To be put off a man because he was asleep during the day?

[PeptoDismal]

Been on a few dates with a bloke. He sent me a message yesterday at 2pm asking what I was upto, I returned the question and he said “I’ve just woke up lol”. At 2pm?? He’d been up in the day earlier as he’d messaged me at 10am saying he was off to shop. How lazy - don’t get me wrong I’m not bursting with energy either but I at least stay awake during the day. It’s really put me off

I wouldn’t like it either. Rightly or wrongly I’d probably view him as lazy, which is highly unattractive to me. So if he was ‘knackered’ through his part time job on a regular basis I’d bin him off as I’m a fairly active person who would be annoyed by someone snoozing while I’m doing household tasks or working.
Other people will be fine with him ‘napping’, I’d let him go and find one of them.

oh i love a nap in the afternoon when im not working. how is that lazy?

My DP has a 1-2 hour nap every day. If is he WFH at my house, I nap with him.

You can be put off a man for any reason and no one is owed a relationship. But this reason does seem petty. And napping does not mean someone is lazy. We all need a little down time, and that can take the form of sleep. There are no medals for staying awake when your body wants sleep.

not more lazy than being on MN 😂

and that would obviously include the OP...

There’s no saving you. Quit now and join a nunnery.

Unnecessary to point out that someone claiming to be professor can't spell?

Yes its quite funny and ironic when posters go on about people being lazy or unproductive or (in another thread) on their phone during work time and all these posters are on MN! So is it better or worse to spend half an hour (or an hour) napping or scrolling mindlessly on MN etc on your phone?

@Pluvia So it would seem! I've also left the car keys in the fridge today 😳😂

To be fair I had spelled it wrong, I probably need another nap to recharge!

My father was the same when we were teens because he saw no reason for us to have lie-ins or naps because we were young and didn’t work at the time, yet he would be “resting his eyes” or doze off while listening to sports in the evenings and on the weekends.

My mother complains about his napping now when they visit us (they live in the States and it’s a 4.5 hour drive to the airport for them) because he naps at our home yet she also does too and takes naps during the day at home and has done so for years due to shift work.

It’s ok for them because of xyz but not for us. 🙄

There loads of reasons to need/want a nap. Might not have slept well the night before. Might have been up super early. Or had a particularly late night. Or a long day at work the day before. Might be unwell or coming down with something. Does he work? Not working and just sitting about all day doing nothing would definitely be a deal breaker for me, but not having a wee nap on your day off.

I have a rest on my bed every day due to my back problems and sometimes I will fall to sleep. Don’t really see the big deal.

Think your attitude here is the reason your single hah

Everyone is aloud a little snooze you don't know if he's had a really bad night's sleep due to neighbours or anxiety or over thinking and just needed a nap boost wait till you get older a nap is great I have underactive thyroid so am exhausted most of the time. But if that puts you of ypur looking for a needle in a haystack of a boyfriend

I totally agree with you.
Unless someone is ill, have a health condition or a particular bad night's sleep, there's no need to have a nap in the day.

Is this why you’re single?
What a strange thing to be put off by. My husband and I loved an afternoon nap before we had kids! Can only dream of them of them now!

I work nights. Love a nap once I’ve took the kids to school

Now I bloody love an afternoon nanny nap. It started when my kids were babies and I still do it now if the opportunity arises, but, I would never have one at the expense of missing out on something, I set an alarm for an hour at most if I’ve got a spare hour. But it would never interfere with life.

I think as a one off here and there its fine, I do it myself if iv had a busy weekend. Or a bad nights sleep with the kids. Or feeling unwell.
But every day as part of a routine, I cant get on board with that. If it would affect going out and making plans then no thanks. I think YABU if you've just judged him based on one nap. YANBU if he says its a regular thing (unless it's a medical issue).

Thing is she is basing her ‘ick’ on one solitary nap with no backstory at all. I can’t help but feel she wasn’t that keen on him in the first place for one isolated nap to be such a deal breaker.

I bloody loved a nap. I have a child now so no such luck but me and my husband used to practically schedule naps in when we didn't have a child 😂 it's a wonderful pastime.

There’s no better feeling than that lovely dropping off to sleep sensation when you have an afternoon slump. I swear I have a smile on my face in that moment.

I’ve had a couple of years of interrupted sleep due to painful arthritis, so often have the odd nap in the afternoon.

I'm running on fumes this week and had I been at home today I would absolutely have had an afternoon nap.

Yes there is, it’s been shown that mid-afternoon naps are beneficial for brain health. UCL have done studies on it, unless of course you are more knowledgeable than UCL researchers?