What are your unpopular opinions that most mumsnetters don’t agree with?

[Rosebush1245]

Curious to know what opinions you see constantly on mumsnet that you think “Am I the only person that disagrees with that!?”

This is true of a lot if not all of the 'gender critical' movement. The fact that they are happy to pal around with the likes of Matt Walsh says it all. And some of them were pro Trump just because he doesn't agree with trans people living as their chosen gender. If you are pro Trump, you aren't pro woman. Period.

Perimenopause doesn't exist. So sick of seeing it on here, and why have I only heard of this within the last few years?! Every time I see or hear that word all I can think of is Nando's perinaise.....

Bit of a derail but thank you for saying this. I am an early 50s woman and my entire peer group seems to have gone nuts for menopause marketing - workshops, blood tests, HRT, support groups. I have no idea if I am actually in menopause or what I am supposed to do about it. All I know is I have spent my entire life so far having to do homework and reading up on having a female body (periods, contraception, conception, breastfeeding, childbirth, smear tests etc) and I'm just fucking done with the effort. It's gonna happen regardless of whether I listen to a Davina McCall podcast or read a book about hormones so just let it.

"There needs to be massive expansion of funding for special schools, facilities , and residential homes for disabled children and adults. Inclusive education has not worked and impacts not only the affected families but fellow pupils and the wider community ( noise nuisance for neighbours from profoundly disabled children for example.)"

Thankfully it is unpopular opinion because my profoundly disabled son lives in a supported living in an ordinary home in an ordinary street in the community. There is a big move away from residential homes for people with a learning disability and this is going to continue. We are not going back into the past

People who don't who don't wish to live near those with a learning disability can choose to live away from everyone else if they wish.

Haha while I absolutely think peri menopause is real, I see what you mean

You’re only in menopause once you have not had a period for 12 months.

Perimenopause is much earlier. I am in perimenopause but still have my periods.

They don’t actually care about the babies, either. Because ensuring babies are born to parents who don’t want them, or cannot look after them well enough, or ending up in the care system isn’t a life I’d choose for any child. They don’t seem to mind, though.

That fed is best is nonsense formula mums tell themselves to feel better. I know this is unpopular but everyone knows breastfeeding is natural and superior to formula. ducks head

Not everybody has the same perimenopause symptoms. Just as not everybody has the same experience with menstruation and menopause.

The following is just a reframing of the issues, not necessarily my actual opinion.

@Arraminta

It's not about the right to have a child but about fixing a broken body. A healthy male and female can produce a baby together. When they can't, it shows something has gone wrong, so the NHS would try to fix it same as they would any other issue.

@CoraTo

The counter argument for spanking is that it's almost impossible to injure someone when spanking their behind, whereas a slap to the face can easily cause accidental injury, eg if a finger caught the eye.

A preterm baby is completely dependent on others for its survival, but its not lawful or moral to kill one

Yep I can’t afford a home….and I don’t think commercial landlords and landlords with multiple properties who can price me out help that.

How on earth is 'fed is best' nonsense? I can't stand BFing nazis, it is so stupid and harmful. Breast may be optimal, but not every woman wants to or can breastfeed. It is absurd to say otherwise.

Fed is best isn't nonsense and breastfeeding isn't superior FFS. I never even tried to BF, didn't want to. Am I somehow inferior? No. Is my baby less healthy? No.

It absolutely is a reason but using it as an excuse to sit on your arse and not work towards boundries in ND children that really can have boundries is doing those children a dis service. My Grandson is Autistic his mother allows him to do as he pleases because it means she doesn't have to make an effort. Amazingly when he stays with us he knows the line and is a completely different child. A friend has a severely disabled child with Autism, he is nearly 40 years old and was diagnosed before the world knew about autism. She raised him to be independent and he is. Nobody ever thought it would be possible that he would he would walk but he does, nobody thought he would talk but he does, ok you need to know him to understand him when he is really tired but he can talk, nobody thought he would go to school but he did and nobody thought he would live away from his parents but he does. Yes it has been bloody hard but his Mum refused to allow anything to be an excuse. For a bay whose parents were told by the medical profession "it was best just to let him go" He and his parents have achieved so much simply because the refused to accept excuses.

What are your symptoms of 'perimenopause'?

And that substantiates my point.

Rather than them not existing. Yes.

How so? Your point makes no sense at all.

6 Wealth inequality isn't an issue at all. As long as everyone can afford basics, it doesn't matter that some can buy private jets and yachts. And if there are those who can't afford basics that's the issue we must solve.

Similarly, speaking of X percentage of 'the' wealth being owned by the top X percent is disingenuous. There's no such thing as 'the' wealth. It's not a zero sum game, a fixed pie that has to be divided among the population. Any time someone produces a good or service that others are willing to pay for, they've just created more wealth.

As you say - her body, her choice - until there is another body inside her.
And aren't there are other times when society has a responsibility to tell others what to do with their bodies? You wouldn't stand back and watch an anorexic starve herself to death, would you? Or watch a teenager leap off a cliff? As a society, we need to protect our most vulnerable members.
I know a very disabled 6ft young man - wheelchair bound, doubly incontinent, fed by peg, non verbal and totally dependent on his parents and carers for survival in every area of his life. He's one of the most vulnerable in society with no hope of ever being able to function independently. Once we start accepting that, to be a valuable member of society you need to be able to protect yourself and function unaided, there will be no barriers to killing the very old and disabled.

I never said it was a popular opinion....

Mine were around their first birthday when getting teeth

Stop arguing about abortions and perimenopause! I want to read new posts that answer the OP’s question!

That’s not about the woman’s body so is completely irrelevant.

It's isn't just unpopular, it is objectively incorrect, which is why you're getting pushback on it.