Ok yo become a Dad to a newborn at 57?

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Apart from being desperate to crack the joke

“i really hope so - I only live at 55”

in all seriousness - I personally think it’s fine to be a Dad age 57 when your OH has a newborn. Any thoughts ?

No, unless I read it wrong - the mummified ‘stone’ foetus had been there for decades before the woman died at 70 years of age. It somehow didn’t cause an infection and she lived with it in situ. Like an absorbed twin. Sometimes they grow as collections of things like hair and teeth for years before they’re discovered inside people.

What’s amazing to me is how often nature gets gestation right, not how often it goes wrong.

My dad was 61 when my youngest sister was born 😊 his age didn't bother him much he was still working full time I think age is just a number if your still active why not have a child

Yes, you did. You said she 'lured him away'.

An absolute disgrace. Selfishness beyond belief. And I would judge harshly.

Omg that’s freaky!

My granddad was 57 when my mum was born, my granny was 38. My mum had the most incredible relationship with her dad and he was an amazing granddad to the grandchildren he met. Yes he died when we were all very young and my granny was a widow at 60. But we all adored him.

The fetus died not the woman.

Here is another case of a "stone baby" (lithopedion), where a fetus was non viable but had not been miscarried or absorbed by the woman's body. The fetus calcifies:

https://abcnews.go.com/Health/rare-40-year-stone-baby-found-elderly-woman/story?id=21206604

🤦🏻‍♀️ ok let me put it plainly, she’s now “working” in the adult industry and speciality is “home wrecking” and “cuckolding” so please, do continue to defend a woman who wouldn’t think twice about fucking up any marriage she could for a profit. She’s very active on Twitter wouldn’t take long to find the cam girl who parades her elderly partner like a gimp and retells their story over and over 😂 there’s feminism and women supporting women and then there’s just women who fail to understand that sometimes women are just as bad as men.

Your post does not make a lot of sense, OP.

Are you the 57 year old dad or the mum (and if the mum, is the baby already here and what age are you?)

57 is not too old for a newborn but 67 is definitely too old for a ten year old. And dealing with teenagers at 70??? Nope. Not good.

It depends a lot on the person. Some 50n y.o. are fit, healthy and no longer work the massive hours they did when they were younger, which means having more time and quality time to spend with their children.

Im in my early 50s and the thought of having a newborn fills me with dread! Not only that, but the energy and resources needed to bring up a human being into adulthood is not something a 60 something can find easily.
57 is too old yes.

My DF was 59 when his youngest child was born. He died suddenly when my half DB was 10. Within a year his DW had changed DB’s name to another man’s surname.

Anyone who says age is just a number either never did anything physically active when they were young, or doesn't try and do anything now so don't know how comparatively shit they would be at it.

The "you might get hit by a bus" argument is and always has been moronic.

A 57yo is just as likely to get hit by a bus tomorrow AND will DEFINITELY be in their 70s when their child turns 18.

The thought of a newborn at 57 and then parenting teens in your 70s, well that wouldn’t be something my partner and I would want to do.

I was in my 40s and DH in his 50s when our two were born (they are adopted but were very young babies when placed with us).
Now DS is 13 and DD is 10 and DH has retired and it is great. He's always there for them when they come home from school, they both love spending time with him, he's a very "fun" dad but not in a handless way - he organises lots of their activities, knows when everything is happening (especially things like DD once-a-month skateboarding club that I always lose track of). Despite DS having ADHD and DD possibly also, he's pretty good at "wrangling" them and has got more patient as he's got older, I'd say.

Mumsnet hates older parents and probably thinks I have one foot in the grave too. Everyone always thinks anything over 50 is arthritis and racism.

'It's selfish to have a child when you will probably be dead/incapable of supporting your child long before they reach adulthood.
Yes, anything can happen, you could get hit by a bus tomorrow. But that doesn't make it any less selfish to knowingly do that to a child.'

Well the mother would still be around as must be around 15+ years younger.
You have no idea of the person financial situation they could be leaving a fortune.

How many young guys are complete idiots and have kids. How many women have kids from several different fathers

It is a very judgemental attitude to have especially based on only one factor

Every week at least one person posts about the Dad naffing off and abandoning their children at a young age

God decides who gets together?

Not the individuals, but God?

Friends of mine had their 2 kids when she was in her 40s and he well into his 50s. Everybody (them included) recognised this wasn't ideal, but they'd been TTC for many years by then and both pregnancies were the result of IVF. The kids were very much wanted, and they're great parents. I'm in awe of their ability to keep up with their kids.

I don't get the "you won't be able to play football with them" type of arguments. I think that is very disrespectful to disabled people who have children. You don't have to be able to run about and play football or do physical exercise with your child to be a great parent. You can always take him to football where he can run about with others if you want.

My husband is 65. Never in a million years could he handle young kids 24/7. Seven years ago he could take on the world, now he needs an early night and his joints hurt.

We had our child when I was 33 and my husband 45. Baby/toddler was fine. He’s 57 and now seems a right old fart to have a 12 year old. He’s tired, deaf and can’t be arsed with the things kids/teens are into. They have hardly any relationship as it is. A new baby at his age doesn’t bear thinking about!

My exh dad had his second family at 63 and 65. Died at 67. 39 year age gap.

In the kids