What are your unpopular opinions that most mumsnetters don’t agree with?

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Curious to know what opinions you see constantly on mumsnet that you think “Am I the only person that disagrees with that!?”

Those that insist that raising children is easy either have low standards or have somehow outsourced the majority of it and therefore don't really know what it entails.

How is it incorrect? Do you know something the WHO doesnt?

But we don’t pin down anorexics and force feed them. We may try to prevent a teenager throwing themselves over a cliff but would not restrain and restrict them to ensure they don’t. But most people would support an adult opting for euthanasia.

And none of these examples work as the individual is making a choice that harms them. In the case of a woman being restricted from accessing a termination then you are making a choice that harms her.

That’s not the same.

What point? That you've formed an opinion and decided that it's fact?

Or else their skill set naturally lends itself towards parenting and they're lucky enough to have healthy and relatively "easy" dc?

It is incorrect to say that 'fed is best' isn't true. If you can't breastfeed, then of course you have to use formula. I don't understand how that is even a question.

You might find that an aging population is the main factor that drives increasing healthcare costs. Maybe the NHS isn't the right model for an aging society but it's not because people go to the GP for anxiety.

That's EXACTLY what we do with anorexics if needed. We do not let people with anorexia just starve themselves to death.

@Chaddi
As I said above, you don’t actually care about the children then. You’d rather they had a childhood of misery and poorer outcomes in adulthood, than not exist at all. I find that quite abhorrent.

I'm a dog owner and she licks my face and sometimes sleeps on my bed. She comes to dog friendly pubs etc where she behaves impeccably.

I don't order people to take off their shoes in my house.

I'm happy for workmen or delivery drivers to use my toilet, even if it's for a poo. It's what it's for, we all do it, and if needed a splash of bleach and some air freshener and Bob's your uncle.

I'm of the 'a few germs are good for you' brigade, even during the pandemic, and am not into cleaning my shopping before it comes into the house. A ridiculous one I read here recently involved wearing socks at night. They had to be clean socks which were then changed in the morning in case (shock horror) some bacteria or germs were introduced into the bed.

I'm not a parent, but I've seen some very precious parents here. For example the maternal grandparents will be there during and straight after the birth, but the paternal ones aren't allowed to see their grandchild for 3-4 weeks after. I can understand wanting your mum for support, but to me it's cruel to deny the father's family an opportunity to see the newborn.

I'm happy these kids are alive and are not dead

What IS our 'culture' when you get right down to it? A bastardised version of a middle-Eastern religion and a handful of 'ancient' pagan ideas,a lot of which were actually invented by Victorians who wanted a bit more romance and mystery.

Even England's patron saint is a generic 'name picked out of a hat' who never even came here and is the patron saint of a fair few other countries.

Scotland, Wales and Ireland have rather more cultural heritage than the English (and they aren't quite so inclined to mock the folk music/dancing that remains, either).

People's views on the performing of the nativity baffle me. A story about a middle-Eastern couple fleeing from their home, looking for shelter...how does anyone not see the irony. The man we worship as the son of God wasn't from these parts. Christmas isn't even when he was born, but despite that, we hang on to this as a piece of 'our' culture. And despite the rumours and outrage, the only time Christmas ever got banned was by a puritanical Englishman.

We have spent centuries invading other people's land and bringing back bits of the culture we like, whilst stamping it out in every country we colonised.

Frankly, on the subject of different cultures mixing, we are the biggest hypocrites going. We don't do integration ourselves, but by golly we expect everybody else to.

The fact you’d prefer a child, many children, to live a life of misery - either in the care system or with a parent who didn’t want them, possibly being abused - rather than aborted as a clump of cells, is absolutely abhorrent.

No one says it is easy but it is still the right choice for some people even if it may be difficult.

The vast majority of abortions also happen within the first 12 weeks. Thumb sucking or not, a foetus can’t survive without the woman’s body and it is her body, she comes first.

Completely agree

Yes.

Are there benefits to being a parent? Especially for someone who doesn't want a child ( whether it be at that point or forever)

You can leave your shoes on in my house and the world won't end

Of course I care about the children. First I'd rather them be alive. Then I support helping them have a better quality of life. You can't have a quality of life if you don't exist.

I'm not quite sure where to start with this...
Hospital treatment for severe anorexia involves force feeding in hospital.
Most people would definitely restrain someone who was about to jump off a cliff.
And many people disagree with euthanasia.
In some cases, restricting an abortion may result in harm to a woman, but allowing an abortion definitely results in the death of a baby and may also harm a woman.

Just because I don't want trans women in women's toilets, doesn't mean I hate trans people.

99% of blended family problems all come down to a DH problem.

That for a large swathe of teenagers, staying in school past the age of 14 is educationally pointless. The government should re-introduce technical/vocational colleges for these teens.

I've thought of another. Every landlord should be shot because they're preventing people owning a house. That's ridiculous. Landlords are offering a service. There will always be a need for privately rented accommodation. Young people leaving home, students, etc. I'm living in privately rented atm as I'm relocating from London to Somerset. Someone one suggested here all private tenants should stop paying rent and/or smash their house up. Why the hell would I do that? It's not my forever home but perfectly suitable for now and in good condition. Much better than being homeless.

And on the subject of housing....council/HA property. Not everyone in them is on benefits, many work and pay their rent themselves. I've been there myself, both as a young child and as an adult but on both occasions ended up in privately owned accommodation (yes were in rented currently but that's temporary, we sold our last house and will be buying again). They should be seen as homes for life, people shouldn't be forced out of them because they got a promotion at work and can now buy. Also when people in social housing can afford to buy, it should be on the open market so leaving their council tenancy free for someone else. There used to be 'grants to vacate' whereby councils could offer money to tenants to help them buy elsewhere which IMHO is a much better option than right to buy.

The NHS should still offer services such as ear syringing or alternatives, podiatry such as ingrowing toenails or verruca removal instead of basically privatising these services.

People should use common sense and 'be kind'. I got slated a couple of years back because having suffered a fractured shoulder I sat on a priority need seat on the bus. I should have left it for someone more needy. It didn't matter that I couldn't balance properly and was at high risk of falling and/or causing further damage to my arm, which could have meant a protracted recovery possibly requiring surgery. That didn't matter, apparently.

My unpopular opinion- that all women should have a choice of having an abortion regardless of reason.
Noone should have a say on what goes on with other women's lives, we are not in their shoes, we wont be living or helping them with their struggles. Its easy for pro life people to say abortion is murder but they are not the ones who would be dealing with unwanted children or families who are poor enough as it is and realise they cant have another without impacting their other children massively.
Children should only be brought into the world when they are wanted and parent/s have the resources and time available to support them.
Also religion says that women should not have abortions unless their life is at risk but what about if the quality of their lives are at risk? What if carrying another child causes them to have significant birth injuries that would cause pain that is not life threatening, but severe enough to impact them in every aspect of their lives?
Abortion is never black and white.

Now my DS and his friends all had part time jobs at 16/17 DS got a job in McDonald's in 2020 in between lockdowns.
He paid for some of his driving lessons and I paid for others. Passed test at 18 but mainly due to wait for instructor spaces