Friend has caused nearly £300 plus worth of destruction

[Bunnyboilerfriend]

I had my friend stay the night last night, I waved her off goodbye this morning.

I said something unwittingly last night that made her think I’m after the same man she is, I am not. He is a mutual friend. I could see she was upset and tried to clarify things, she said she understood and she was fine. We both went to bed. Me upstairs. Her downstairs.

After I have seen her off this morning, I have just noticed a number of my jewellery on the hallways console are either broken or bent out of shape beyond recognition.

They were fine last night, there is no one else here who could have done it. I could see she was not only upset but angry last night, but seemed to have composed herself and it was resolved.

I have just sent a text to her saying can you tell me what happened to my jewellery on the console?

I am so shocked and upset I’m almost shaking, I feel so betrayed and violated.

What can I do next?

I was just coming on to say narcissistic rage

This is exactly what my mother would (and did many times) do

Then,when you confront her,the rage comes out,the smear campaign starts and you look like the bad guy

People tend to slide with narcs-god knows why,but I've been called a liar so many times when I've 100% been telling the truth

And my stuff was still broken and left to me to find the money to replace what she broke

Woooow, just wow!!! How long have you known each other? Were there no signs or red flags before? Because she is totally unhinged, trying to convince you that you did it yourself and you didn’t even drink, wow, seriously crazy and l would say, pretty dangerous….

Who in their right mind even lends anything worth £5k, without putting something in place to cover loss or damage one way or another??

What does "nearly £300 plus" mean?
Is it nearly £300 or £300 plus? It makes no sense.

I have read all your posts to check if this has been clarified but it hasn't. The whole thing is vague and difficult to imagine. TBH it sounds made up. If it had happened then describing what you see would sound like something we could imagine, rather than a collection of cliches that don't really go together.

Make sure you relay this story to the mutual friend she fancies. You don't need to say who she likes, just that she mistakenly thought it was the same person. Make sure you say you didn't mention breakage and she knew. It's only fair he has warning. You won't get your money back but her destructive streak will stop with you.

Hmmm having read all this the jury is still out - but I'm fearing it's all a bit he said/she said to me. This said - it was your house and your property and you sound convinced that this 'not-so friend' had it in for you and has caused criminal damage to your possessions. (Not sure why you'd leave jewellery on a hall table tbh)?

You've messaged her and she's denied it - no surprise there then. I think I'd cut my losses. Unfriend her in every sense of the word and make sure she knows why. I'd tell the male friend what she's done and make him well aware of her actions and her possessiveness - he doesn't want to get himself into that.

End of!

Why is that funny?
She has destroyed the jewellery. Also, £300 is a lot of money. Not to mention the jewellery may also mean a lot to the OP sentimentally.

Yes in which case a hall 'console' is probably not the best place for it. Not minimising what the friend allegedly did though.

I don't see why someone shouldn't keep their jewellery there. It's a fair assumption (one would think) that people wouldn't meddle with it.

🙄

Also no photos of damaged goods? Which should be easy to provide.

Honestly OP I’d be more upset that I had been friends with someone that hid so well they are crazy ! ( obviously not your fault )
Warn your mutual friend please..
I hope you never hear from this woman again x

She's just not going to respond. I don't know why you think she'll pay when she's lied through her teeth that she isn't responsible. There's no way whatsoever she'll now admit it and pay you.

I would tell the police. You've nothing to lose at this point. They may well claim they can't do much but it might make you feel better. They might go and speak to her, which would presumably make her uncomfortable.

I hope you also tell all your friends including that guy she's so obsessed with.
She sounds like a deranged 12 year old frankly. And imagine not knowing how to spell 'break'? What job does this woman do?

I would report to Police. She may have a history of this. It would be their choice to take up the case, but they may as they are trained to interview in cases like this, and she may crumble quickly and confess when confronted by them. Unfortunately, most insurance policies don't cover theft or malicious damage from people you have invited into your home, so small claims may be the only option.

Firstly…were they in a box? Could she have accidentally knocked the jewellery box off the console? (I’m guessing considering the level of drama/upset, drink was involved?). Secondly, why do you have (relatively) valuable jewellery on your hallway console? Seems a vulnerable place to leave it (mad friends aside). Thirdly…you’re in a toxic relationship if you even suspect her in the first place/fall out over men ‘friends’. Fourthly…if she’s damaged your jewellery…get rid! And I’d be checking if any of it is missing. Fifthly…I wouldn’t expect she’ll make amends monetarily or any other way. It’s too shameful…she’ll deny it. Hopefully she (or your jewellery!) doesn’t mean so much to you it will be a lasting upset. Time to get some new friends (new jewellery?)

Tell your friend I'm going to check threw my hidden camera and find out

That's a ridiculously easy bluff to call.

Booyah! Green-eyed monster did it.
3 options

1. Repair it all and send her the bill. If she refuses then take her to smalls court online. Settle out of court.
2. Give it all to her as a wrapped gift for birthday or whatever. Go overboard and invite friends to occasion to celebrate.
3. Forgive her and forget, moving on and go for the man anyway and tell her this is your revenge for the jewellery saga.
4. I am officially peeved for you. I would do 3 and then 4 afterwards. But then I'm an evil mf when somebody pisses on my battery.

Any update @Bunnyboilerfriend

Your friend destroyed your belongings and then gaslit you. This person IS NOT your friend.

Second is First of the Losers

Have you heard from your "friend" since?

Have you been speaking to the guy you both knew?

@SamphiretheTervosaur

That’s truly awful. Unforgivable. You must’ve been heartsick, too.
My brother’s friend at uni was Italian - both his parents were first-generation Italian-American.
His mother kept a very clean house - so one day she went into his bedroom and took each LP out of its sleeve and carefully cleaned it with furniture polish. I mean, she sprayed that wax concoction on each and every single record and wiped it off.
I don’t remember how many she ruined - 200? 500? All of them.
She was so pleased with herself when she told him.
He cried.