Friend has caused nearly £300 plus worth of destruction

[Bunnyboilerfriend]

I had my friend stay the night last night, I waved her off goodbye this morning.

I said something unwittingly last night that made her think I’m after the same man she is, I am not. He is a mutual friend. I could see she was upset and tried to clarify things, she said she understood and she was fine. We both went to bed. Me upstairs. Her downstairs.

After I have seen her off this morning, I have just noticed a number of my jewellery on the hallways console are either broken or bent out of shape beyond recognition.

They were fine last night, there is no one else here who could have done it. I could see she was not only upset but angry last night, but seemed to have composed herself and it was resolved.

I have just sent a text to her saying can you tell me what happened to my jewellery on the console?

I am so shocked and upset I’m almost shaking, I feel so betrayed and violated.

What can I do next?

I would send another text to say you are getting the police involved.

could you say you have cctv in the house?

Police won’t give a shit. I’d text her “You’re a fucking liar, and a jealous, pathetic embarrassment. Don’t ever contact me again, I’ll be telling literally everyone who knows you why we’ve fallen out, too.” And block.

I think you’d need a witness to the crime, wouldn’t you?
Otherwise, it would be your word against hers.
Speaking of record albums though, I had a friend who had a very extensive album collection - his mother was obsessive-compulsive about cleaning, and one day took all his records out of their sleeves one at a time, sprayed them with wax furniture polish, wiped them off, then returned them to the sleeves and to the shelves from where they came.
She was very pleased with herself for doing this for her son.
He just about had a nervous breakdown.

Actually. Literally.

I'm still chuckling at the term DESTRUCTION being used to describe £300 quids worth of jewelry getting bent out of shape, like King Kong trashed the place 😅

Tell her you’re going to take the security footage to the police and see what they have to say about it. (Even if you don’t have any.)

Following for an update!

I can think of plenty of jewellery items that could be bent beyond repair. Are you the friend?

Hopefully people are just joking about that. OP already stated she doesn’t like him like that and it’s a bit gross to use him in that way, but hope she does warn him off, as this woman could clearly get very jealous & controlling if she ends up with him.

Tell her that then. And add that you will then consider the matter closed, -that is you won’t feel the need to warn others including your friend/her love interest.
If she’s as unintelligent as you say she is, that’s a perfect way out for her.

I wouldn’t want that though. I’d want nothing more from her again, and I would definitely warn my friend/her love interest that she’s sly, deceitful, angry and bitter….warning him not to get involved.

I was wondering this, most of my jewellery can’t be bent, and I don’t keep it in a hallway! No way is this real.

What man is worth this?!

Very dangerous person. Change locks, block when you sorted this. Can't believe anyone do this. It's so past normal. Huge red flag. Not a friend

Agree. What I've learnt is that people like her like to control the narrative so you have to do it before she does. She will shit herself and will think twice before she does it again or tries to cause you falling with other friends because of her lies. Make sure that in your text you mention exactly what she's done so she can't show it to somebody else without thm realising what she's done.

I agree, she’s dangerous and capable of worse, get a door bell cam & dash cam for your car.

The police probably won’t be interested at all, but, I would also do this, and add that ‘they are going to take fingerprints, because it wasn’t you, and if she says it wasn’t her then ‘someone’ must have broken in somehow, which is quite serious’ 😂

She is not your friend OP. That is awful behaviour.

I'm interested to see what happens next!

If she is unhinged enough to damage the jewellery and deny it, there’s no way she going to put cash through your letterbox.

I think @Bunnyboilerfriend had a name fail here.

Why? We know "boiler" means her psycho friend, who has not yet responded to the text. What is the name fail???

Please tell me you’re not still friends with them? Bob sounds like an absolute sociopath!

Definitely locks change.
Keep us updated.

You can’t use more than one name on a thread anymore.

What are you talking about @Worryabouteverything ? @Bunnyboilerfriend is the OP and she posted the post you quoted.