Friend has caused nearly £300 plus worth of destruction

[Bunnyboilerfriend]

I had my friend stay the night last night, I waved her off goodbye this morning.

I said something unwittingly last night that made her think I’m after the same man she is, I am not. He is a mutual friend. I could see she was upset and tried to clarify things, she said she understood and she was fine. We both went to bed. Me upstairs. Her downstairs.

After I have seen her off this morning, I have just noticed a number of my jewellery on the hallways console are either broken or bent out of shape beyond recognition.

They were fine last night, there is no one else here who could have done it. I could see she was not only upset but angry last night, but seemed to have composed herself and it was resolved.

I have just sent a text to her saying can you tell me what happened to my jewellery on the console?

I am so shocked and upset I’m almost shaking, I feel so betrayed and violated.

What can I do next?

No drinking for either of us.

Could SHE have fallen / leaned heavily on it and damaged it?

Were you drinking alcohol together? If so are you confident of your memory?

She sounds like someone who would be a controlling and jealous partner. This man is best well away from her and I would be ending my friendship immediately.
Nasty lady

That's really shocking and malicious. To individually break each piece! Gosh!
She hasn't (and wont) admit it so I'd wave goodbye. Just grey rock and ghost, she obviously can't display anger like a normal person so no point in being blunt with her or you'll find tiny micro aggressions forever.

Definitely the end of this friendship.

She's absolutely psychotic, she has 0.0001% chance of ever expressing remorse or paying you back. Your friendship is also over, but you knew that already.

This. I wouldn't waste time waiting for an apology or payment. I would back away from this dangerous person permanently. Block today and move on.

I had a similar "friend" OP. I was given a fantastic antique book for my 50th birthday and this person asked to come round and see it. I made coffee and she deliberately put her used coffee cup right on the book leaving a ring on the cover. Who does that?
This book is worth £500 and a first edition.
It was pure jealousy and spite.
I refused to see her again. End of friendship.

OK I’d reply that I didn’t do that and that the only logical explanation is that she damaged the items. Would then report to police, for it to be on record.

End the friendship and tell this mutual friend what she has done too. Is he interested in her? She sounds unhinged.

This is awful OP.

although you can’t prove it was her if your instinct strongly suspects this you must cut her off

Can you post a picture of the damaged jewellery, OP?

End the friendship she is a nutter.

Thank fuck you don't have a rabbit

That’s dreadful!

Shag the bloke. Tell her about it. Block her.

It's the only reasonable solution at this point.

The friendship of course is over.

Should I text her that I will be logging this with the police?

I don’t want her to rest easy with the idea that she can do this to people unchallenged. I can see her doing this again to someone else.

Her response is clearly deflecting as a pp said. I think you could say something like "that's not the truth, I'm confident in my memory of last night. I'm not going to engage with you until you acknowledge what you did" and then consider how you want to go on.

Anyone who does something like this has a spiteful and immature streak that they're willing to act on and I personally would be completely avoiding until they did something to show me they'd faced that in themselves (unlikely unfortunately).

As you weren't drinking, why the hell does she think you'd buy that lie?? She's got some nerve to not only cause that damage, but also think you're dim enough to bullshit like this. Get ready for her to lie to other people about it and of course to not pay you back. I'd be letting the mutual friend know what a loon she is.

Would the police even be interested? Essentially it's your word against hers. Even if they do investigate and find evidence like fingerprints on the jewellery, there's an innocent explanation for that.

Block her, get her out of your life.

How close a friend was she? Did you give her house keys or anything she can use against you?

If she was responsible, she is not going to admit to it in a thousand years.

Bloody hell. Bunny boiler friend indeed!

She just showed you who she is - a jealous frenemy. 300+ damage is painful but it could have been worse. I’d finish this friendship if I were you.

I don’t think OP means she will actually tell the police, but scare her into thinking a report will be made.

Tell her that you want an honest answer from her about why she did it, otherwise you will report it to the police and have them come round and take fingerprints from the console.

If she admits to it, take her to the small claims court.

You need to let the man know she is unhinged if you do nothing else.