Friend has caused nearly £300 plus worth of destruction

[Bunnyboilerfriend]

I had my friend stay the night last night, I waved her off goodbye this morning.

I said something unwittingly last night that made her think I’m after the same man she is, I am not. He is a mutual friend. I could see she was upset and tried to clarify things, she said she understood and she was fine. We both went to bed. Me upstairs. Her downstairs.

After I have seen her off this morning, I have just noticed a number of my jewellery on the hallways console are either broken or bent out of shape beyond recognition.

They were fine last night, there is no one else here who could have done it. I could see she was not only upset but angry last night, but seemed to have composed herself and it was resolved.

I have just sent a text to her saying can you tell me what happened to my jewellery on the console?

I am so shocked and upset I’m almost shaking, I feel so betrayed and violated.

What can I do next?

Well you can pursue the man now if you’re interested. Are you?

Clearly this woman is dangerous. Wow. Simply wipe your mouth of the whole event and steer clear. Including blocking her. I get that you're annoyed- but quite seriously you need to have nothing more to do with her. Your simple inaction will speak volumes to her. Good luck!

This. And maybe tell ‘friend’ that you both know that’s bullshit and not what happened. That’s obviously the version she’ll be telling people. Defo tell (warn!) mutual male friend, and other mutual friends!! If she had a spare key, or knows where you keep yours, change the locks, just in case… then try to let it go, put in the crazy story box, she’s not worth your negative energy…

19 pages, and no photo of the damaged jewellery nor of the console in the hallway...

What a crazy bitch.

I'd pursue her love interest, then make sure to "accidentally" spill all the tea so she knows.

Then I'd maybe consider us "even".

Here's a worse situation....i lent my friend a diamond tennis bracelet and within 24hrs she'd lost it.
Despite not denying that she had it, she's saying it's not her responsibility to replace it.
As soon as she told me, we both looked up the cost to replace it, £8,850!
I couldn't believe it was worth that much. It was just under £5k when it was bought, but I had no idea it had increased by so much.
She's now refusing to see or speak to me, and it's not because she's embarrassed about losing it, she's arguing that I shouldn't have lent it to her.
Where do I stand? I'd be angry about £300 damage but would write off the friendship and deal with the repairs, but this is a whole lot bigger.

I think this is OPs bunny boiler friend commenting here to gaslight further & cast doubt on OP

I can't imagine this is the first time she has done something like this.
Normal people don't do things like that. its not normal adult behaviour.
Not the sort of people you should have in your life, deffo not a friend.
Police can't do much because no proof, but might shake her up to have them speak to her, she deserves that at least.

@Harmonypus it doesn't sound like she lost it...

She is making it sound like you were wasted? Were you? If so, best forget the whole thing and cancel her.

It’s criminal damage report it to the police the bitch deserves it

If you weren't even drinking how on earth can she try and say you did it? This is all nuts. Yes I'd log with police and also tell the man she's after to avoid her because she's mental.

It is pretty silly to lend anyone something like that. I’m guessing you’ve claimed on your insurance so you’re maybe £200 down? I’d ask her for that as it’s only fair.

Don’t talk rubbish Hulabulu - it’s a straightforward question - did the OP fall? Cos she doesn’t sound 100% sure. Why would her friend say she had if they’re both stone cold sober?!!!
if someone said I’d fallen and I hadn’t, I wouldn’t use the word ‘even so’.
I smell something fishy here!

She does sound 100% sure. She literally said this categorically didn’t happen.

’even so’ is a figure of speech. She is saying that the way that the jewellery was found could not have been caused by any fall.

but you know that already, you just wanna be edgy

That’s a weird reaction. Especially when she acted so normal the next day. She is no friend!

She sounds absolutely unhinged.

Personally I'd have called her bluff and said I don't remember that but I'll check the cams we had installed when we went away last year.

May be too late for you to say anything like that now though this far into the conversation.

I really hope she pays up for the damage op.

Be warned she may try to "get ahead" of mutual friends hearing about her behaviour by twisting things and badmouthing you first. So I'd not wait too long before next steps.

I think you need to screw her man OP 🤣

Wondering how Bunnyboilerfriend knew before 8.00am yesterday the damage was ‘nearly £300 plus’. Just wondering.

Omg!
What a ridiculous response, you stumbled and damaged your own jewellry ??
I would write both her off as a friend and your jewelry too I’m afraid.
And go for that man that she’s had a jealous strop about!

Because she knows how much she paid for her own jewellery? And saw it had been damaged?

If I’ve got a pair of earrings that cost £200 and a necklace that cost £100 and my friend twisted them all up, I would say, “My friend has done £300 of damage.”

Doesnt take a genius to figure that out…

MissScarlettintheballroom

I really really wouldn’t put any unproven allegations about damage to the jewellery in writing. This could escalate into serious litigation as in recent court case between footballers wives.

Just block and walk away and get to know people better before inviting them into your home
and why did she need to stay over if she wasn’t drinking?

Re: What can I do next?

> DON`T be petty seeking revenge, bring her DOWN (In turn removing her)

She IS after this guy.

Congratulate her on her wedding engagement, probably to some overweight, unemployed guy

Let it be KNOWN she IS engaged to some, loser guy - you CAN decide, the to who part - make it known locally (probably to some overweight, unemployed loser guy ).
Advert in the local paper ...
For her home / on her car
> Engagement Decorations, Silver ENGAGED Balloons Banner She Said Yes Banner Triangle Bunting Garland Diamond Ring Foil Balloon Cake Toppers Printed Balloons for Wedding Engagement Party Bridal Shower

You GET the idea.
You will think of how to facilitate it - REMOVE her out of the equation - NOT available - it IS worth the (minimal) cost of starting the rumours - how much is up to you

Please, Please warn the potential love interest that she's nuts!

Damage can be repaired, you are attributing destruction which would equate to the original cost. Doesn’t take a genius to work that out.