To think uninviting a child to a party is exceedingly rude

[Exaltedmalteaser]

My child (7 years old)got a party invite via a WhatsApp group. I asked him if he wanted to come, he did, and I replied saying he would love to come on the group. So far, so normal.

I then was removed from the group, and received a message to say that his invite was a mistake.

AIBU to think regardless of mistakes, you don't uninvite? My child has been in nursery/school with this child for years, they play together, and it's not a small party either, or one where numbers are critical or pay per head (just a party at home, which is also fine, and I know they have a good size home and garden).

I don't care that he isn't invited, just that he has been invited, when he is aware of the invite now. He will now be hearing kids talking about the party at school, thinking he is going, but not able to go.

Nope but you can call them out on it.

I have never heard of that and I have 5 kids. I accidentally invited the wrong child once, I wouldn’t have dreamed of uninviting them. There has to be a very strong reason why she did that, or she is completely clueless.

No one is saying it wasn't "rude", but it was a mistake.

The over-reaction, calling her out, blocking her? Is it really necessary?
You say you have other children, surely it's not the first time you are faced by rude behaviour from another parent. You can think they are rude or whatever, but going on a war path about it? You blocking someone only affects you, no one else actually care. At most, you are doing her a favour.

I don't know what her reasoning was when she messaged you immediately when you replied and she realised your child was invited by mistake - but it cannot be anything good, can it.

A place with number? she would have just explained (mistake, numbers strictly capped, already have the number of guests..). At home when it doesn't matter?
Obviously there's a reason.

if it's not the child, it's the parent. It's not uncommon to tell kids to stay away from some kids because the parents are a known nightmare and who has time for that.

Think you did everything right OP. You've made it very clear where she stands with you now. Hats off to you! I'm not sure I would be that brave.

it's not brave, it's childish.

We would all have loved to tell some other parents what we think of them, especially in Primary school, we all could. It's just not necessary, you move on and ignore them.

You sound really annoyed. Are you okay love? When you try and be pedantic you know you are losing a fight 😂 so immature.

You seem very invested in this thread, lots of arguing with posters. All quite strange…for someone who is not “angry”.

You really are coming across as irate and angry.

I wouldn’t be describing you as calm, unfazed or laidback for sure.

immature … oh lovely that’s very silly now!

No, you call out bad behaviour in the hope that they will
learn and think twice before they do it again.

No one needs to be a doormat to that type of behaviour.

Op said herself she was rude to her. Look back at the comments she made. Can you not read?

I agree with calling it out however resilience can still be built alongside. Both are life skills.

Maybe read the thread properly before commenting?

Depends how quickly she uninvited him

@ExaltedmalteaserYANBU.

Had similar but was the party mum. DS wanted a big unstructured party with him and friends playing football in the garden plus takeaway pizza and cake.

One invite ended up with a child not on his list but with a similar name who accepted (about 4 had similar names). I got an upset text from mum of friend who should have been invited asking why he was excluded.

All easily resolved for the cost of an extra Dominoes pizza and and email to explain to the mum of friend that should have been invited that it was an embarrassing oversight (didn’t mention the other child as I didn’t want them to know via gossip they were never on the guest list) that they were always invited and given the volume of invites Id just missed one by accident given the number of variations of (example) Christopher/Chris/Kris/Kit/Toph.

All was well. Never even occurred I’d disinvite the child who got the invitation by mistake…..and good thing too as they had a fab time at the party, became close friends and now as adults are best friends.

Arseholes!

You think the host is bothered? She wouldn't have cancelled the invitation, she didn't have to by the sound of it.

Now everyone will know that someone is reacting very aggressively, blocking and making a big fuss. Well done.

It started by the host being rude, now it's the OP who sounds .. difficult. How does that help?

Are you the other mum?

Her son doesn't want your son at his party in his house. Maybe your son in too popular, bossy, disruptive, destructive wins everything or is mean/ hurts hers. I suspect it's something negative as she's tried to brush it off as a mistake without having to spell it out to you.

Whatever it is we don't know. Would you really want your son to have an invite to somewhere where he isn't wanted, out of politeness?

Send a birthday card that explodes with glitter when you open it.

Nasty cheeky fucker will be hoovering it up for weeks.

And I have just re-read all the OP's posts to make sure that I was correct.

You forgot to add 'in your opinion'. Weird you try to make out that your opinion is some sort of fact.

😂 best idea yet!

Oh dear you’ve now started stalking my other posts, and commenting on them. Now that is most definitely a sign of being way over invested.

Take a step away from MN.

Very very odd behaviour, consider why you’re that bothered.

I haven't witnessed that much drama in Primary school, and I know what many parents thought, and definitively my friends.

So I assure you, people do not expressively tell others what they think of them. Neither do the teachers 😂