Another neighbour post

[Lesleyann25]

I am having an ongoing problem with my downstairs neighbour. My daughter and I moved into a large apartment in December it’s a really good area and we like it here.

It started as soon as we moved in, there is a lady in her 60s with her adult son about 20. It appears the son stays up all night and sleeps all day and games under my room until around 4am shouting at the screen. I spoke to lady she was very nice said she would tell him to keep it and down and went on a long spiel about him having mental health problems and waiting for a diagnosis for autism so I have tried to cut them a bit of slack but it really isn’t on I have to listen to podcasts to sleep. What has really annoyed me is that my daughters bedroom door is a bit stiff so it makes a bit of noise when she closes it in the mornings but I am talking about 8am, we are out all day and go to bed by 10 as I have work too.

Now the son has started slamming doors at 4am I am assuming in revenge so I have reported them to the council. Autism and mental health is not a reason to keep other people up all night surely? I think it’s completely out of order. She said he has insomnia too. Anyone else dealt with this?

I will when the loud sexual encounter finishes

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You can't evaluate his needs that way though. Socialising occasionally is far less demanding than something like facing the workplace or living independently. I'm not saying you're wrong and your situation isn't awful, just that the solution is not likely as easy as his mother saying, "Stop it." If it was, I'm sure she would have.

Drip feeding now. I’m leaving the thread. Hope you can see at some point people are trying to help you. The comment around some giving sensible advice though just smacks to me of not liking the advice that doesn’t suit your requirements. Night night

Your name suits you. Bye. This is out of control end of and the mothers excuses are bullshit end of

already told you don’t want any advice the kid is a shit no two ways about it. We can all play the mental health card. No drip feed just an entitled twat

@Lesleyann25

It's obvious you're at the end of your tether and sleep deprived to boot.

I think you may want to consider that this mother has absolutely no control over her son. She may, in fact, be frightened of him. And if that's the case she may very well tell you what you want to hear but do very little to curb his behaviour. And talking to her will get you nowhere.

If you think this is the case, then you may want to involve whichever agency may deal with either elder abuse or domestic abuse. Pursue the noise angle too, of course.

You can’t get cannabis prescribed to smoke legally in the UK.

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I occasionally use these when there's a lot of noise, such as fireworks.

They're by far the most comfortable and effective that I've found. If you're using them daily, I'd suggest fitting a smoke alarm in the bedroom because they're so good that you probably wouldn't hear an alarm outside the room.

Thank you. After a put a note through just saying I have an interview tomorrow please can you keep the noise down it was quiet from 12.30 small wins

I’m sorry but the mother saying he’s autistic is enabling his behaviour! She’s let it happen, it’s probably been going on for years. The reason he can’t sleep is cos he’s gaming. Doesn’t take a rocket scientist to work that out. He’s not autistic, just a lazy, stupid entitled boy he’s been allowed to get away with it. How is the mother even sleeping?! Definitely record it too if you can.

It sounds very stressful. It’s not acceptable to be allowing this noise during the night. If it was purely caused by his supposed disability then I would think it would be all day.

You seem to have attracted a large amount of trolls to your post who have enjoyed winding you up, just hope they’re all back at work today and have wasted a bank holiday posting on mumsnet. Sad lives.

if it’s not the trolls it’s the virtue signalling apologists

It’s not on, you and your daughter deserve a safe, restful home and you’re unable to get this whilst this man is behaving like this.

def keep reporting and recording the noise

hope your interview goes well

Thank you so much I think maybe a few people were drinking due to the bank holiday. My interview is in 20 minutes and I am back at work tomorrow. I firmly believe this is enabling behaviour and they think if they just give me the heads up that this is just how he is she does not have to deal with it and everyone should put up with it. Well no, it is not happening. Maybe she can sleep through it as you say probably been going on for years. It’s nothing but a complete piss take.

I have never heard a sound coming from
thier home during the day. I doubt autism and mental health just comes awake at night. Im not an absolute fool this excuse may have worked on people in the past I sure as shit am not buying it.

@Lesleyann25 Good luck with your interview OP - hope you ace it! 😃

Are you this MAN'S psychologist?
Maybe you could have a word?

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I have low hopes you'll succeed OP but I admire your determination to try. Please keep us updated.

Have a word with whom?

what’s your point?

He’s acting like a boy not a man.

Seriously ignore that poster, just inflammatory. I don’t think he needs a psychologist just a kick up the arse to get out of bed in the morning.

Yes I am pretty determined because it’s just plain selfishness and I am no longer going to let it stress me. I will
sleep on the sofa to get sleep but try my very best to get the situation under control I am sure they will get sick of me eventually.

Thanks chick, quite fond of my username, glad you are too. Sorry you still don’t seem to be receiving the responses you were clearly seeking. Hope the interview went well 🫶

But I am from reasonable people. It went very well thanks

Also it’s not like I am saying I am a perfect person or my child is. I just had to take her phone off her because she was behaving like a brat and not doing what I asked to get her to my mothers in another city for me to work tomorrow. These things happen inam
parenting a hormonal pre teen and she can be hard work but we are not stopping other people from
functioning. You chose to misinterpret everything so crack on.

Good stuff 👍 Genuinely pleased regarding the interview. Hope it puts you in a better place to start tackling the authorities.