on the SAME plate.

Why on earth would you fill up with salad first?

I think that’s gross tbh.

I’m a little bit confused. You guys have been together for 3 years and you don’t feel you could buy your own food to eat during the day, even if you happen to be at ~his house?~ this sounds concerning? Is it just because of his habits that you also only eat once per day? How much of your time do you spend at his house? Have you got supportive friends and family/ a job/ your own finances? The fact he was able to cause an issue over you putting salad on your plate it sounds like he’s not really an ok bloke, and there seems to be other things going on..

I’m not been abused don’t worry. We don’t live together this eating routine is just at his when I’m there. I do have a job and friends. I was asking opinions on his reaction but appreciate your concern 😊

I love salad on a plate next to hot food 😁

I am clearly a disgrace. Never mind.

I love coleslaw and pizza together. I don’t eat pizza that often but when I do I kick myself if I haven’t got coleslaw to put on it.

Are you saying you don’t get the opportunity or offer to eat during the day when you’re at his?

It would be in my nature to deliberately pile the salad on my plate with the lasagne just to send a message.

He's at least an appalling host. Which he shouldn't be if he's good at his job!

Yeah. I don't share food or drinks with anyone, even my husband of 11 years. I don't love kissing either tbf 😂

This is not about culture but about control. He is making comments about how you eat, how you react to his criticism and how you dress. What’s next?

Personally I'd eat Greek salad in it's own bowl, but a more leafy salad with a vinegarette type dressing on the same plate with pasta.

Either way he shouldn't have told you off for something so trivial and that's not a good sign.

@Fernandez54 Please serve him a bowl of caesar salad! see what he thinks!

I find it strange when people make salad with a lasagna.

I wouldn’t judge them for it though.

I know it's illogical but I draw the line at drinking from the same bottle (especially water). My DC used to talk about backwash and I can't help imagining bits of detritus floating about in the liquid. Eurgh!