What are your unpopular opinions that most mumsnetters don’t agree with?

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Curious to know what opinions you see constantly on mumsnet that you think “Am I the only person that disagrees with that!?”

I think it's normal to reserve a table in a cafe or coffee shop before ordering. I know this is a highly unpopular opinion on Mumsnet but as a disabled person,I'm not going to order my food and drink before making sure there is actually somewhere for me to sit first! I really don't want to be standing waiting for however long it takes a table to become free (which in my opinion,is usually never if you're waiting!)

You're not. Some of my friends got married young - as was the norm in those days - and have very happy stable marriages. One got married at 17 (her husband was 18), and had just turned 18 when her first child was born.

It's not about 'trans people'. It's about males. And not having males in female spaces. Do you understand that, at least?

That is actually easier to make friends down South, compared to up North, when new to an area.

That makes sense.

@harrogatemumofone Yes! I live in the North and overall I find it quite unfriendly and insular although I've made friends here.

It was much easier to make friends when I lived in London, although I think that's also cities vs smaller places.

You have no idea what you are talking about. I have been a home owner in the past, but a separation just at the time houses were beginning their ridiculous rises put paid to that. House prices would have to halve for me to be able to buy now, and that is never going to happen.

I don't actually want to buy now (well, not unless I win a large sum of money). People seem to forget that it's not just having a deposit and paying a mortgage, it's the insurance, rates (I'm not in the UK, only property owners pay those), repairs and maintenance. In my last flat there were some huge plumbing issues which would have had me despairing about paying for. My current flat had a leak which required the bath being removed and a shower (and new vanity) being installed - once again, how would I have paid for that?

I have friends who owned rental properties. They recently sold the last one - they would have liked to have sold earlier but didn't want to ask their tenants to move out. However the tenants did move out - and bought their own place, so it can be done, in spite of the "evil" landlords!

I joined MN in 2017. I was so annoyed (and bemused) by the feminist board's focus on trans people, changing rooms and 'things that never happened' that I intended to complain to MNHQ.

Very gradually, over the next three years or so, I changed my mind to a large extent. I don't think I'm bitter or hateful. But once you've seen the thick streak of misogyny running through the trans rights movement, you can't unsee it. The lovely ladies on Twitter who threatened to punch TERFS, kill TERFs and choke JKR with their lady dicks were merely the first examples I saw.

Are these individuals representative of trans people in general? No, of course not. Many trans people just want to get on with their lives and would hate to make anyone else feel uncomfortable or unsafe. But the misogynistic minority (who include many allies who aren't trans themselves) have fought hard to silence the women who disagree with them and had notable successes in law and in practice. I think that's wrong.

I had this done to me at 17. I have never got over it. I have just about managed to lead a successful life in some ways and I have overcome huge obstacles but it is in spite of, not because of, what happened to me.

That Americans are generally very nice, and just as smart and well educated as Brits.

In spades.

Nobody needs to have four children. Three is more than enough.

I agree 100%

Around 16 is good but I think GCSEs should be got rid of. Keep a general education until 16 then specialise afterwards - vocational for those inclined that way, academic for those inclined that way, and a dual option for those who are really motivated.

I would rather hear someone watching a video on their phones without ear phones in than have to hear peoples' loud, inane conversations. Honestly doesn't bother me at all and I'm always surprised at how angry people get. I accept I'm in the minority though.

Provided everyone is an adult, “power dynamics” in relationships are less related to age and more related to the personalities of the people involved.

Nine and ten are normal ages to start thinking more about the topic of sex - not about personally having sex, but about the topic in the abstract. Especially if kids are going through puberty on the earlier side.

It makes more sense to give gifts to new parents before the baby is born than it does to wait until after the baby is born.

Anything married women decide to do with their last names is fine.

Why three? Why not just one?

See you are living up to the spirit of the thread!

Rent money is dead money. You are paying someone else's mortgage or funding their lifestyle/pension. They aren't doing it for the goodness of their hearts, regardless of any anecdotes you have about your friends.

I have no problem with the capitalist principle of making profit, but I draw the line at making profit off of the most basic human necessity of shelter.

Sex on a first date can be a good thing.

So the government should regulate lenders that if someone can demonstrate say 12 months of rent payments and full bank statements, pass all the affordability etc that they are eligible for 100% mortgages at say 3x joint salary or 4x individual salary.

Enough to get renters off the cycle of renting (if they want), but not enough to create another property bubble.

You support forced birth as a punishment for "unplanned pregnancy"?

I can't speak for that poster but I certainly do.

Do you realise that migration has dropped by half due to the last governments policies?

That women ( and men) who haven’t had to work full time in a stressful job whilst going through the menopause can fuck off.
Stop criticising women who have bad symptoms whilst having to deal with a full time demanding job. Often face to face with the public or other colleagues.
Well done you for not having any symptoms and sailing through it. All the while whilst being able to sit on your arse in the comfort of your own home, doing fuck all.
Some of us don’t have that luxury. Some women have to chair important meetings, dressed in professional clothing whilst suffering from menopausal brain fog and sweating to death.
Be thankful you didn’t have to work until you are 67.

Meet my daughter.