Ok yo become a Dad to a newborn at 57?

[WaterBed]

Apart from being desperate to crack the joke

“i really hope so - I only live at 55”

in all seriousness - I personally think it’s fine to be a Dad age 57 when your OH has a newborn. Any thoughts ?

No its too old. I'm in my mid 50s. All ly friends of a similar age are winding down, reducing hours at work etc with a view to retiring. The only babies they're interested in are grandchildren. The idea of starting again at this age is crazy.

You'll be at a different point in life to your friends and your childs friends parents

Too old

I don't understand the joke (lame or not I just don't get it).
Becoming a new Dad at 57 is not one of the best ideas out there - but it's also not the worse.
No one will care.

Too old. You would get no retirement basically

@WaterBed My DF was a bit younger when I was born but older for my 2 siblings. Ok for me but not for them I think. Keeping young matters! I liked being with DF and we did lots together. DM wanted more DC. It wasn’t him who didn’t think of consequences. Yes, DF might not be around forever but DF can be a brilliant one, if they want to be.

I think that's too old really. My husband was 42 when our first was born and if we have another in a year or two he will be around 44/45 when our second is born and I think that is too old realistically but I can't make him any younger so we will just go with it. Same as you will, just hope and pray it turns out okay.

Joke is - it should be fine for a bloke at 57 - lives at no 57 to be a Dad as I only live at no 55! / ie short distance away !

The thought of having a newborn at 57 .makes. me faint with horror personally. Luckily it's impossible as I'm a woman.
Depends whether you really want one or not.
My first husband only ever remembered his father as an old man because he was a similar age when he was born. They were never close. He lived to 100.

My uncle’s friend had twins after fertility treatment with his younger wife when he was in his early sixties, he died when they were toddlers. Nobody has any guarantee of living to see their children grow up, but you are drastically lowering the odds by fathering children at that sort of age.

I would assume that it was the younger parent that wanted to have a child and that the older parent will envy their peers getting to retire and chill. So I think it's too old but if the child is here I'm sure it will be plenty loved by both parents and sn older parent could be a great mum or dad.

Your whole post is lame, some older fellow has a newborn who really gives a f&@“.
It’s not ideal if the newborn is an only.
Close friends are having to parent their grandchildren at 70, it’s no picnic. Although healthy physically, it’s not the same. The other 40 yr old dads aren’t exactly inviting him over to join the dad gang, mountain biking with his son is hard, does one even own a mountain bike at 70…no, black diamond runs no way. The grandson and granddaughter are loosing out in a lot of ways by having senior parents.

Fine, as long as you have plenty of money to pay for your care home while your partner raises a child...

I think it’s too old even if your health is ok for now, that can suddenly change at anytime and more so the older you get, my dad died after a short illness at 61, I was 23 I still felt too young to lose him but at least I can my childhood with him.

My husband was 47 and 49 when our kids were born. If we had another he’d be 52/53 possibly. I think it depends on age of mother, health and financial situation.

It's not ideal imo

You know parenting doesn't stop when your kid hits 18 right @WaterBed ?

I lost my Mum in her early 60s, I was in my mid 30s at the time. I'm in my 40s now and still wish she was around so I could ask her advice sometimes.

Yes, you may be in great health now, but there's a very good chance you won't be by the time your child hits adulthood. Personally I think having a kid at your age is selfish as fuck.

Quite honestly if I was a woman in my 20s or 30s there is no way I would want to tie myself down with a man in his 50s.
Apart from him being old when I was in my 'prime' as per Jean Brodie, most men in their seventies are just ...old men. There's no getting away from it (unless you're Bruce Springsteen, of course.)
Then there's the prospect of early widowhood. It's all highly unappealing.

Because most 57 year olds who looks after themselves healthwise would be almost certain to see child to adulthood and bring wealth of experience

You absolutely cannot guarantee this. Healthy people get cancer, have strokes and heart attacks etc

There's being an older parent and then there is just plain ridiculous. 57 really is too old and more to the point why would you want a newborn at that age? I can't think anything less appealing then bringing up a baby/toddler/teenager in your 60s and 70s. My MIL's dad was about 60 when she was born. He died when she was very young. I think it's such a selfish thing to do to your child.

Way, way too old. Sorry.

It's not ideal.
Sperm quality declines increasing the risk of the child having additional needs.

It's not just having baby at 57... it's a toddler around 60, school runs in your mid-60s, teenagers in your 70s, being in your 80s by the time your child is living independently... assuming you're in good enough health to get that far.

Most people don't have that kind of spare energy to invest in raising a child at those ages.

Nope, too old. My partner is 61,with a 14 yearold, and even he struggles. A lot.

I’m 57 and could think of nothing worse,but as a woman this would never happen

That is a terrible joke because no one says ‘I live at 55’ to describe how old they are, they say ‘I’m 55’.

Sorry.

No. My dc had a friend with a 70 year old dad when she was 3, she had a horrible life because her dad couldn’t deal with the needs of a year old - don’t get me wrong, she had everything materially a child could need plus a live in house keeper/nanny but poor kid was only allowed in the kitchen (where she ate with her nanny), playroom and bedroom (with en suite) and wasn’t allowed anywhere else without being invited in, also friends had to be gone before dad got home. Mum was a bit weird too though enjoyed being a lady who lunched

I remember my mum telling me she would have been fine having a baby at 40 (which she never) but one in her late 40s genuinely would have made her wanted to have stick her head in an oven and would have been her worst nightmare. I can't even imagine wanting one 10 years on top of that.