Friend has caused nearly £300 plus worth of destruction

[Bunnyboilerfriend]

I had my friend stay the night last night, I waved her off goodbye this morning.

I said something unwittingly last night that made her think I’m after the same man she is, I am not. He is a mutual friend. I could see she was upset and tried to clarify things, she said she understood and she was fine. We both went to bed. Me upstairs. Her downstairs.

After I have seen her off this morning, I have just noticed a number of my jewellery on the hallways console are either broken or bent out of shape beyond recognition.

They were fine last night, there is no one else here who could have done it. I could see she was not only upset but angry last night, but seemed to have composed herself and it was resolved.

I have just sent a text to her saying can you tell me what happened to my jewellery on the console?

I am so shocked and upset I’m almost shaking, I feel so betrayed and violated.

What can I do next?

That is shocking 😪

Be prepared for a backlash as she sounds unhinged but yeah I probably would log it with the non-emergency number just so I have a record of it and to scare her somewhat.

Do you have any household insurance that may cover this?

It will lend more credence to your claim if/when you tell the mutual friend if you can say you’ve reported it to police.

If it's over a set amount, small claims court?

Also, please warn your mutual friend that she is a possessive psycho

I would unfriend her on the basis of she can't even spell 'break'.

She’s dangerous, don’t let her in your property again.

You need to allow this to happen. This is why people end up old and on their own. They have abused every person in their life that has treated them well.

If you were stone cold sober, then she really DOES have bats in the belfry not only to do it in the first place, but to then try to blame it on a fall she must realise you would know never took place.

Take this as a warning and ditch. She'll be boiling your bunny next.

EDIT: Typed the last sentence before I saw your username. Looks like the thought has already occurred to you.

She did that to you over a man? What a psycho loser.

Get with the man she thought you were interested in and then marry him. Play the long game OP. 😉

Reply -

"I’m very clear that I didn’t stumble or fall last night - nothing of the sort happened. That kind of damage doesn’t happen from someone falling near it.

I gave you the chance to explain honestly because I care about our friendship, but your response doesn’t reflect what I know to be true. I’m genuinely hurt and disappointed. I need some time to process this."

I'd then leave it and the friendship unless she has a change of heart and explains to your satisfaction, don't engage with any further denials. I wouldn't contact the police, to much hassle for £300.

I would nonetheless file a report with the police in the expectation that it won’t be investigated. in case she commits other crimes in future against you or others.

Next time you see mutual friends I would tell them that she stayed, you’d fallen out (no need to say what about) and seemingly resolved it, and you found your jewellery damaged and surmised she’d done it deliberately, so are no longer her friend.

Warn the mutual male friend. She is a psycho!

You can't 'log' it, you can report it to police and they may investigate it. I wouldn't tell her if you plan to do that.

Just reply and tell her you’ve had a change of heart and fully intend on pursuing that guy.
Honestly, it’s gonna hurt her more. And then ofc do not pursue that guy.

It doesn’t always work like that. We talk about karma etc but often these people end up surrounded by people who love and adore and some good people may end up alone in old age.

Also it’s already happened, she doesn’t need to “allow” it to happen. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with her reporting this is if she wants but I’d personally be more focused on warning the love interest.

And tell her that the police have asked for the pillowcase she slept on so they can capture her DNA.

Bacon sandwich, cup of tea.

Talk it through in person

If she didn't pay me back for the jewellery I'd suddenly be finding that mutual friend more attractive, but I'm petty like that.

You could report it to the police but they won't do anything. It's essentially your word against hers.

Can any of the items be repaired?

I'd be tempted to warn the male friend though...

I would also like to see a photo.

After all this, if he's got a pulse, all his features in the right place and non-psychotic, that guy WOULD BE MINE.

Of the guy, or the damage?

And please include the 'hallways console'

…sounds like a great use of Police time … it’s not like they have anything else to do

I'll be honest, I could get past that. The criminal damage, gaslighting and general insanity would be the dealbreakers. Maybe tell the man she's pursuing? Poor guy, imagine having this person trying to seduce you.