Friend has caused nearly £300 plus worth of destruction

[Bunnyboilerfriend]

I had my friend stay the night last night, I waved her off goodbye this morning.

I said something unwittingly last night that made her think I’m after the same man she is, I am not. He is a mutual friend. I could see she was upset and tried to clarify things, she said she understood and she was fine. We both went to bed. Me upstairs. Her downstairs.

After I have seen her off this morning, I have just noticed a number of my jewellery on the hallways console are either broken or bent out of shape beyond recognition.

They were fine last night, there is no one else here who could have done it. I could see she was not only upset but angry last night, but seemed to have composed herself and it was resolved.

I have just sent a text to her saying can you tell me what happened to my jewellery on the console?

I am so shocked and upset I’m almost shaking, I feel so betrayed and violated.

What can I do next?

That is unhinged behaviour as a PP has said. Unbelievable! I would call her bluff and say I’m reporting it to the police, even if you decide not to go ahead with it.

If we take that attitude to all minor crimes, then minor crimes essentially become legal.

Oh wait…we’re already there.

Think she means a hall table. A console is a type of table.

“I have treated you well “. …. Sounds 100% like she did it, but can’t admit it.

She has anger issues. Personally, I would try not to escalate her. Just no reply and no contact - always be busy.

Revenge best served cold …. You will get an opportunity some months or years ahead. Just wait for it.

A hall table. Long thing table that sits in your hallway. You usually dump your keys and stuff on it. And jewellery if you take it off when you come in. Anything you want!

I would keep as faaaaar away from her as possible forevermore!

I wouldn’t even escalate it as she clearly has anger and violence issues and who knows what she’d do if you bumped into her again.

Be busy every time she contacts you. Definitely cut her out.

Do you have many mutual friends?

Cheeky mare trying to blame you! I'd text back – "I never mentioned anything about the bits being broken, I asked what happened. And even if I had knocked into the console table like you claim – which I know I didn't! – that would not have bent them all out of shape. For one thing, they'd have been on the floor. The damage was done by hand and you were the only other person in the house. You've deliberately ruined £300 worth of jewellery and really I should be calling the police."

Has she got form for struggling to manage her anger/damaging things? Can you imagine her doing this?

Also why don't you show us a pic?

I would take screenshots so messages do not disappear. Also photo so you can show friends.

Suing for defamation is a civil matter and you need deep Elton John type pockets to do it. I know this for certain as we took legal advice over it when someone threatened to do this.

She sounds completely unhinged. Obviously end the friendship completely, and warn all mutual friends (including the bloke she fancies) how ridiculous she has been. But do be careful, someone this unhinged could escalate her behaviour further. I mean, the blaming it on you saying you stumbled up the stairs when neither of you had even been drinking is insane!

• Hmmmm I think that personally I would leave this. She is fucking unhinged to do this and she’s brazenly lying about it now. The reason I’d leave it is for fear of her doing much worse stuff and involving other people.

That said, you could reply and say that you are fully aware that you did not stumble and the reasons you know she broke the jewellery are 1) that it got broken over that night that there was nobody else there and 2) that she was angry about a situation where she thought you wanted to get with a man that she wanted. She’s a serious gaslighter saying “I have treated you well”.

But the thing is, she knows this, she knows she did it and she’s basically an evil weirdo. So best not to reply. You don’t want to find yourself in an ongoing dispute that could turn dangerous. She has already trampled social norms and committed criminal damage - in your home.

She has earned herself a ghosting.

She sounds so unhinged I suspect she must have exhibited odd behaviours in the past, however if this isn’t the case I’d tread very carefully. I suspect she may have already contacted any mutual friends (inc the man in question) to accuse you of harassing her. I suppose it depends on your relationships and friendship group dynamics on who is believed. She sounds the type to have convinced herself that she is not only not in the wrong, but she is also the victim.

Tell her you both know that's bollocks and you will be reporting this to the police

I'd be telling the mutual friend! Give him a warning about her..

And definitely report it and let her know; you probably won't get anything material back, but at least she knows you're not to be messed with.

Sue for defamation!! Don't be silly. No one in the real world actually does that. Far too difficult and expensive.

Tell her the police are taking fingerprints, and this is her only chance to confess to it before you press charges.

Like you say she said it broke not you. Maybe you knocked it on the floor in your stumble and couldn’t locate it etc. she told you what happened so she obviously did it.

I’d reply that your logging it with the police and that she’s never to contact you again, she sounds deranged.

Can you imagine her though, sat there in the middle of the night, bending jewellery out of shape, piece by piece, seething over some bloke?

She has some really, really big problems to be doing that.

Wow!

Unbelievable!

The friendship of course is over! Do you have any mutual friends (other than this man) ?

Def tell all your mutual friends (especially the bloke she fancies). She has behaved outrageously and you don’t want her painting you in a bad light.

Just reply: I never mentioned that the jewellery was broken. We both know you are lying. Goodbye.

Then block her and next time you meet up with the bloke mention it discreetly. Although be aware that some people view jealous behaviour as a sign of interest.

Did she actually use the word 'brake'?

So she's not only a malicious bitch, but a malicious bitch who can't spell?