Another neighbour post

[Lesleyann25]

I am having an ongoing problem with my downstairs neighbour. My daughter and I moved into a large apartment in December it’s a really good area and we like it here.

It started as soon as we moved in, there is a lady in her 60s with her adult son about 20. It appears the son stays up all night and sleeps all day and games under my room until around 4am shouting at the screen. I spoke to lady she was very nice said she would tell him to keep it and down and went on a long spiel about him having mental health problems and waiting for a diagnosis for autism so I have tried to cut them a bit of slack but it really isn’t on I have to listen to podcasts to sleep. What has really annoyed me is that my daughters bedroom door is a bit stiff so it makes a bit of noise when she closes it in the mornings but I am talking about 8am, we are out all day and go to bed by 10 as I have work too.

Now the son has started slamming doors at 4am I am assuming in revenge so I have reported them to the council. Autism and mental health is not a reason to keep other people up all night surely? I think it’s completely out of order. She said he has insomnia too. Anyone else dealt with this?

It could be my autism re the misinterpretation. Apologies.

There’s some plain twats online and not a thing anyone can do about it. I am not going to tackle the authorities I am going to do my damned hardest to live in my home and sleep in my home with my child and busy life. As I said before autism doesn’t just come awake at night. It’s all fucking bullshit. You let kids get away with shit like this kid has and that what you end up with an entitled man baby. It makes me more determined to teach my child respect and boundaries now go away.

You know..there is a website where you can order a crap to be sent to someone anonymously. just saying 🤣

Really? Sounds perfect!🤩

Um, what did I say that was nasty?

Why these days, is everyone either ADHD, trans or autistic?

I know what you’re saying.

The chances of you getting the council to move them out is remote even if you have a diary / recording of all the disturbances. What may help, is if you ask your HA/council to offer a mediation service. It escalates the dispute and you nay be able to come to some form of agreement with your neighbour regarding unacceptably behavioural noise.

Do you know what has happened in the last week? It’s completely stopped. They know they have pissed me off so much that I am not listening to excuses anymore. Funny that isnt it? I am not moving like I said for other people’s dysfunctional life styles. If they want to live like zombies fine but they will be quiet in sleeping hours.

It does not look like I will be keeping my job because ive mad errors due to being exhausted but it’s a long travel and I was getting fed up with that anyway so just looking for a new job.

Oh, please do call the police. Let's see how that works out for you.

I really hope, for their sake, that he isn't actually autistic, for all the scorn you're pouring on them. My boy is. This could be me in 15 years. Well, minus the weed. He might never live a normal life. I've not had a decent night's sleep in 7 years. Nice to know I've got neighbours like you to look forward to.

Oh just stop it. This person has not even been diagnosed and is 20 your child is 7. I know people get diagnosed in later life but if it does cause gaming all night. I am not talking about a person in distress i am talking about someone having fun and keeping us awake to have fun. Of course not everyone makes excuses and I have deep compassion for people struggling with children I have a child having emotional issues with puberty myself and it’s hard and upsetting. It is not scorn that I feel its annoyance that I am about to lose my job for something that could have been stopped and has been stopped.

unfortunately genuine people do not get the support that they need and I find that shocking. I am not callous about anyone’s special needs and I wish people would just stop.

Also in my old house someone called the police on me bevause my child had a melt down over me turning the internet off 7pm. They didn’t know me from Adam we had been fairly quiet so there are far more unreasonable people around.

I'm glad it all worked out for you in the end now op.

Thank you so much. I feel lighter it was completely getting me down. As for my job I am not too concerned about losing it because I wanted to leave before Christmas as getting home at Christmas time was taking over 2 hours bevause I have to pass 2 huge shopping areas. No sleep really does a number on your mental well-being

So delighted for you OP.
Ignore the usual nasty posters.
Having your sleep interrupted like that by some selfish idiot screaming of a box would drive anyone mad.

One of my sons did it for a while out of excitement with the game🙄and was read the absolute riot act by me ....at 11.30pm!!

I'd have ripped it from the wall if it was under me.

I really hope things remain settled and a good work situation comes your way.

I have two ASD teens and not a chance that type of selfish behaviour would have been tolerated.
Best of luck to you.

Thank so much.

I can't believe the negative comments on here. I am totally in support of the OP, it sounds like an absolute nightmare. Just hope and pray that you are able to sort things out and feel some peace one way or another. Big hugs from me 😘

Thank you! Yeah I got a lot of flack didnt i? They’ve shut up now as if by magic. I just was not going to fobbed off and suffer in silence because other people are night owls and that’s all it boils down to my case. Stay awake for 3 days solid if you want but when people are sleeping you just cannot behave that way.

Can you tell the 60 year old mother this? Just say your child has exams and they are bothering her keeping her up at night. Don't threaten her but suggest that you will have to speak to a landlord regarding this and their may be a complaint against her/her son. It's not normal for him to be up all night being noisy!