To think uninviting a child to a party is exceedingly rude

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My child (7 years old)got a party invite via a WhatsApp group. I asked him if he wanted to come, he did, and I replied saying he would love to come on the group. So far, so normal.

I then was removed from the group, and received a message to say that his invite was a mistake.

AIBU to think regardless of mistakes, you don't uninvite? My child has been in nursery/school with this child for years, they play together, and it's not a small party either, or one where numbers are critical or pay per head (just a party at home, which is also fine, and I know they have a good size home and garden).

I don't care that he isn't invited, just that he has been invited, when he is aware of the invite now. He will now be hearing kids talking about the party at school, thinking he is going, but not able to go.

My mistake, I apologise. Should I be burned at the stake or called evil, selfish, inconsiderate, horrible over a silly mistake on a non issue. Point proven...

I'm actually talking to the many people who are over reacting about this and actually should be more concerned about encouraging some resilience in their children rather than attacking some unknown person they don't know and have no information on.

So, you've blocked her, which probably means your son has lost a friend he played with at school. Was there really no other way you adults could have fixed this mistake, so it didn't have to cost your child a friendship?

Nope. Just someone who thinks op is making a massive deal out this and needs to deal with it.

Bordering on cruel - she’s a dumb and insensitive woman. Take your son somewhere nice without mentioning the party ever again.

Hooray 🥳!!!!!!

Well done!

You’ve mastered it!

Now work on the random upper case letters amongst your random posts?

TooGoodToGoto

"I’d expect the invitation to stand, that’s what I’d expect."

As would any other decent person.

They can still play at school. He hasn't lost a friend. It's clear that playing outside of school won't happen based on her messages so far. If she wanted to invite him to a playdate instead she could have done.

Kids pick up on all sorts- my 7 year old absolutely does know what day of the week it is. It is hurtful for a 7 year old to know and think he's going to a party then uninvited- kids could all be talking about it at school and he'd wonder why he did get to go in the end. I've seen this exact thing happen in my child's class- not where an invite is rescinded but where a parent couldn't be bothered to take the child at the last minute and he was devastated on the Monday when all his friends were talking about it and he'd missed it.

You might think that but the parent clearly has other ideas. You do understand people have different ways of thinking and different expectations?

Agreed 👍

But sadly a limited amount, currently 2% and I think we know who both of those are, don’t have the same morals.

Just out of interest did you let her reply before you blocked her?

How have I made a big deal? I have just called out her behaviour as rude, after confirming that it indeed is! (Vast majority here have agreed)

Unsurprisingly and thankfully they are in the minority.

Which this thread shows.

Yes, and there was no insight. Still saying it was 'just a mistake'.

The bonkers thing is she is a teacher!

Exactly. If her child is popular this could cause issues for the ops child.

She'll likely encourage her son to focus on other friends, which seems to be the advice given on here when mothers block each other.

FWIW, she shouldn't have uninvited him. I just think blocking is an overreaction.

Certainly I have, we all do, the difference the more socially skilled and emotionally intelligent among us is to have the sense not to compound it by making a further, worse mistake.

She was incredibly rude but I do think blocking her is a bit childish considering your children are friends. It’s not going to help anything at all is it?

I couldn't care less what she does now. She clearly isn't a person with morals. If she had cared about how my child felt she could have kept the invite, or proposed a playdate instead.

My son has plenty of other friends. I don't think she can control the playground anyway.

How could numbers be that constrained in your own garden?

Yes they do. Correct ones and incorrect ones. There's no grey area here.

wow, not just rude, but really cruel. I would never interact with that person again

That's fine, then.

2% of us are evil personified? That's a shame.

Hopefully there'll be some instant karma for you OP.

I don't see how engaging with her any further will help either. It's clear there will never be a playdate now.

I just can't be bothered with people like her in my life.